It just doesn't stop does it?

[Akasa]

First we deal with my best friend going blind. Add to that her chronic condition which hospitalises her several times a year. Then in August she gets diagnosed with breast cancer, and has been going through surgeries and chemo.
Now?
She's in the hospital froma freaking heart attack!!!!
At 32.
Oh its worse.

She'd been having the heart attack for days and thought it was just a little indegestion, went to the ER on a completely unrelated complication and as they ran tests they foiund out she was having a heart attack adn had been for days. She now has heart damage.

I am bearing the brunt of her not feeling well, her being grumpy and mean because of the pain, etc. Waiting on her hand and foot, making sure the house is as clean as a hospital would be, etc.

I really can't take much more of this stress. :cry:

[Dips]

It sounds like it's time to get her set up with outside home care services. If she expects you do everything for her, she's taking advantage of you. Be a friend, not a doormat.

[wagegoth]

I have to back Dips on this. She should be able to get home care through her insurance or state or federal disability, whichever applies. Being a good friend means a shoulder to cry on, not a back to lug things about. She probably just does not realize how much of a strain she's putting on you.


I am very sorry for your friend. Be there for her, but remember that you have a life, too.

[MannersMakethMan]

Just remember that you won't be in a fit state to look after anyone else if you don't take care of yourself first.

I think it's really marvellous what you're doing for your friend after such a bad run, but maybe you ought to find someone else to give you a hand with the after care. It might be another friend, it might be insurance funded care, but if you don't make yourself some time away from this, you'll buckle under the strain, and that won't be good for anyone.

Best wishes for a speedy recovery to your friend, and for an end to your stress.