Alfie
01-09-2008, 10:21 PM
For a long time, I have wanted to move out with my boyfriend. We have been together for over 4 years now, and it seems like it's been the right time for a long time. I also feel that at 21, I should start seeking to have an independant lifestyle. I think it's because my brothers continue to expect support from my parents at 22 and 30, and I really hate it. I want to be my own person, and really enjoy living my own life. Another reason is also because my home life here has been very unpredictable in the last... hmmm 7 years or so now. My brother will cause chaos to the household, even when he doesn't "live" at home. It has screwed up my life so many times, and I just want to have a predictable lifestyle, knowing that he isn't able to come into my home, get pissed off his face, smoke pot and cause a scene. Finally he wouldn't have access to my personal space.
The only thing that has been stopping me has been finances. I have never considered myself to be earning enough to be able to afford to move out, and my partner makes about AUD$10 an hour.
This is where it gets exciting (for me anyway). My parents a few months back offered to pay $70 of our rent if we wanted to move out. (I guess that means that I wont be as independant as I thought :P) I have always thought that the $70 would be great, but wouldn't be enough to allow me to afford to leave home.
However, I happened to go on the internet looking for rentals, which I do once in a while when I'm stuck on the dream to leave home. And what did I find there but a unit for $180 per week. Considering the rentals we have had a look at online have been around the $250 mark, this is an increadibly cheap prospect. It would mean that rent for us would only be $55 each!
I messaged my boyfriend about it last night, and he said that we'll talk about it when he finishes work today. He has told me not to get too excited, but it seems to me that moving out is becomming more and more of a possibility. Every time we talk about it (periodically), it seems to be a goal I can reach more easily.
And so here are the pros of moving out:
-I no longer have to worry about not having a predictable home life.
-My trip to University would be cut in half at least, from a over 1hr trip (not including waiting time), to a 30 minute trip (including waiting time).
-I will be living with someone who will support me through university, and through the ups and downs of everyday life.
-I will be living with someone I can support through his life, and through anything that may pop up. He also happens to be my best friend, and the only person I could ever consider living with.
-I would start to live a healthy lifestyle because of his support. At the moment, I don't eat very well. I am lazy, I have a sweet tooth, and I don't have the encouragement I need. I would eat well, and also begin to exercise. It is a joint goal of ours, and so we would have eachother to encourage.
I calculated all the possible costs which I think we could oncurr during a week, and I found that I would only have to work 15 hrs week in order to afford to move out! With uni, it isn't too much of a commitment. And the wages aren't including public holidays, nor Sundays. With the extra money, I could save for when I can't work many shifts a week.
The only issue I have is that my dad works overseas, so my mum and I live together. I don't know if my brother has permanently moved in, but if so, I don't know how comforting it would be for my mum. I really don't want to make her lonely, and I want to ensure that she enjoys her life. It seems like many things in my family have become my responsibility, and I have added this to the list. I think I have to just ignore this, and just do what makes me happy. Afterall, surely a 54year old woman is responsible for her own happiness?
Sorry about the long post, but any advice would be fantastic. I know this is still just a pipedream, but I can see that my life would improve so much if my dream became a reality. I guess I didn't take my boyfriend's advice, turns out I'm pretty excited about the prospect.
The only thing that has been stopping me has been finances. I have never considered myself to be earning enough to be able to afford to move out, and my partner makes about AUD$10 an hour.
This is where it gets exciting (for me anyway). My parents a few months back offered to pay $70 of our rent if we wanted to move out. (I guess that means that I wont be as independant as I thought :P) I have always thought that the $70 would be great, but wouldn't be enough to allow me to afford to leave home.
However, I happened to go on the internet looking for rentals, which I do once in a while when I'm stuck on the dream to leave home. And what did I find there but a unit for $180 per week. Considering the rentals we have had a look at online have been around the $250 mark, this is an increadibly cheap prospect. It would mean that rent for us would only be $55 each!
I messaged my boyfriend about it last night, and he said that we'll talk about it when he finishes work today. He has told me not to get too excited, but it seems to me that moving out is becomming more and more of a possibility. Every time we talk about it (periodically), it seems to be a goal I can reach more easily.
And so here are the pros of moving out:
-I no longer have to worry about not having a predictable home life.
-My trip to University would be cut in half at least, from a over 1hr trip (not including waiting time), to a 30 minute trip (including waiting time).
-I will be living with someone who will support me through university, and through the ups and downs of everyday life.
-I will be living with someone I can support through his life, and through anything that may pop up. He also happens to be my best friend, and the only person I could ever consider living with.
-I would start to live a healthy lifestyle because of his support. At the moment, I don't eat very well. I am lazy, I have a sweet tooth, and I don't have the encouragement I need. I would eat well, and also begin to exercise. It is a joint goal of ours, and so we would have eachother to encourage.
I calculated all the possible costs which I think we could oncurr during a week, and I found that I would only have to work 15 hrs week in order to afford to move out! With uni, it isn't too much of a commitment. And the wages aren't including public holidays, nor Sundays. With the extra money, I could save for when I can't work many shifts a week.
The only issue I have is that my dad works overseas, so my mum and I live together. I don't know if my brother has permanently moved in, but if so, I don't know how comforting it would be for my mum. I really don't want to make her lonely, and I want to ensure that she enjoys her life. It seems like many things in my family have become my responsibility, and I have added this to the list. I think I have to just ignore this, and just do what makes me happy. Afterall, surely a 54year old woman is responsible for her own happiness?
Sorry about the long post, but any advice would be fantastic. I know this is still just a pipedream, but I can see that my life would improve so much if my dream became a reality. I guess I didn't take my boyfriend's advice, turns out I'm pretty excited about the prospect.