Thank you for your inconsideration!

[Jester]

A girl I know, who is knew to town, who is kinda sweet but kinda nuts, has been texting me lately. And by "lately" I mean every day. At first I couldn't figure out what her deal was, as she has a boyfriend. Then I found out that the texts I've been getting are part of mass texts she sends to EVERYONE, every single day. Basically she's fishing, seeing who will respond, so she can talk to someone. Since I found this out, I've stopped responding to her texts altogether, figuring if she wants to talk to ME, she can text ME. I've been really close to calling her on this annoyance, but I figured I'd be nice. Figured she'd get the hint from my lack of replies. Figured it would stop.

But now she's gone too far.

She just texted me. At 7:35 am.

A few things should be pointed out here.
1. I am NOT a morning person. Everyone, including her, knows this. I know she knows this because I actually trained her at The Bar when she worked there for five minutes a few months ago. (She has already been fired from three different bars, lasting no more than five weeks at any of them.)
2. It's Fantasy Fest, the biggest week of the year, when everyone is working late, partying later, and getting very little sleep.
3. Last night was The Bar's biggest night, as it was our "official" party, so everyone and their uncle was at our bar. No one on staff had the night off.
4. I am NOT a morning person. Ever.

So, last night I got home and got to bed about 3:35 am. Technically that's early for this week, but I did not go out hard after work, knowing I had to open this morning AND that I would be going out hard tonight, having the night off, because my manager loves me. Also, for the first time all year, I'm fighting a bug. So needless to say, I was dead asleep.

Here is the text conversation verbatim:

SEATTLE: "U up?"
JESTER: "It's 730 freaking am. Are you out of your mind texting me this early?"
SEATTLE: "My bad! Golly bu geese. Just a lil freaked out here."
JESTER: "Go away. Stop. Im sleeping, or trying to."

I know what some of you are thinking. Why was she freaked out, and why did I shut her down when something is obviously bothering her?

Simple. I DON'T CARE. If my good friends text me at that hour, they had better have a damn good excuse. If they do, I'll be the first to help them out of any jam they're in. Seattle is NOT a good friend of mine, and has been no more than an annoyance the last few weeks. And I have given her no indication to the contrary in that time. So whatever is bothering her is NOT my problem, I DON'T give a shit, and it is NOT worth disturbing me at an hour that I never normally exist at at all!

I don't hit women. I don't believe in it. That being said, if one of the ladies here would be so kind as to find this wretched hose beast and smack some fucking sense into her, I and my beauty sleep would be most appreciative.

730 am. Are you fucking kidding me? Geez! http://www.spokanestreetracing.com/forums/images/smiles/violent1.gif

[alogram]

UGHHHHHHH.

My ex bf used to do this....DROVE ME CRAZY.

He knew that I worked until 11 and didn't have class until later, but he still did it! I bitched at him about it and he said that i should turn my phone off if I didn't want to be disturbed!

Um, no. you should have a little more respect, esp since you know it bugs me! It didn't help that they were these obnoxiously cheerful messages.

yeah, notice I said EX.

[Boozy]

Why did you text her back if you thought it was too early? If my phone beeps at me and I'm asleep or busy, or don't feel like getting it for any reason, I just don't bother. A text message beep on my phone sounds for a split second, then stops. It's very easy to ignore.

Don't be a slave to your phone, man! :D

[Crazeyal]

Why did he text her back??!? She was one step away from being BLOCKED, IMHO... When someone does something against your personal rules, YOU TELL THEM. Immediately so, or you acquiesce to the situation, and likely ask for more. The reaction was warranted, necessary, and nicer than I would have been.

[Becks]

And this is the reason why I turn my phone off at night when I'm ready to go to bed and I don't turn it back on until I'm ready to talk to people.

[Crazeyal]

Yeah, but I, and others, do not have that liberty. Plus, there may be some situation that I'd WANT to react to. Jester made it clear, "wanting to chat" at 7:30 AM is a deal breaker. He, and I for that matter, shouldn't have to lose contact with the world because certain people have no sense of decorum.

[Evil Queen]

I'm with Boozy here, Ignore the damned thing.

[Broomjockey]

I dunno about Jester, but my cellphone is my only point of contact. If I turn that off, you cannot get ahold of me. And it might just so happen that one of my friends actually needs me, and I'd hate to leave a friend high-and-dry just because some twit can't take a clue.

As for just ignoring it, I agree with Crazeyal. If you don't make an attempt to tell them to NOT do it, then later if you complain, you're losing advantage because they can say "Where's this coming from? You never said anything before!" (And it might actually prevent a later)

[crazylegs]

I fully agree with Jester.

It is well known that
a) He doesn't DO mornings
b) He works in a Bar
c) He frequently stays up late

Texting me at that time in the morning if I'd finished as early as midnight would have resulted in an immediate text tongue lashing not nearly as polite as Jesters.

To those who suggest we switch off our phones, to this I say the following:

If I forget to log off the computer system at work eventually it is flagged up at *Central Location*, to ensure I am safe and well they first ring my mobile, then the landline. I'd rather not wake the entire household because I forgot five keystrokes at work. In addition if someone needs to get in touch for a genuine reason I'd rather find out about it as soon as.

[AdminAssistant]

If a friend had texted me early this morning, I would have called them back and given them an earful. (texting takes too long and requires coordination - something I have in small doses awake and sober, and completely lack sleepy with a hangover)

Now, all of my friends and family do know not to contact me past 11 pm/midnight (unless its an emergency) because I'm not a night owl and I'm probably in bed by then.

[Kiwi]

If someone calls me before 8am they had better be giving birth, bleeding to death, stuck in a canyon lost or a close family member is dead.

If someone calls me before then and doesnt have one of those problems, they will shortly there after.

It sucks that shes lonely, but that doesnt mean she should be bothering Jester when she KNOWS he doesnt like to be contacted that early.

[Shangri-laschild]

Yeah, there are few people who are allowed to wake me up when I'm sleeping for work, but as others have said, turning the phone off is not an option. There are calls that probably/hopefully won't come, but I will not miss. Those calls are ones that would come during the time I would typically be sleeping.

Hopefully she got the message when you went off on her.

[Eric the Grey]

And this is the reason why I turn my phone off at night when I'm ready to go to bed and I don't turn it back on until I'm ready to talk to people.

While I don't turn mine off, I do mute it so I don't hear anything when people DO call, or text. This lets me see who called when I get up.

IF someone needed to get hold of me about my Dad, the only reason I am willing to be woken up, my sister will call me on the house phone and leave it ringing until I get up and answer it. It doesn't have VM.

Of course, I refuse to text people. If they send me a text, and I know them, I'll call them back. Too much hassle typing in with those little tiny buttons (and I have a full keyboard).



:cool: Eric the Grey

[Shards]

I use my cell phone as my alarm clock, and so I don't really do the whole 'turning it off' thing. Sometimes I can sleep through it ringing, most times I can't. It is well known to my friends that ever since I was young, unless I have a dire emergency appointment the next day, going to bed at 3 am is EARLY for me, therefore, anyone who calls me before 8 or 9 am had damn well better need me to do something to save their life or the life of someone they care about, otherwise, I'm just shutting it and giving you a slap on the back of thte head the next time I see you.

Hell, I'm so damned used to my insomnia that I usually only sleep 4 or 5 hours a night, and even 10 or 11 is still pushing my patience. I'm not happy when I've just woken up, I won't be happy until I've had at least two meals. I'll do what needs doing, but do NOT expect me to be happy about it, or 'shoot the breeze with you.'



What I'm trying to say is I agree with Jester 100%.

[Jester]

Why did you text her back if you thought it was too early?

Don't be a slave to your phone, man! :D

I am not a slave to my phone so much as I wanted her to know precisely why she was way over the damn line. It was a reaction, one I barely even thought about before doing.

The reaction was warranted, necessary, and nicer than I would have been.

I didn't think I was at all nice, though I suppose I could have been far worse.

And this is the reason why I turn my phone off at night when I'm ready to go to bed and I don't turn it back on until I'm ready to talk to people.

I don't for two reasons. First, one of my actual friends may have an actual emergency. It hasn't happened yet, but if someone I give a shit about actually does have an emergency, I am one of those people that, no matter the time, will spring into action.

Literally.

Spring.

Also, I use my phone as AN alarm clock. Not my ONLY alarm clock, or even my MAIN one....my REAL alarm clock is so loud and annoying it would wake the dead, which is often what I need. (Every woman I have ever dated has HATED my alarm clock. I've had it for years, and it rocks.) But with the frequent power outages in Key West, it is good to have a backup alarm clock.

If a friend had texted me early this morning, I would have called them back and given them an earful. (texting takes too long and requires coordination - something I have in small doses awake and sober, and completely lack sleepy with a hangover)

I have a full keyboard and I frankly did not want to talk to her. It would have given her an opportunity to interrupt me. I wanted my message delivered without any interruption or confusion.

My own MOTHER doesn't call me before 10 am. I have trained her well. (I am sure I've told THAT story in here before!) There are only three reasons to ever wake me up at such an hour:

1. My apartment is on fire.
2. You are a good-looking, naked, horny woman, and you are next to me in bed. And you want something. And I don't mean a glass of water. This means YOU, Anna Paquin and Kirsten Dunst!
3. You are a good friend and you have a genuine emergency.

So, let's see.....yesterday morning my apartment was not on fire. Seattle is okay looking, but her annoyance factor makes her less so, and she was not naked and next to me in bed. And she is not a good friend, whatever her emergency, if it existed, was. She once pestered my friend Little Red several times at 6 am or such because she was upset. Finally Red said to her, "Are you in danger? No? Just upset? Fine. Call me at a reasonable hour. I just got home a couple of hours ago, and I am FUCKING SLEEPING!" *click!* Or something like that.

[Becks]

Good point(s) about emergency calls.

It didn't occur to me to think of that, because Mr. Becky's phone is usually on, and I'm not at the top of my family's "Holy biscuit!!! It's an emergency!!!!" list. Especially now that Mommy and Bella are up here.

[Bella_Vixen]

I'm not at the top of my family's "Holy biscuit!!! It's an emergency!!!!" list. Especially now that Mommy and Bella are up here.

You'd more then likely be my first call in the case of an emergency...depending on the emergency, and when/where it happened and who was involved...

[Jester]

I should have known better. After dealing with idiots for so many years, I really should have known better.

See, I figured after my texts to her yesterday, it would be a while before she texted me again.

I severely underestimated her stoopidness. When will I learn?

So as I'm chilling in my bed today, watching tv, the wench texts me!

SEATTLE: "Hey sweety! I need a huge fav."
JESTER: "And what would that be?"
SEATTLE: "Could I please borrow twenty bucks?"
JESTER: "You're out of your mind if you think I'm giving you money after what you pulled yesterday morning. I'm nice, but there's a limit."
SEATTLE: "I am sorry Jester. I just thought you were an early riser. My bad."
JESTER: "Whatever."
SEATTLE: "Well I am truly sorry. My sincerest apologies go to u."

Amazing. Simply amazing.

I COULD have pointed out to her that, even without yesterday's nonsense, I would never lend her money, considering she has been in town just a few months, and has already been fired from three bars. She has only worked at those three bars. 0-3. I COULD have also pointed out that she is notoriously flakey. I COULD have also pointed out that she has a boyfriend if she needs money. Assuming he hasn't dumped her ass, of course. I COULD have also pointed out that everyone knows I am not an early riser, that she knew I was a night owl from not only hanging out with me, but from when I TRAINED her. Her first bar, and first firing, were at MY bar. I COULD have also pointed out that when you don't know someone that well, and aren't sure if they are an early riser or not, calling them at 7:35 am is a bit much.

I COULD have pointed out a whole mess of things to this whack job. But I figured enough was enough, and just stopped responding.

And does anyone else think that maybe, just MAYBE, the apology should have come BEFORE she hit me up for cash?

And for that matter, anyone wanna bet that her first "huge fav" text was another one of her many mass texts?

Oh, I am so done with flakey women!

[crazylegs]

And for that matter, anyone wanna bet that her first "huge fav" text was another one of her many mass texts?

Sucker bet, I'm not biting.

[Evil Queen]

I agree, that's a sucker bet. Not touching it with a ten foot pole.

Why do you hang out with women like this?! Aren't you smarter then this?

[Broomjockey]

It doesn't sound like he *does* hang out with her. Just sort of a tag-along situation. They really need to come out with a way to block messages/calls from specific people at will. Like someone starts randomly texting you? Blocked. Repeated calls? Blocked. aHA! I coulda used that the time someone called me 14 times in one day.

[Jester]

Why do you hang out with women like this?! Aren't you smarter then this?

As Broom Jockey said, and as I thought I indicated in the original post, I really don't hang out with her. I did briefly when she first got to town, before we all realized what a flake she is.

And as for me being smarter, considering some of the dating choices I've made, just hanging out with this chick is not that bad! :lol:

I mean, seriously, she is annoying with her texts, and the last two days she has been unbelievable, but overall she is not even close to being The Most Horrible Person Ever. That status doesn't even belong to The Worst Girlfriend I Ever Had....though she is further up that list than this girl! :lol:

[Evil Queen]

Broom, my verizon phone has a call blocking feature. Supposedly Sprint and AT&T have this feature as well. Just contact your phone company and say "I can't stand this person! Block their calls!" (Or something similar) and it's done.

[Broomjockey]

Just contact your phone company and say "I can't stand this person! Block their calls!" (Or something similar) and it's done.

I looked into it, and it's a charge in order to have it done, and it's also not easy to get it taken off.

[PhotoChick]

There are only three reasons to ever wake me up at such an hour:
2. You are a good-looking, naked, horny woman, and you are next to me in bed. And you want something. And I don't mean a glass of water. This means YOU, Anna Paquin and Kirsten Dunst!

So what if they WANT to be next to you in bed?

[Jester]

So what if they WANT to be next to you in bed?

Hopefully they know me well enough to know that calling me that early in the morning is not the best way to get there.

[blas]

Chiming in a little late here, but I have to go along with Jester and Broomjockey.

Especially now that I don't have voicemail (too lazy to go to the AT&T store and I need my dad with me and our schedules do not work well together), and I don't have a real alarm clock, and my phone has that wonderful cursed feature where if you don't get to the phone to answer a call or text, it will beep at you every x minutes, I have no choice but to get up and at least cancel it out before I spend all day hearing "beep" "beep" every 10 mins.

[Shangri-laschild]

Broom, my verizon phone has a call blocking feature. Supposedly Sprint and AT&T have this feature as well. Just contact your phone company and say "I can't stand this person! Block their calls!" (Or something similar) and it's done.

I have AT&T and my phone actually has the feature on it so that I don't even have to call in and request someone to be blocked. My phone just acts like it's on silent for those calls and lets me know after wards.

[Misanthropical]

My cell phone doesn't block calls. I have called Verizon about it and they told me they couldn't block calls on cell phones. I had to change my number to get people I didn't want to talk to ever again to stop calling.

Jester, I am not a morning person either, never have been. So, if someone is calling me early in the morning they better be bleeding profusely and/or dying or they will feel my wrath through the phone.

Jester, you should call her at 3 AM and see how she likes being woke up, since she seems to be one of those people who don't understand that most people who work the night shift are not morning people.

[protege]

Jester, you should call her at 3 AM and see how she likes being woke up, since she seems to be one of those people who don't understand that most people who work the night shift are not morning people.

I work 8-5, and I'm not a morning person. In other words, call me at 3AM, at your own peril :angel:

[Jester]

Jester, you should call her at 3 AM and see how she likes being woke up, since she seems to be one of those people who don't understand that most people who work the night shift are not morning people.

Um, no. She'd probably be drunk and out partying.

My guess is when she called me in the morning it was NOT because she was rising early, but was in fact winding up the night.

Besides, why encourage her in any way? I've made my feelings clear to her. Let's see if I got through to her......hopefully I won't be getting more inane text messages from her.

[Becks]

Didn't I once text a night owl at something like 8ish am responding to a text sent the night before? I was forgiven, though. Yay me. :party:

You'd more then likely be my first call in the case of an emergency...depending on the emergency, and when/where it happened and who was involved...

Hmmmm. Guess I should keep my phone on, then.

[Jester]

To be blunt, you should just tell her to lose your number. It sounds like you don't like her anyway, so no hurt feelings on your end. Not so nice, but probably something that she needs to hear.

I might do that. But amazingly, today I did not get a text from her. I DID find out, though, that that 7:35 am text was yet another mass text sent to many people. At least I am not the only one she pissed off. :lol:

And while I did not get a text form HER, I did get a text from yet another female "acquaintance" of mine today. I use that word because she is not a friend, merely a former friend of a friend, who is yet another head case. We'll call her Freak Girl. It seems my Freak Magnetism is fully charged this week!

The lowdown on THIS Emmy Award winner? During Hurricane Ike, a guy she hadn't known that long ("Bob"), who trusted her (whoops!) asked her to take his car with her to Tampa, where she is from. She had no car, and he, being in the military, had to clear out of town as per the military's protocol during storms, and there was no room on the transport that was taking the other cars. Follow that? Anyway, the plan was she would go to Tampa to avoid Ike, driving his car. She had transpo, his car was safe, everything was fine, right?

Well, Ike came and went, and the military and Bob came back to town. By the end of the week, Bob had still not heard from Freak Girl, and called her. Repeatedly. Long story short, the bitch never came back from Tampa, ignored his calls, couldn't figure out why he was freaking out when she did answer, even though she had his fucking car! Finally, Bob went to the police, reported the car stolen, and eventually she was arrested in Tampa and Bob got his car back, though he had to pay the impound and towing fees. Bob got screwed, big time.

And that was the last I heard from Freak Girl until today, when out of the blue she texted me asking what I was up to. Apparently (and by Beer I wish I was making this up!), she went back to Tampa to try to get her ex back, but her ex had gotten together with a drugged up hoe who is now pregnant with their (ex and hoe) child, and yet Freak Girl knows that her and her ex are perfect for each other, if the hoe would just stop stringing him along.

Yeah. She's nuts. Possibly criminally stupid as well.

And for those wondering why I texted her enough to find out all about the ex and hoe, well, I have to admit, it was entertaining, especially since she was fishing to find out what I had heard (the car theft thing) and I wasn't letting on that I knew aobut it at all. And since my night was kind of boring at that point, why not?

At least it wasn't at 7:35 am!

[Shards]

Well, Ike came and went, and the military and Bob came back to town. By the end of the week, Bob had still not heard from Freak Girl, and called her. Repeatedly. Long story short, the bitch never came back from Tampa, ignored his calls, couldn't figure out why he was freaking out when she did answer, even though she had his fucking car! Finally, Bob went to the police, reported the car stolen, and eventually she was arrested in Tampa and Bob got his car back, though he had to pay the impound and towing fees. Bob got screwed, big time.

<snip>

Yeah. She's nuts. Possibly criminally stupid as well.


At least it wasn't at 7:35 am!

Where's the possibly in that sentence, again?