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Antisocial_Worker
11-17-2013, 07:32 PM
No, that isn't a typo and if you suspected it might be, you're on the wrong site.

Today after church I decided to drop my boyfriend off at home to get some sleep while I headed off to my favorite Mexican restaurant for some me time. I got lucky when I went there, as the place is extremely popular with the church crowd and there's usually a wait. Me? They marched me right in and sat me at a booth -- a booth, on a Sunday afternoon! -- and I just couldn't believe my luck.

Then I saw why there was an empty booth at all on a Sunday. Next to me, two tables had been pushed together to accommodate two couples and their, altogether, six young children. The couples were having a grand time catching up and having a chat, and what with everything going on in the world these days, they understandably could not be bothered to watch their children. I ended up doing it for them, for a while.

I watched one child bolt into the restaurant kitchen, in between the legs of several waitstaff carrying heavy trays, one of whom had to shoo the child back out of the kitchen.

I watched one child give a child from a neighboring table a hug, then body slam him onto the floor, whereupon a wrestling match broke out -- again, with waitstaff and customers passing by and sometimes over the melee.

I watched one little girl knock her chair over four separate times.

I watched another child stand up on his chair and shriek and wave crayons in the air.

I watched, and felt, the oldest kid sliding his chair backwards across the floor, repeatedly, into the edge of my table.

Meanwhile, the conversation flowed ever onward. Just four good friends catching up. You could tell they hadn't seen each other in a while, and had made plans to spend the evening together as well. One of the women mentioned to one of the children they were all going to a play, even!

I can't even imagine the fun the theatergoers will have with this bunch.

Monterey Jack
11-17-2013, 08:22 PM
I remember one time I was eating in a Friendly's restaurant, and in the middle of my meal, suddenly something went WHAAAAAAAAAAANGGGG!!!! right off the back of my head (right where the skull meets the top of my neck). :eek: Turns out the toddler in his high chair in the booth right next to mine (two years old, tops) had gotten it into his mind to whip his plastic sippy cup directly at my head just as hard as he possibly could. The only thing the prevented me from giving the parents hell was that they seemed truly embarrassed and apologized profusely, and the fact that the kid was on the opposite side of the booth from me, meaning not only did he have an arm ready for the Major Leagues, but he had dead-on aim as well. Plus, he didn't really hurt me, just startled the hell out of me. Still, even though they apologized and everything...shouldn't you notice if your kid is winding up to throw a fastball at the back of somebody's head?

blas
11-17-2013, 10:21 PM
Last Saturday at Fazolis, a rather curious and very chubby cheeked bright blue eyed little baby boy peeked over from the next booth and said "Hi!" to me, over and over, and I didn't really mind, and my brother thought it was cute too.

Their Ma was pissed, but the dad seemed ok with it. He apologized, we said it wasn't a bother at all, but the mom looked like she was going to beat the dad senseless for looking at me.

Maybe I'll stay single and childless forever ;)

catcul
11-17-2013, 10:41 PM
Many years ago, my parents and I were visiting my sister in the DC area. We went to a restaurant in Alexandria, VA, when we witnessed a little boy, who couldn't have been younger than 5 years old, run around acting like a buffoon. The adults at the table were egging him on. This kid was disruptive and dangerous to the wait staff. There were 8 "adults" at that table.

Thankfully, this 2-year-old was much better behaved (http://www.customerssuck.com/board/showthread.php?t=99225). :lol:

AnaKhouri
11-17-2013, 11:32 PM
Still, even though they apologized and everything...shouldn't you notice if your kid is winding up to throw a fastball at the back of somebody's head?

I would give these people a pass because they did apologize profusely and toddlers are freakin' FAST. They could have leaned downt to sip their drink and the kid could have chucked it at you in that 2 seconds it took.

All the other brats in this thread though...no excuse. Since my son has been a toddler (he is now a Big Boy), I have become much more comfortable with chewing out other people's kids if the parents are absent/ignoring them. I'm not one for confrontation but someone has to discipline these children if their parents refuse to- and I have said that to one parent who took issue with me correcting their brat.

Sunshine
11-17-2013, 11:42 PM
My parents took me out to eat from an early age so i knew what to do and how to act. One time we were visiting their friends in georgetown (tx). Their daughter, H, decided to barrel roll herself across the room. Cue me, mom and dad all :eek:. And H's parents :o

fireheart
11-18-2013, 04:12 AM
I would give these people a pass because they did apologize profusely and toddlers are freakin' FAST. They could have leaned downt to sip their drink and the kid could have chucked it at you in that 2 seconds it took.


Pretty much this. Preschoolers too. I tend to joke with my friends who have babies that once their kid starts to walk "Look out, soon he/she will be one speed only: RUN!" I've also ended up blocking toddlers on occasion when they've been running through the mall (and mum has been relentlessly chasing him/her). Usually the blocking gives the mum a few seconds to catch up and thank me. :D

If anyone reads the Disney thread, there are SO many examples of parents misbehaving with their kids it gets old fast. There are a number of cases where the parent has allowed/encouraged their kid to take a dump somewhere. :puke:
Security tends to have a mixed bag on these responses.

Gizmo
11-18-2013, 08:27 AM
But seriously...I really dislike parents that don't bother to control their kids in a restaurant. I brought my son up to know how to behave in a restaurant because I refused to be one of 'those' parents.

I was brought up that way too. I was 2, out with Mum and friends and quietly colouring. They didn't even notice I hadn't been brought my food until after they'd all finished their meals because I didn't make any fuss. :eek:

In the reverse we once went to visit a friend of one of my parents. Me and the friends kid were both about 8. Kid started throwing metal toys at me and actually caught me in the face. Mother turns round and says "he's just being a kid"... yeah, never saw them again!

Chromatix
11-18-2013, 08:43 AM
I've also ended up blocking toddlers on occasion when they've been running through the mall (and mum has been relentlessly chasing him/her). Usually the blocking gives the mum a few seconds to catch up and thank me. :D
Yes, I've ended up doing this once or twice too. A useful trick is to gently turn the child around to face his parents, and let him close the distance from there.

fireheart
11-18-2013, 09:24 AM
Yes, I've ended up doing this once or twice too. A useful trick is to gently turn the child around to face his parents, and let him close the distance from there.

I might try that next time. I seem to do well with toddlers...ironically these kids are 3 or younger. Apparently my preschool teacher voice works well with toddlers! :lol:

Dreamstalker
11-18-2013, 03:22 PM
I've also ended up blocking toddlers on occasion when they've been running through the mall (and mum has been relentlessly chasing him/her). Usually the blocking gives the mum a few seconds to catch up and thank me. :D
I usually don't like being at the not-really-functional selfscan cashier station (it's COLD! and many SCs think that I can ring them out), but if there are a lot of little kids in the store that's a very good position to stop them racing outside. Most parents thank me, a few have given me dirty looks...I'd love to see one of the latter try to complain.

Ironclad Alibi
11-18-2013, 10:52 PM
In the reverse we once went to visit a friend of one of my parents. Me and the friends kid were both about 8. Kid started throwing metal toys at me and actually caught me in the face. Mother turns round and says "he's just being a kid"... yeah, never saw them again!

Years ago my young nephew decided to throw his toy car at Mrs. IA. She picked it up and threw it just as hard back at him. It never happened again.

EvilEmpryss
11-18-2013, 11:36 PM
We spend the first two years teaching them to walk and talk, then (the good parents) spend the next sixteen trying to get them to sit down and shut up. The bad ones give up completely, like monkeys figuring their parenting duties have been fulfilled.

dalesys
11-18-2013, 11:39 PM
... trying to get them to sit down and shut up...
Gorilla Glue.:D
Applied at each end.

morgana
11-19-2013, 01:43 PM
Gorilla Glue.:D
Applied at each end.

I love you. :love:

Crossbow
11-19-2013, 02:27 PM
Gorilla Glue.:D
Applied at each end.

You win one Internet. Best line of the day.

Seshat
11-19-2013, 02:53 PM
if there are a lot of little kids in the store that's a very good position to stop them racing outside. Most parents thank me, a few have given me dirty looks...I'd love to see one of the latter try to complain.

If anyone does and someone like any of us is a customer; I'm sure you'll get a witness who thinks the complaining parents are IDIOTS.

dalesys
11-19-2013, 10:25 PM
Gorilla Glue.:D
Applied at each end.
I love you. :love:
You win one Internet. Best line of the day.
I *do* have eight younger siblings and six children...

surviving.:angel:

cashierbex
11-20-2013, 02:04 AM
I am so glad my cousins are well behaved. The ones I know anyways. Cleaned up after themselves and everything.

My aunt out in Arizona had a family and their boys over. They were harrassing my cousins. I "accidently" hit one of the boys with a pillow. He was crying. Such a wuss. Didn't hit him that hard. My mom said "Good job" to me and that was the end of that. Don't mess with my cousins.

DeltaSierra
11-20-2013, 02:23 AM
But seriously...I really dislike parents that don't bother to control their kids in a restaurant. I brought my son up to know how to behave in a restaurant because I refused to be one of 'those' parents.

My hubby's ex's brother (ex-BIL?)'s three sons were such unholy terrors when they went out to restaurants that every one in the area knew them on sight, and they would not get seated until ex-BIL slipped the server a $20 to compensate for the mess they'd make. I thought this was an exaggeration until I heard the same stories repeated by server friends of hubby had experienced the messes left by the kids.

Cecily
11-20-2013, 06:55 PM
It's not that hard to get kids to behave in restaurants. Start them young, be clear and never, EVER, ease up on the rules. We've had compliments on their behaviour from waiters / other customers / owners. And it made our lives so much easier.

Our rules : No moving out of your seat unless to go to the washroom with a parent. Indoor voice only. Please and thank you are not optionnal. Keep you toys/crayons next to you.

That's it... four rules.

raudf
11-20-2013, 08:19 PM
Also, setting the example helps teach the kid how to behave. Parents that yell at their kid to use their indoor voice is... irritating, especially in a restaurant. Way to set the example, dude. Even when I order the kiddos to do something it still begins with a "please," and then it's done I thank them. But some parents think they are exempt from the very manners they expect their offspring to have!

I feel bad when my kid leaves a mess. I try to get it sorted, but the floor is an issue I can't always correct. To give the kiddo credit, he's only 14 months, but is still very well behaved for his age. He gets watched by three people, (his big brother is 11 and helps out a lot!) and one of us usually has a hand or eye on him.

mathnerd
11-20-2013, 08:23 PM
My boys are, well, boys. They can be holy terrors, and I've definitely had my share of embarrassing moments with them when they were little. Kids will do stupid stuff, and yes, even two year olds can get into an insane amount of trouble in the blink of an eye. I was not, however, afraid to deal with bad behavior on the spot. I've left stores without getting my shopping done, left restaurants before a meal was served and left events before they were over if they acted inappropriately, and boy did all hell break loose when we got home! (And yes, I did pay for any food consumed before I left restaurants or alerted grocery store staff that I had to abandon a cart and apologize profusely for it.) It only took once or twice with each kid to drive home the point that I simply would not tolerate bad behavior in public.

These days I get complimented all the time on how lovely and polite my children are. Not that I don't have problems with them. I do. They're teens/preteens. Kids do stupid stuff from time to time. But in general they're pretty good kids.

Chromatix
11-21-2013, 12:09 AM
and yes, even two year olds especially can get into an insane amount of trouble in the blink of an eye.

Fixed that for you. Two-year-olds are *notorious* for it.

mathnerd
11-21-2013, 12:41 AM
Good point.

Kogarashi
11-23-2013, 02:25 AM
It's not that hard to get kids to behave in restaurants. Start them young, be clear and never, EVER, ease up on the rules. We've had compliments on their behaviour from waiters / other customers / owners. And it made our lives so much easier.

Our rules : No moving out of your seat unless to go to the washroom with a parent. Indoor voice only. Please and thank you are not optionnal. Keep you toys/crayons next to you.

That's it... four rules.

EXACTLY. My children are extremely well-behaved in restaurants, and it's because we teach them how to behave. The only dinner table I've ever seen them goof off at is our own, and even then we do what we can to immediately curb that behavior, rather than allow it because "kids will be kids." While true, the statement is not meant to be an excuse.

For the same reason, I've never had to escort my children out of the store mid-shopping trip because they know that rowdy, screaming, disruptive behavior and "gimmie" demands are not acceptable. Treats are a reward for good behavior, not a bribe to avoid bad. I can honestly say they have never thrown a fit when I've had to turn down requests for a treat. I may get sad faces or the occasional sniffle, but that's a reasonable expression of disappointment. But they understand that "not today" doesn't mean "not ever again," it just means "we can't right now, and don't argue."

Which is why I get frustrated just being around parents whose children turn into wild monsters and the parents just blithely ignore it rather than attempting to do something about it. And yes, it does mean that there are occasional people I've been to restaurants or stores with who I generally don't want to go out with again because their children are all over the place and the parents just go on talking as if their child isn't running underfoot in a restaurant.

Kitten in the box
11-26-2013, 10:15 PM
One time i was at a Chuck E. Cheese with my brother and his son for the kid's birthday. well my nephew was having a blast playing with his pizza and i was off playing skee ball when i encountered a kid no older than 3 dart across my playing field not once but 3-4 times. then he decided to sit right in the center of my game lane. i asked him 4x to move because i do not want to see him get hurt. he refused. so i gently removed him from the field and told him to find his parents who were right beside me chatting away. they did not like me moving him from where he was and i explained to him that the skee balls move at a fast pace and i do not want to see him hurt by the balls. then and only then did they seem to understand and apologize for "not realizing" where he was. i mean come on. this kid was big for a 3 year old and could use a cutback on his food i am sorry to say. how can you not see him? and worse of all, if you cannot see him or know where he is at, how the hell will you manage if he decides to run off with someone who offers him candy or a toy??

greensinestro
12-01-2013, 09:35 PM
I can't even imagine the fun the theatergoers will have with this bunch.

Too bad you didn't decide to follow them there to find out. Now that would be a memorable story for sure.

RealUnimportant
12-01-2013, 11:31 PM
Parents that yell at their kid to use their indoor voice is... irritating
My recently-moved-out downstairs neighbour had a habit of yelling every form of communication at her kids... And the number of times I heard her say "don't you shout at me" was ridiculous. Poor little buggers, they were generally nice kids as far as I could tell.