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Teefies2
01-11-2015, 08:02 AM
<bg> I work in the photo department of a drugstore. Since it is, after all, a DRUGstore, we are quite used to dealing with people who aren't all there -- stoned, drunk, just got out of the hospital, what have you.

But tonight. Tonight was one for the record books, as far as I'm concerned.

I'm working away when I notice a female person at our photo kiosk looking confused. Now she was older (not any older than me, but older than 50). Many people that come into the store around that age either: don't understand computers OR refuse to learn them. Whatever ... I'm 57, was hired into this job at 54 and I figured it out!

So I bop over to offer my assistance. She wants to scan in a photo and get a print. Okay great! I can help you with that! We scan her photo and I bring the scanned photo up on the screen. It's a picture of her 3 grandchildren and Santa (I know this because she gave me about 10 minutes of all of their geneology - who is whose daughter/son, how they're related to her, how old they all are, their grades in school, you get the idea).

Okay, so now we're down to the IMPORTANT decision ..... how do you want this print to look? Well, you see, she wants 2 of the grandchildren CUT OUT of the picture. <say WHAT?????> Okay, I do what I can, but try as I might I cannot entirely erase the entire existence of these 2 other children out of the picture. There's a little bit of the shoulder of one of them and a little bit of the chin of the other one in the picture. I can't remove that without either cutting off Santa's head, or trimming down the *treasured grandchild*'s arm.

Well SIGH "if that's the best you can do" SIGH. Okay, so I print the picture. I give it to her and she wants me to cut it. Oh no, I'm not doing that, and no I don't have any scissors. She has a box cutter, however, and starts to make cuts to completely remove any evidence of those children. WHOAA!!!!!! "You need to pay for this first".

It's a whole $0.42, but she doesn't have that! Has to use the credit card sheesh!

Anyway, after she pays, she slices and dices and wanders happily off into the sunset. :confused:

Evannah
01-11-2015, 09:25 AM
Holy crap, that is really awful :( Sadly happens a lot. I was browsing Facebook and came across a profile of someone I went to school with. I'd seen her on there before, but just ignored her because she's vile, bullied me at school, and when I last saw her, she still called me names (this was when we were both 23). This time, I decided to browse her wall and came across a conversation there. Basically, she was telling another woman that her kids have ruined her life and if she could go back in time, she'd never have had them. I just... what. You would actually WANT them to not exist if you could go back in time? For serious? I mean, I know it's impossible, but the very idea of that thought going through her head in the first place makes me sick to my stomach.

Sheldonrs
01-11-2015, 11:01 AM
I wonder if these women will complain when these kids don't visit them in the nursing home.

fireheart
01-11-2015, 11:07 AM
I wonder if these women will complain when these kids don't visit them in the nursing home.

"We'll put you in that crooked nursing home we saw on 60 minutes!"

drjonah
01-11-2015, 02:06 PM
"We'll put you in that crooked nursing home we saw on 60 minutes!"

Shady Pines Ma!

eltf177
01-11-2015, 04:37 PM
"We'll put you in that crooked nursing home we saw on 60 minutes!"

Homer: "Let's put my dad in a home!"
Lisa: "You already put him in a home!"
Homer: "Let's put him in a home he can't get out of!"

Shady Pines Ma!

"Hey Ma, I hear Shady Pines is run by German's now"

This woman's future doesn't look too good right now...:rolleyes:

Jay 2K Winger
01-11-2015, 11:00 PM
"We'll put you in that crooked nursing home we saw on 60 minutes!"

"I'll be good..."

MoonCat
01-11-2015, 11:50 PM
This creeps me out a bit. I had a customer place a birthday announcement for her granddaughter, a beautiful little girl that she positively dotes on, from what I can tell. But she also told me that she has a grandson as well, the little girl's brother. And she's never placed a birthday announcement for him, although she's done one for the girl twice now. She just kind of mentioned the boy in an offhand sort of way. I really hope she doesn't completely ignore the poor kid in favor of his sister.

KellyHabersham
01-12-2015, 11:39 PM
This creeps me out a bit. I had a customer place a birthday announcement for her granddaughter, a beautiful little girl that she positively dotes on, from what I can tell. But she also told me that she has a grandson as well, the little girl's brother. And she's never placed a birthday announcement for him, although she's done one for the girl twice now. She just kind of mentioned the boy in an offhand sort of way. I really hope she doesn't completely ignore the poor kid in favor of his sister.

That's how my mom's dad and stepmother (before she died, anyhow) were like......they seemed to favour my "Uncle Joe's" kids, particularly the two boys. (who were into/excelled at sports) Meanwhile, they didn't exactly ignore the rest of us, but my sister and I definitely picked up on the favouritism.

Cecily
01-13-2015, 07:46 PM
Be nice to your children and grand-children. They will choose your retirement home.

cindybubbles
01-14-2015, 06:08 PM
Perhaps the two grandchildren that she didn't want come from a child-in-law that she doesn't like, and the treasured grandchild comes from an in-law of whom she approves. Or it could be her children that she has issues with. Pretty heartless either way.

drunkenwildmage
01-14-2015, 07:56 PM
My late Wife's Grandmother had 1 kid from each generation that she would favor, and she didn't do anything to hide it. She had 1 kid that she favored, 1 grand kid, and 1 great grand kid. My wife was the 'favorite' grandkid, and she actuality hated it. It caused allot of friction between her, her sister, and her cousins while growing up that mostly didn't get resolved until everyone was around 30.

XCashier
01-14-2015, 09:30 PM
That's just not right at all. Even if one has favorites, it shouldn't be made known; that will lead to nothing but hurt feelings and resentment. All the children and grandchildren should get equal love and care. Personality conflicts and family politics are not their fault.

Granted, it's easy for me to say, since I only have one child and no grandkids yet. I sincerely hope I'll be able to hide favorites when/if I have grandchildren.

Deevil
01-16-2015, 09:55 PM
My grandmother refused to acknowledge her two oldest grandchildren because their mother is Japanese. No big loss on their part IMO, because grandma was a bitch to the grandchildren she did recognize.

Sapphire Silk
01-16-2015, 11:40 PM
This creeps me out a bit. I had a customer place a birthday announcement for her granddaughter, a beautiful little girl that she positively dotes on, from what I can tell. But she also told me that she has a grandson as well, the little girl's brother. And she's never placed a birthday announcement for him, although she's done one for the girl twice now. She just kind of mentioned the boy in an offhand sort of way. I really hope she doesn't completely ignore the poor kid in favor of his sister.

This happened to my brother, who is the ONLY grandson.

I got birthday and Christmas gifts regularly from my grandparents, uncles, and aunts. I was the oldest grand child.

Brother got nothing as often as he got something, and it was often a gift that made you ask, "Why did they bother?"

Then there was my aunt and uncle visiting my parents; I was home from school for the weekend but Brother wasn't. They were gushing about their daughter's (the 3rd grandchild who'd been heavily spoiled her whole life) boyfriend and about how he was "the grandson [my grandparents] never had."

I got pissed. "They have a grandson," I pointed out. "My Brother."

That shut them up. :mad:

Sliceanddice
01-17-2015, 08:55 PM
my dad mother always treated me and my siblings like we where left over trash.

I wasn't a girly girly and she hate that and tried to change it.
The boy didnt do sports but was genius and great at computers but since he wasn't a mans man hes less than my cousin.
My sister was a girly girl but because she got the bi polar gene she was always treated like she was something to be left in the desert or an asylum.

and then she was insulted that we wheren't dotting and loving on her.

DGoddessChardonnay
01-24-2015, 01:04 PM
Perhaps the two grandchildren that she didn't want come from a child-in-law that she doesn't like, and the treasured grandchild comes from an in-law of whom she approves. Or it could be her children that she has issues with. Pretty heartless either way.

I would say that could have been my late dad's womb-donormother. Out of her 9 children (7 girls and 2 boys) she favored one daughter b/c she had married into money (that uncle had an appliance store, a record shop and for a time opened up a dress shop for my aunt back in the late 60's.) Those two kids she had with him she stayed up their butts growing up (or at least until my aunt and her hubby separated and then she cut herself off from the daughter and the kids.) She wasn't around me or my brother hardly (Grandma - Mom's mother - and middle aunt E didn't like her one iota.)

Prime example of Dad's mother's behavior: when I was born, of course Grandma and Aunt E were both at the hospital. Dad's mother showed up at the nursery along with one of Dad's sisters (not B - her then favored one but C) and made an offhanded comment about my not being pretty (I have photos of me at the hospital weighing 8 1/2 lbs and chubby w/3 chins - everyone at that hospital fell in love with me according to my Mom;)) and Grandma and Aunt E walked up and overheard it.:eek:

Apparently Aunt C realized this and was immediately embarrassed and was hustling her mother out of there while Grandma was giving that woman an earful and Aunt E looked like she wanted to throw the bitch out the window. :pissed:

Needless to say, my mother was NOT happy when she heard about that. What few times I saw this woman in my life (and I can count those on both hands, including her deathbed) not once did she make any effort to get to know me, or about me or my interests. Nor did she share with any of her grandchildren (that I'm aware of) about hers. She was sent an invitation to my high school graduation (as a courtesy) and did not hear anything back (no big surprise there - she disliked my mother from the get-go and after my parents split up, she was even worse.:()

Of course her daughters now revere this pathetic excuse and each year at Christmas they get together and prepare and distribute gift sacks of candy/fruit/nuts to the residents of the senior apartment complex their mother was residing at when she died in the early 90's. Nevermind that this woman was just as cold to most of them at periods just as she was to everyone else . . .:rolleyes:

On the opposite end of the spectrum, there was Grandma, who didn't want me to get outside and do anything b/c she was afraid I'd hurt myself (she went overboard in the opposite direction and was at times, smothering as if she were trying to make up for the lack of attention I had from Dad's side of the family tree.)

And this is the same one who would fuss at me to wear a sweater because SHE was cold.:lol: Of course she didn't like it when I got older and would tell her "I'm not cold, I'm fine. If you're cold, then YOU put on a sweater." And then of course she'd call me a "sassy imp" and she was going to "ring my jaws like Christmas Bells." And that wasn't happening b/c I wouldn't get close enough to her left side (her left hand was paralyzed after a bout of blood poisoning when I was 7 and, even though she couldn't use that hand anymore, it would hurt like a lead weight when she slapped you with it.:eek:)


And later Mom would have to hear about my attitude when she came home from work. Of course Mom would tell her to back off and let me grow up. Of course Grandma did NOT like that and then an argument would start . . .and Mom would walk away and tell Grandma to stuff it, more or less, and go off to another part of the house . . .

And I'll stop here as I'm finding myself rambling again . . . but I will say this: that grandmother will be paid back for her favoritism one way or another before she leaves this world. Every dog has its day (as Mom will tell me) and hers will come. But at the same time, it's a shame the damage she's inflicting on her family in the meanwhile . . . :no:

blas
01-25-2015, 04:53 AM
Heh...I'm the pink sheep of my family, and I've always done everything my own way, to the beat of my own drummer.

Seems to me, on both sides of my family, that's unacceptable. I guess I should either have a "real" job by now, or be married popping out babies like all of my other female cousins, because if you aren't going to be a good wife, you best get a degree and earn yourself some "real" money!

Oh, and don't think that means I'm a tomboy and not girly girl and that's why. Just the opposite. I'm just a "high maintenance brat" (as I've been called behind my back) because I'm not wash and go like the rest of my female relatives. I'M NOT A MOM, I HAVE ALL MY OWN TIME TO DO WHAT I LIKE!

Yeah, my little brother is everyone's favorite. No big loss. At least my Korean aunt adores me and my grandma on my dad's side has always liked me for me.

Sapphire Silk
01-31-2015, 03:34 PM
My family learned early on not to push my buttons about what I did with my life. :devil:

brucetiki
02-01-2015, 09:43 AM
My two grandmother's (well, one was technically a great aunt but she raised Dad - long story) were at polar opposite ends of the scale.

I was one's 'golden child'. We were always really close, and I was always spoilt by her. In my uni days, I'd take her shopping and in return she'd basically buy all my clothes, which caused resentment from my sister, but she saw it as thanking me for taking her to the shops, and if my sister had done the same, she'd have been rewarded equally.

The great aunt, on the other hand, spoilt my sister, but never did a nice thing for me, nor had a nice thing to say about me. One of the last times I saw her was Christmas 2010, where I walked in, and she started making comments to Dad about my weight (while I'm not the smallest guy going around, I thought her comments were ironic given I'm one of the smallest guys in the family). That was the final straw and I refused to have anything to do with her ever since. Thankfully she died a few weeks ago - while I've been respectful around the family I've been openly celebrating around everyone else (my alarm for the day of her funeral was 'Ding Dong The Witch is Dead' :D

DGoddessChardonnay
02-01-2015, 03:42 PM
The great aunt, on the other hand, spoilt my sister, but never did a nice thing for me, nor had a nice thing to say about me. One of the last times I saw her was Christmas 2010, where I walked in, and she started making comments to Dad about my weight (while I'm not the smallest guy going around, I thought her comments were ironic given I'm one of the smallest guys in the family). That was the final straw and I refused to have anything to do with her ever since. Thankfully she died a few weeks ago - while I've been respectful around the family I've been openly celebrating around everyone else (my alarm for the day of her funeral was 'Ding Dong The Witch is Dead' :D

And there you have my stepmom's parents, who barely acknowleged me or my brother b/c we weren't blood relations. Noticed that the very first summer my dad and stepmom were married when on two occasions, stepmom's mother made the FATAL mistake of introducing me to folks as "a friend of the family." :burnup::rant:

And it wouldn't surprise me that she didn't care much for me because I would *gasp* open my mouth and actually reply that I was actually their daughter's stepdaughter, which made HER (stepmom's mom) my step-gramdmother.:angel:

(This, of course, pissed my mother to the MAX and she would give my Dad an earful and a half upon hearing about this and would ask him why HE did not speak up for me, but that's another rant for another time.)
They would give out checks to the grandchildren at Christmas but would ignore me or my brother completely. Christmas 2010 was a prime example. They handed out toys to the younger two great-grandsons (my middle sis's kids) and checks to both sisters, as well as the eldest niece (the now 17 year old. Baby niece wasn't born then) but completely ignored me or my brother while we sat on the other side of the living room, watching (the only thing that kept my mouth shut while this was going on was the glass of wine I occupied myself with while taking mental notes of the scene.)

My stepmom handed me and my brother each a money envelope - and we knew it was from her and Dad b/c I know Dad's handwriting as well as I know my own.

The step-grandmother died last summer and neither me or my brother were mentioned in the obituary (not surprising) nor did we go to the funeral. And I also found out from her obit that before she had retired (I'd never known her to work for the last 30 years or so) that she had been a school teacher. Yet she behaved like she did toward me? Does not add up in my book because I would think teachers would be held to a high standard as far as interacting with children, whether or not they were her own, would be the same across the board.

Very odd she was. Not to mention I heard the "Ding Dong, The Witch Is Dead" playing in my head when I found out she'd passed. IIRC that was pretty much what my Mom said after hearing the news (to me in private - she wouldn't lower herself to say such a thing to my stepmom, though.;))