Oh my Dog... WTF is your problem???? (Warnings: Ranty/Language/LONG)

[NotSoInnocent]

:rant::rant::rant:

Dear Neighbor,

We live in a small apartment complex. We're talking 6 apartments in the entire building and only 4 are being rented... that's our complex. You live right next door to me.

We both have children. I'll admit that I have twice as many as you, but that doesn't really matter.

You receive Section 8, Foodstamps, WIC, TANF, and child support. You basically have more money and resources than I do. I get WIC and Foodstamps... and nothing else. Because, after all, I'm not a single minority.

I have a vehicle. You don't.

I have a significant other. You don't.

I get this. Really, I do. I understand that you're an "impoverished minority" and that you need help with things. That's why I don't really mind helping you out when I can. I help out everyone if I'm able to.

I take your kid to school because "It's too cold and I don't want my precious to walk" (It's 65 degrees, lady. That isn't cold! Put a jacket and hat on your kid. It'll be FINE!)... even though my 8 y/o kid walks all by herself both ways. I don't even ask for gas money. The school is less than half a mile away.

I run down to the corner store for you so that you don't have to walk. Even though the exercise would probably do you a lot of good. (You're 5'5" and weigh over 200 pounds. LOSE SOME WEIGHT!)

When you run out of food I give you some of what I have. Even though I have 6 people in my family and you only have 3... one of whom doesn't eat anything but formula yet.

I don't say anything when you run across the street to chat with your crack addicted friends... even when you leave the baby by himself for the 15-30 minutes that you're gone. In fact, I'll even go over to check on him every couple of minutes for you.

I don't complain when you have loud parties, with tons of people, almost every night of the week where you get so drunk that you lose your wallet... at your own house.

I don't look down on you when you've spent too much on booze/cigs/whatever to get your baby diapers or formula. Hell, I'll give you some of ours, if I can.

In fact... I don't really care what you do, so long as your not beating your kids or leaving them alone for hours on end.

So when I ask you to pop in to check on my kids while I run to the corner store for something, which would only take me, at most, 10 minutes... PLEASE don't get all huffy and say crap about how my kids are too young to be left alone like that.
:wtf:
Did you not just hear me asking you to keep an eye on them?? They won't be alone! And two of them were sleeping anyways!

You could do the SAME THING THAT I DO FOR YOU! You know... get up off your fat fucking ass and actually go outside, take 6 steps to my door, open it... AND CHECK ON THE KIDS!

You don't even have to go all the way inside my place. After all, I know how much my lazy cats scare you. Just call out and ask the 5 y/o if everything is O.K. It's not a big deal, really.

Then, this morning, my oldest is crying because I wouldn't give her money for treats in class and I told her to get going or she was going to be late. I heard your door open and saw you poke your head out then slam your door closed. So it's not hard to figure out what happened...

At 7am I had a police officer come to my door. Apparently there had been a report of child abuse.
:pissed:
WHAT????

Yeah. I'm not going to figure out that it was you, when you were the only one there.:rolleyes:

I got to explain the incident with my eldest to the nice officer. He was sort of sweet, even though he had to ask me about the other kids too.

The 5 y/o and the baby were still sleeping and the 2 y/o was watching TV with me.

Oh yeah... lots of child abuse going on right there. :rolleyes:

You know what? I think, from now on, I'll just keep to myself.

No more rides for your kid. Get your crack-head friend to drive her.

No more food delivered to your door. Use your own fucking money.

No more driving to the store for your cigs/diapers/whatever it is this time. Get off your fat ass and do it yourself.

No more checking on your kid when you "run across the street for a minute". You want him taken care of? Take him with you, you lazy bitch.

Don't ask me for anything. I'll deal with keeping an eye on my kids myself.

Fuck off,
Your (ex)Helpful Neighbor

P.S. The next time you ring my fucking doorbell 20 times in a row because I'm not getting there fast enough when you want something from me... I'll throw one of my cats at you. Maybe the one that likes to claw faces. She'll enjoy the experience and it might get you to leave me the fuck alone.

[Greenday]

*Note to self, do NOT piss NotSoInnocent off*

What a lazy S.O.B.!

[Talon]

Be kind to those who deserve it. Those who think kindness=weakness: deploy the ultimate weapon, the cat launcher. :devil:

[blas87]

Don't let her take advantage of you anymore, babe.

Sometimes you have to not be a bleeding heart, quit relating to others, and just look out for yourself and your own family.

Just focus on doing the best you can for your family.

[LadyBarbossa]

You know what? I think, from now on, I'll just keep to myself.



You know what? This wenchie thinks that's a most excellent idea ;)

Seriously, it sounds like you've already been way more hospitable than was ever, ever necessary with this woman.

[Caveat Emptor]

If she asks why you're not helping her fat a$$, answer "Next time, don't bite the hand that feeds you. Child abuse my a$$!"

(from the title, I thought this was going to be another puking dog story! :p )

[Ljt09863]

No more checking on your kid when you "run across the street for a minute". You want him taken care of? Take him with you, you lazy bitch.

next time you see her doing this, ask her if there is anybody watching the baby, and when she says no, call the cops.

a baby should not be left alone. i could never imagine running across the street for 15 minutes and leaving my baby in the house alone.....

i don't recommend calling the cops often, but i think it is needed in this

[NotSoInnocent]

*Note to self, do NOT piss NotSoInnocent off*
I don't get mad often.... but when I do, I don't hold back.:devil:
deploy the ultimate weapon, the cat launcher. :devil:
I love my cats. They are awesomeness personified. One's an old man who doesn't take crap from anyone. One's a masochistic kitty who loves to be spanked. The other is a kitten who enjoys being tied up.

Strange kitties... but so cool.
Just focus on doing the best you can for your family.
That's the plan.
next time you see her doing this, ask her if there is anybody watching the baby, and when she says no, call the cops.

a baby should not be left alone. i could never imagine running across the street for 15 minutes and leaving my baby in the house alone.....

i don't recommend calling the cops often, but i think it is needed in this
I told her that I'd be doing that. She started spouting off about calling CPS on me because my house is "dirty". Yeah. I'm moving at the end of the month. Everything is being packed, so it's not the best it's ever looked... but it's still pretty decent.

[Melxb]

You do whatever you have to do, but don't let this "woman" back in your house again. Ever. Just don't answer the door. Ignore her. I think you're already doing that. I know you care about the kids and call CPS is you think she's abusing them, I'm with there. Otherwise....just count the days until you leave....

[Jester]

Personally, I think you were too nice to her as it was, all things considered, but I am glad to see you are not taking her crap any more, and not willing to help her out. Seriously....don't. This lady needs her self-entitlement and self-righteousness yanked out from under her couch and jammed up her ass.

Good thing you are moving, too. The sooner you get away from this lameass neighbor, the better.

To be honest, I thought that this was going to be one of those stories where the poster told about all the stuff they did for the other person, then about all the lameness of the other person, then about how the poster had finally had enough and said something to the other person....and wanted to know if they had been too harsh. Which I always find amusing. But then, I'm an asshole, what can I say?

Seriously, this neighbor is just not worth any of your time or effort, and she is obviously completely ungrateful for all the kindnesses you've shown her, not to mention being oblivious to her own hypocrisy when it comes to child welfare.

Two words from Jester: fuck her. End of story.

[Seshat]

Don't drag the police and child services into the mess in a way which could be taken as 'retribution' by the police and/or child services.

If I had been in your position, AND had been quick-thinking enough (probably I wouldn't have been), I'd have invited the police in, talked to them, let them check on my kids to their satisfaction, and told them the history of your neighbourly (or less than neighbourly) relations.

Experienced police would be able to look at your kids and house, note the tone of the neighbour's call, look at the neighbour's house (as much as can be seen) and decide for themself which of the two families is more likely to be abusive or neglectful.

Assuming you didn't, you could email or write to the police, attention of whoever it was who you dealt with, and tell them the history of your relationship with the neighbour, and that with you leaving soon, you're worried about the children.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Well, it's good that you aren't doing any more favors. This woman is what we call a "shitbird" down here in the south. She's so used to having her hand out she expects everyone to be ready to bend over backwards, and in some cases, forward, for her.

And it's good she won't watch your kids. Her watching your kids is probably worse than leaving them alone. She isn't responsible with her own kids, she's sure as hell not going to be responsible with yours.

She hangs out with crackheads? Hm. Avoid avoid avoid. My mom always says "lay down with dogs, get up with fleas." She's right.

[Toujin]

I agree with some of the other posts on here, this woman need to CPS called on her. I think she simply thrives on attention, positive or negative, which is probably why she called the cops on you, and takes advantage of you.

[Seshat]

Advice for the future:

Help people who show an honest attempt to help themselves.

If a person is in need, and shows no sign of being at all willing to pull themselves out of that state, be willing to give them one or two attempts at help, but don't constantly and repeatedly help them. They'll just drain you dry.

However, if a person is in need and is doing what they can to get themselves out of it, help them as much as you want to. (Note: as much as YOU want to - not as much as they need, or as much as someone else thinks you should.)

A person who's trying to get themselves out of a hole is likely to appreciate your help, likely to be grateful, and is likely to one day either help you in return, or help someone else down the track, thus spreading the effect of your helpfulness. They might not, sure, but they're far more likely to than someone who's taking you for all they can get.

Sometimes, however, there'll be a person who can't see a way out of their personal hole, and if you drop down a ladder for them, they'll start climbing. That's why I say it can be worth giving someone who seems 'stuck' one or two attempts at help. I like to give these people a chance.

There's one more exception to this rule, but that exception requires very specific help: there are some psychiatric disorders where a patient who's not medicated appropriately acts like an 'unwilling to help themselves' sponge, but once medicated, can become a functional member of society, and act much more true to their 'real' personality. However, you need to talk to someone in the psychiatric and psychiatric support professions before you can truly help these people, and you need to be dedicated, so that's a very special case.

The main rule of thumb is easier to remember: Only give ongoing help to people who are trying to help themselves. Don't give ongoing help to a leech.

[Primer]

"Moving from: Ft. Hood, TX Moving to: Ft. Lewis, WA"

By any chance do you actually live on post? If so, then screw the police, call the MPs! If not, then hang on till you can get away from there!