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AdminAssistant
12-01-2008, 08:19 PM
It's the end of the semester, that panic period between Thanksgiving and Christmas that just makes life...ICKY. So here are the problems:

1. My parents are being incredibly stupid and it's driving me crazy. Since we've taken away the pain pills, sleeping pills, and Xanex dad was abusing, he's started drinking again. He was drunk through most of Thanksgiving. I'm not talking about having a drink to unwind each night. I'm talking starting in the morning and going all day alcoholism. My mother isn't trying to put a stop to it, instead she's being really submissive and just dealing with it. I honestly wish they'd just get a divorce and stop making each other (and everyone else) miserable. Technically, there's not really anything I can do about this, but it's a worry.

2. School. OMG. Kicking my ass all over the place. There's just so much to juggle and I don't feel like I can do it anymore. I just feel like an utter failure. The other grads have told me that what I'm feeling is totally normal for my first semester, but the stress level is really starting to affect me. I swing between being so nauseous the thought of food is repungent to stress-eating everything in sight.

3. Love life. I've been dating someone, but he's taking less and less interest lately. He was supposed to be in town Saturday (when I got back), and I was really looking forward to seeing him. But he stayed at his parents' another night. Yesterday, I sent him a text and got no response. So I called him and left a message that said, basically, if he wants to talk to me to call. I'm not calling again. I'm putting too much effort into this and not getting enough of a return. But it's still upsetting, because I thought at first that he was really into me, and now I'm being very self-critical and my self-confidence is taking a major nose dive.

And I'm really broke and I'm going to have to put Christmas presents on my credit card. I actually dread Christmas, because I don't want to go home to deal with my dysfunctional family. I had a mini-breakdown last night, but I feel like a full blown attack is in the near future if something doesn't give.

Just ranting and blowing off steam....don't know what else to do. :(

Greenday
12-01-2008, 09:38 PM
Isn't it awesome? Everything piles in at once.

I have some good news though. Freshman year is a dream compared to sophomore and junior years. I've gone from having classes I could skip most of the time and get at least a B easily to having classes I attend religiously, study hard for, and I have to pray for a C-.

I have two weeks left of school, including finals. I have a presentation, a paper, 3 lab reports, two homework assignments, and a lab to do this week. That lab is one I need to finish because it was taking too long last week. I still have two other normal labs this week. Two finals next Friday. One final next Thursday. I need to do extremely well on my one final to pull me up to a C-. The other one I just have to do alright. The third I might actually pull off my first B since freshman year.

Amina516
12-01-2008, 09:53 PM
Take time for yourself and just calm down. But dont stress out over what you cant change.

Do you have to buy presents for xmas? Im sure people would be able to understand a broke college student's plight ( i am one also and have told adults that Im only getting presents for kids this year.)

Good luck with school. My semster ends in 2 weeks and Im trying hard not to think about all the work I have to so still. I take it day by day and have myself on a schedule of what can be done and by when. I actually find that it gets easier as I get deeper into the semsters.

I wish you the best of luck with your family. Remember that your parents are adults and their [shitty] life choices are their own and they will suffer the consequences. If I can be honest, your dad sounds like my mom...and I tell her all the time I wish she'd clean up her act..and she doesnt. So I move on. I can only do so much. When she does decide she wants help, I'll be there.

Good Luck.

AdminAssistant
12-01-2008, 11:12 PM
Freshman year is a dream compared to sophomore and junior years.

Honey, I'm in my first year of a Ph.D. program! I wish I were a freshman. :lol:

jedimaster91
12-02-2008, 12:02 AM
On the gift dilema, have you considered baked goods? People love cookies, muffins, pumpkin bread......Plus you get that "homemade" touch. Mr Jedi and I are doing that this year since we are still poor newlyweds, lol.

Greenday
12-02-2008, 01:57 AM
On the gift dilema, have you considered baked goods? People love cookies, muffins, pumpkin bread......Plus you get that "homemade" touch. Mr Jedi and I are doing that this year since we are still poor newlyweds, lol.

Brownies make for excellent stress relief for yourself too.

irateguy
12-02-2008, 04:31 AM
Brownies make for excellent stress relief for yourself too.

esp ones from amsterdam:)

Amina516
12-02-2008, 06:37 PM
esp ones from amsterdam:)

Mmmmmm......space cake. :p


/thread jack

AdminAssistant
12-02-2008, 07:21 PM
esp ones from amsterdam:)

Nah... I need every brain cell I can cling on to right now, and I'm kicking myself for killing the ones I did in undergrad.

The gifts I have to buy are for immediate family (Mom, Dad, Sis, nephew, neice). I'll be staying with Mom and Dad and Sis is pretty demanding about having the shiny packages under the tree (yeah, I don't understand it either, I'd rather have the cash, myself). So, baked goods doesn't really work. Besides, goodies are pretty much a given during the holidays. Mom and I (and sometimes Sis) usually devote an entire day to the making of fudge and candy and whatnot.

My folks do understand my financial bothers, and I've been ordered to not spend much (and they would be fine if I arrived empty-handed, but I would be just mortified to not give something). The kids are easy, and cheap. Neice will get some kind of crafty artsy thing (she loves to draw and make stuff) and nephew is getting Legos - the ones for little kids. Little rugrat still likes to stuff random things in his mouth.

Sis is next to impossible, because chances are, whatever I'd give her, she already has. Dad is getting a *university* ballcap. And maybe a book. Mom...I don't know about her. I'll have to talk to Sis. Maybe a purse.

PizzaDrone
12-02-2008, 08:34 PM
Something I'm planning on doing next year is setting a 'cap' on presents for friends and such. About £30, that way no one worries that they haven't got enough for anyone else and no one struggles. As an added bonus it makes everyone think harder about what they can get for that person with the money.

As for school, I have a friend kind of going through the same type of thing. She's juggling work, university and the thought of travelling home for Christmas. She has lots of work left to do. I rationalised it this way to her, there's only a couple of weeks left, followed by a break. Fair enough, the 2nd semester begins after that break, but it is a fresh start in a way, which might allow you to re-think the things you've done in the first.

AdminAssistant
12-03-2008, 02:47 AM
:(

I finally talked to BoyThing. He's "so tired, so behind in work, stayed too long over break, blahdy blah." I told him this is my last night with any free time at all for a week. His response, "well, maybe we'll get to hang out soon" :wtf:

I've never been with anyone this...apathetic. And it's frickin' annoying. No, I don't want him worshipping the ground I walk on or calling me all the time or anything like that. But dammit, if I'm dating someone (and even more so if I'm sleeping with them) I like to see them every once in a while. Or at least talk to him. Tonight he texted me and I called him back (I hate texting conversations, just pick up the damn phone!) and after it was determined that we were both to busy to hang out this week he wasn't even interested in talking to me.

Fucker.

purplecat41877
12-05-2008, 11:26 AM
Why don't you make your gifts? I've been doing that for the past several years.:)

AdminAssistant
12-05-2008, 02:17 PM
Why don't you make your gifts? I've been doing that for the past several years.:)

I would, but the only thing I have less of than money is time. *sigh* I don't even have time to go to the doctor right now for this sinus infection. Next week. Must survive to next week.