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Jester
06-24-2010, 03:56 AM
As y'all know, I have been looking to fill a room in my apartment, as one of my two roommates is leaving.

After getting very little response to my ad, I showed the apartment over the last few days to four prospectives.

The first guy was pretty much a tool. I don't need to elaborate, but suffice it to say that of the four, he is my fourth choice.

Second guy was pretty cool, but seemed a bit intense, was not sure how long he is going to be living in KW, but thinks it will be a while, and has yet to get me the three personal references I asked him for....twice. Not a good sign in my book.

Number three was a pretty laidback, cool dude, and his references were glowing. Yeah, I know, you'd be an idiot to provide references that weren't great, but everything seemed pretty on point about this guy.

Number four was a very stable, really cool chick, and her references were equally glowing. One was actually the ex-boyfriend whose place she is moving out of....if you get a glowing reference from your EX, how cool must you be?

So I am trying to decide between Number Three and Number Four, and basically they are tied. Each has one completely irrelevant factor in their favor. My friend Little Red wants me to choose Three, because I told her he would be a great guy for her to meet, and is her type. I found Four to be rather attractive myself.

But of course neither of those factors has any bearing on this decision, which is in essence a business decision, and must be treated as such. Mr. Anti-Social could give two shits, as long as they are stable, have steady jobs, and pay their shit on time. Both Three and Four give off that very vibe.

I called them both tonight, both times getting their voice mail, and basically told them that, if they were interested, it was down to the two of them. Obviously if one has procured another residence, it would make things easier.

Barring that, though, I still have to make a decision. If anyone has any suggestions on how I go about doing this, feel free to throw it my way.

Knowing my luck, though, both of them have found other places, leaving me with a guy who still has not provided me the requested references, and a tool. :lol:

Greenday
06-24-2010, 04:16 AM
Do they both have the money to pay rent?

If one doesn't, choose the other.

If they both do, then...

I found Four to be rather attractive myself.

You have your answer.

ApolloSZ
06-24-2010, 05:30 AM
Knowing my luck, though, both of them have found other places, leaving me with a guy who still has not provided me the requested references, and a tool. :lol:


All I can think right now is in this case... Use the tool to work the information out of the guy who hasn't provided any. If its not the right tool your not using it right :angel:


Hmmm... I'd say the good looking one too. :angel:/:devil:

iradney
06-24-2010, 06:52 AM
The chick might have gotten a glowing ref from her ex because he wants her out of there, stat! Just playing devil's advocate :devil:

Jester
06-24-2010, 06:54 AM
Do they both have the money to pay rent?

If one doesn't, choose the other.

If they both do, then...

You have your answer.

If they didn't have the money to pay rent, they would not even be considered, period.

As for Four being attractive, that is not a viable factor, period, nor will I allow it to be. My goal is and has to be the best possible situation for Mr. Anti-Social and myself, period. Having a good-looking roommate does not factor into that. And frankly, if she lived her, trying to get involved with her would be rather stupid. As they say, you don't shit where you eat.

All I can think right now is in this case... Use the tool to work the information out of the guy who hasn't provided any. If its not the right tool your not using it right.

Um, no, since the tool is the first candidate. He was a bit of a tool. An ass. A jerk. You know....tool.

ottid
06-24-2010, 07:01 AM
As they say, you don't shit where you eat.


Or... Don't screw the crew

Seshat
06-24-2010, 09:49 AM
Flip a coin.

If you find yourself disappointed by the result, choose the other one. If you find yourself pleased by the result, choose that one.

You have a subconscious gut preference. Using a random selector can help you identify that preference.

If you don't have a subconscious preference, using a random selector gives you a result. You win either way.

Magpie
06-24-2010, 05:21 PM
Let them both know that you've shown the place to another good prospect. At that point it's a race. I know it's a little unfair, (and I'm still bitter about losing an apartment that goes below 20 in the WINTER and has a balcony because of that), but it's actually the best for you.

Let's say person 3 responds first. You want to give a good chance, so you give person 4 a week to reply. In this week, person 3 has been looking at other places (which is wise, just in case). By the time person 4 replies with "sorry about the delay, found another place, offer it to person 3", person 3 has already jumped on an opportunity which was only available right then. Result: you have no roommate.

r2cagle
06-24-2010, 06:10 PM
Pick #3. Just because....

Plus, I think you'll have less drama with him than with the female.

KiaKat
06-24-2010, 06:18 PM
Pick #3. Just because....

Plus, I think you'll have less drama with him than with the female.

Why do you think that?

The worst drama I've had has been with MALE roommates. Hetero ones, at that. Maybe because I'm pickier about my female roommates, or because the female ones have been in committed relationships and haven't given me shit over my wiling ways (in some ways, they contributed to said ways...), nor have I had to ask them to clean their crap up from the kitchen/bathroom/ceiling/corner of the TV.

I'm personally a very low-drama female. I tend to give people crap only when they really deserve it, or when I'm joking around (and everyone KNOWS I'm joking). I don't overreact to situations, preferring to get all the information before reacting. There's been some drama in my life, mostly centering around a drama-filled friend of mine and his bitch of an ex, but that's mostly because of THEM, not me. And I don't drag it home to my fiance, or my family.

Gender is not an indication of whether there will be drama. Whether or not the person is laid back, comfortable, and generally drama-free is the only indicator.

Jester, you've let them know that there's competition. Has there been any response? Are either of them upping the ante?

r2cagle
06-24-2010, 07:02 PM
You are right, Kia. There are alot of drama-free females and men can be the worst drama creators ever. But this is just an opinion... of which I have millions and all are worth about as much as spit.

But the drama I was referring to, wasn't about her being female or not. It was the "coming out of a relationship, moving from the ex's place drama". I work with a bunch of people that just can't seem to survive without creating some havoc in their lives. I'm now leaning toward those people that seem to be very 'laid-back'.

Anyway... Jester met these people.. it's gonna have to be his choice. Mine's just an opinion... of which I have a million.

Treasure
06-24-2010, 07:12 PM
Umm.... Red is currently Princess's roommate right? And Princess is (unwisely) moving in with the 42 yr old boyfriend right? then solution:
Have cute chik #3 move in w/ Red, and have guy #4 (whom you think would be great for Red) move in with you - then you don't risk dating your roommate AND you save Red this same problem in a few weeks when Princess moves out!

With Guy # 4 as a roommie, you have a easy excuse to introduce him and Red (she's your friend, and hangs out)

Oh look - simple and actually diffuses any possibility of future drama

You are welcome. :)

poofy_puff
06-24-2010, 11:33 PM
Better yet, why not have Red move in with Jester.

Ding Ding Ding I think we have a winner.

BookstoreEscapee
06-24-2010, 11:43 PM
Better yet, why not have Red move in with Jester.

Ding Ding Ding I think we have a winner.

I'm thinkin' Red knows better ;)

Seriously, I like the coin flip idea.

poofy_puff
06-25-2010, 12:11 AM
I like the coin-flip idea as a way of dealing with life in general.

Jester
06-25-2010, 04:59 AM
Update:

So for no particular reason, I picked #4, the girl.

I called her and told her that, as long as she made sure she got to me the move in money and the application that the apartment complex requires. She said the money wasn't a problem, but she was out of town unexpectedly, but she could have her brother fax her the application. I could tell she was upset about something (one generally doesn't leave town unexpectedly for good reasons), but left it alone by simply telling her not to worry about it right then, that she could get me the application when she got back to town.

A little bit later she called back, clearly more upset, saying that she had had a family emergency, a death in the family, and that she might actually be out of town for up to a month, and for me to give the room to someone else. I told her no worries, for her to take care of things, etc. She said she was sorry, because "you seemed like an awesome person." She was right, of course. But in any case, shortly after I got off the phone with her, I banged my head against the wall (the fucking Roommate Triangle interfering again), but sent her an encouraging text message. Who knows? I might see her again, even if she is out of the loop for the room.

So I called Three, and left a message for him to call me. That was this evening. I have yet to hear from him. So naturally I am assuming the worst, that he got a place. Fuck.

I also called Two, asking him to call me, which he also has not done. Two was the guy who had not yet provided me those personal references. This might be a red flag....after all, what kind of idiot can't find three friends that will sing his praises?

One I had already called and told him I had gone with someone else, but I don't mind that, as One was the tool.

Also, Five called me tonight, and I am showing her the place tomorrow, but she seems like another tool. Meh. I hate this shit....and the end of the month is almost here!

Aaaaaaahhhhh!!!!

I'm personally a very low-drama female.

Want to live in Key West? I know of a room for rent..... :lol:

Umm.... Red is currently Princess's roommate right? And Princess is (unwisely) moving in with the 42 yr old boyfriend right? then solution:
Have cute chik #3 move in w/ Red, and have guy #4 (whom you think would be great for Red) move in with you - then you don't risk dating your roommate AND you save Red this same problem in a few weeks when Princess moves out!

With Guy # 4 as a roommie, you have a easy excuse to introduce him and Red (she's your friend, and hangs out)

Oh look - simple and actually diffuses any possibility of future drama

You are welcome. :)

Great idea. May or may not work.

Problem 1: Red lived alone for a while, and wasn't even sure she wanted a roommate, but knew Princess, and the situation was right for them. And they clicked very well. Also, Red is not sure she wants another roommate after Princess moves out.

Problem 2: Still waiting for Three (you got them confused, methinks) to get back to me.

Better yet, why not have Red move in with Jester.

Ding Ding Ding I think we have a winner.

BZZZZ!!!!!

Actually a loser, for a few reasons.

1. Red and I get along great, but don't think we would get along great as roommates.

2. Red has a dog, who I get along with very well, but Mr. Anti-Social has made it clear that pets are not going to be part of the program.

3. Red doesn't want to move.

4. Red has far too much shit than could fit in the space available here.

tollbaby
06-25-2010, 11:54 AM
Yeah, in my experience, friends should never become roommates LOL

I've lost too many friends that way!

Jester
06-26-2010, 01:23 AM
Well, fuck.

Heard back from Three. Very odd. He at first asked me, "What's the good news?" implying that he was looking forward to moving in, and then told me he had to go back to the mainland for a few weeks for work, so he wouldn't really need the place for another month....but if at that time, it was still available, he'd be interested.

Listen, bucko, I am doing everything possible to rent this place by the 1st, so as cool as you seemed to me, you are not so cool that I am going to hold the place for your royal ass to get back to the island. Thank you, buh bye!

Five came by to look at the place. Nice enough lady, but there is no way that Mr. Anti-Social and I could co-exist with her, for so many reasons. I think she felt that too.

Still haven't heard from Two.

And One is still a tool.

So naturally I reposted my ad, and sent a text to many KW friends saying that if they knew anyone that was reliable and looking for a room to rent, to have them call me.

Fuck. I hate this shit. Someone please give me a cinder block for me to slam my head into repeatedly.

Solumina
06-26-2010, 09:16 PM
Yeah, in my experience, friends should never become roommates LOL

I've lost too many friends that way!
Mostly true, though it seems to be working well with the current roommate (perhaps because he is close with J but not so much with me and I'm the one who likes to have rules).