Wedding Bells!!!!!

[NotSoInnocent]

I'm getting married on Sunday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

:love::cheers::love:

YAY!!!!

[Lil Bunny]

W00t and CONGRATS!!!!

[Spiffy McMoron]

Huh. That's weird--I thought that you already were married.

http://www.customerssuck.com/board/showpost.php?p=302063&postcount=28

http://www.customerssuck.com/board/showpost.php?p=302646&postcount=32

http://www.customerssuck.com/board/showpost.php?p=300275&postcount=1

Didn't your SO already ship out to Iraq, hence all of the rush the first time?

[NotSoInnocent]

Huh. That's weird--I thought that you already were married.

http://www.customerssuck.com/board/showpost.php?p=302063&postcount=28

http://www.customerssuck.com/board/showpost.php?p=302646&postcount=32

http://www.customerssuck.com/board/showpost.php?p=300275&postcount=1

Didn't your SO already ship out to Iraq, hence all of the rush the first time?

Had to get the divorce first. That's what most of that was about. The wedding will happen just before he ships out.

[Broomjockey]

What happened to cause the delay? You said you were getting married the Monday after the divorce was finalized. That was over a week ago.

[NotSoInnocent]

What happened to cause the delay? You said you were getting married the Monday after the divorce was finalized. That was over a week ago.

Had to come up with the money for the license... That took a while, but we made it before the deadline.

[Spiffy McMoron]

Had to come up with the money for the license... That took a while, but we made it before the deadline.

You had the money to go to a Renn Faire (http://www.customerssuck.com/board/showpost.php?p=300290&postcount=4) and buy a last-minute ticket to Texas (http://www.customerssuck.com/board/showpost.php?p=302063&postcount=28), you explicitly that you were getting married on Monday April 7th and said that you were getting an un-waive-able waiting period (http://www.customerssuck.com/board/showpost.php?p=303105&postcount=36) waived (http://www.customerssuck.com/board/showpost.php?p=302646&postcount=32) for this reason so you could get married before your husband ships out, and you suddenly realized that you were short money?

If that were me, I'd be making damn sure that I had the cash to get married before I did anything else, especially since you don't seem to have a large timeframe to do it in.

[NotSoInnocent]

You had the money to go to a Renn Faire (http://www.customerssuck.com/board/showpost.php?p=300290&postcount=4) and buy a last-minute ticket to Texas (http://www.customerssuck.com/board/showpost.php?p=302063&postcount=28), you explicitly that you were getting married on Monday April 7th and said that you were getting an un-waive-able waiting period (http://www.customerssuck.com/board/showpost.php?p=303105&postcount=36) waived (http://www.customerssuck.com/board/showpost.php?p=302646&postcount=32) for this reason so you could get married before your husband ships out, and you suddenly realized that you were short money?

If that were me, I'd be making damn sure that I had the cash to get married before I did anything else, especially since you don't seem to have a large timeframe to do it in.

I didn't pay to go to the faire (I had a friend with a free ticket for that weekend) and flying to Texas was needed to finalize the divorce from my @$$ of an ex (and I got a -very- good deal on the ticket... less than half of what I feared it was going to take). I had hoped to get married on the 7th, however, while I had the money to get the license, I did -not- have the money to pay the judge for the ceremony until this paycheck. I -did- manage to find a judge who would perform the ceremony on a Sunday (lots of calls and time went into finding one) and for a little more than half of what most judges were wanting to charge.

While the waiting period (in Texas) is 30 days from the date of the divorce (and I -did- get that waived), there is a waiting period (in Washington) between obtaining the license and having the ceremony that could -not- be waived.

So, yes, the timing is tight... and, yes, the finances are tight... I did what was needed, and -only- what was needed, to make everything work. I was only told on Tuesday that they'd moved the ship out date up, so I spent the days since payday trying to make everything work. That included getting a power of attorney, the license, finding a judge willing to work on a Sunday, paying all the bills, finding two witnesses (made harder by the fact that I know practically no one in the area), figuring out how to get everybody together, packing my soon-to-be husband's stuff away, consoling our children.... with only one vehicle and no help from anyone else while my SO is working all day.

I'm stressed, broke, dealing with crying children, with a soon-to-be-husband about to ship out to a war zone.... And I'm still thrilled that we're finally able to get legally married.

In order to get to Texas and finalize my divorce I had to break my rent payment in half.

Could I have saved enough money to do all of that later? Probably... but my fiance would have been deployed by then.

Could we have been married when he comes home for R&R? Possibly... but there's all kinds of problems that can be avoided by us doing this now.

Does this explain all of your concerns? Does it make a little more sense? If not... Sorry. My life. My finances. My concern. All I wanted to do was share the happiness that I feel about finally being able to marry the one man who has been with me through a bunch of crap and whom I, and my children, love.

[Sylvia727]

Congrats!

:highfive:

And good luck to your soon-to-be hubby!

[PuckishOne]

All I wanted to do was share the happiness that I feel about finally being able to marry the one man who has been with me through a bunch of crap and whom I, and my children, love.

And nobody wants to diminish any of that one bit. I think Spiffy was just trying to make sure he understood everything clearly - it's pretty tough to wade through all the details sometimes considering the rollercoaster of events you've had going lately. :) You're right that your finances are your concern, too, and here I think he might have just misspoken his own concern for your situation since you have mentioned in the past that money is tight (gee, with kids?? ;) )

With that said, congratulations on your upcoming wedding and it's wonderful to hear you've found a good man (it ain't easy!). :)

[Ree]

I don't think anyone meant to rain on your parade and cast a cloud over your special day, but it seems that they were probably just confused about discrepancies in time frames and things that they didn't understand.

In the thread that Spiffy pointed out, I think we all left a lot of warnings for you to be careful and make sure everything was in place, because we were worried about that exact thing happening. I know I left several posts.

You were so sure you could get an exemption, because I think you are used to Texas, where military exemptions can be allowed, as compared to your current state, where there are no exemptions allowed...period.

We did warn you to be sure and not count on it. You just seemed so positive and insistent that it was going to happen the way you were saying, but, on our part, we were not quite so sure.

Then, in a few of your posts in the past week, you kept referring to him as your "hubby", so I think we all just assumed you had been married, but we wondered why you hadn't let us in on it after announcing that it was going to take place last Monday. (I realize you may have been referring to him all along as your 'hubby", but I guess I didn't pay attention, and it became more noticeable once I thought you were married.)

You will have to forgive if questioning the financial issues seems rude, because it really is none of our business, but we have had situations where members have come on here, crying poor and spinning yarns, but turned out to just be scamming for sympathy and trying to find a soft hearted mark to prey on. We tend to get a bit edgy when there seem like contradictions in that area, and, although you know the situation on your part, you have to understand this is a message board where, although we are a pretty great group, are all strangers behind a screen name. We have to take what we read at face value and trust in the person who is posting, so, when there are small discrepancies, red flags go up and spidey senses start tingling.

You have often mentioned how hard times are, so, of course it seemed like a sudden large expense, especially in light of your recent move that was so costly and took up most of your savings.

I don't think the questions or comments on that point were intended to come out as an attack, but you have to admit, when a person reads two different posts from the same person, and the details are slightly different from on to the other, it gets confusing.

Having said that, I hope your wedding day is a very special one.

It sounds like you have found your soulmate.
I hope all goes well for him when he is overseas and he comes home safe.

[BookstoreEscapee]

Dum dum da dummmm...

:grats:!!!!!!!!!

Best wishes and all that jazz :D

[Spiffy McMoron]

A lot of smart things that I couldn't say properly.
-SM

Thank you for clarifying that Ree. I'm sorry if I came off as too strong, but my impression from the post I'd mentioned was that this was all over and done with. Knowing your financial, marital, and personal situation, I was a little curious about how all of this could be happening.

Congratulations on the nuptials, and best of luck in the future.

[blas]

CONGRATS!

I'll put on my loud shoes and do a happy tap dance just for you!

[tropicsgoddess]

W00t!!!! Congrats, NSI!!! :grats:

[Crazeyal]

As someone benefitting from your family's hardships, (tell yer husband an ol Jarhead said GOOD JOB!!) I say THANK YOU and may your husband return to you safe, sound, and as crazy as always!!

CONGRATS!!

[Evil Queen]

Congrats!!!! We're so happy for you!

[NotSoInnocent]

Thank you for clarifying that Ree. I'm sorry if I came off as too strong, but my impression from the post I'd mentioned was that this was all over and done with. Knowing your financial, marital, and personal situation, I was a little curious about how all of this could be happening.

Congratulations on the nuptials, and best of luck in the future.
Not a problem. I know my life's hard for anyone else to understand (it's -has- been a rough year). Thanks for the grats. ^_^
As someone benefitting from your family's hardships, (tell yer husband an ol Jarhead said GOOD JOB!!) I say THANK YOU and may your husband return to you safe, sound, and as crazy as always!!

CONGRATS!!

*sniffles* You're welcome... and thanks. I know he'll be safe (he's out there with a good team) and I'm sure he'll be back slightly more crazy than he is now... but not by much! LOL

[monolayth]

YAY!!!!!


so happy for you!

[Becks]

Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!! :bounce:

[flybye023]

Congratulations and best wishes!! :D

[Hello Kitty]

OK, very repetitive, but CONGRATULATIONS! I know I was just SO relieved after my wedding was over, and I didn't have any stuff going on like you do - so hopefully you will get to take a break soon!

[draftermatt]

Wow, so many congrats, I need a synonym...

Happy Days are here again! (that'll work)

Seriously congratulations, I hope it all works out for you.

[AnqeiicDemise]

Hun, I may not know you outside of these boards, but I know the feeling of being alone in a strange place.

I've only been up in Washington for about oh.. nine months but hell, its been hard. If I didn't have my college friend as a neighbor, I would have gone crazy already.

If you need help or anything, don't hesitate to send me a PM, okay chica?

I live near Redmond and I got some free times in the middle of the week. If you need help baby sitting or collecting more box tops, let me know. Hell, I'm willing to let you use my Sam's club card if you need to.