View Full Version : I need a hug and a nap.

05-24-2015, 05:03 AM
I just need to rant and complain a bit.

This week has been horrible. I've been out of the house every day since Sunday, and Little Ara's not used to going out that much so her sleep's all messed up, and I haven't been getting much sleep at night. I turn into Monsterzilla upon one night of too little sleep, and it's been a week. I barely made it through the day.

My dad and stepmom have been in town this week for my sister's graduation and Little Ara's birthday. They've been bugging me constantly to come see them but I don't drive and I'm way too busy preparing for Little Ara's party tomorrow. The house is nowhere near clean enough and I frankly don't care anymore. They actually went so far as to make my plans FOR me, telling me, "We'll pick you up at noon!" I've told them that Little Ara is usually napping at noon, and I was too tired and busy to see them (I've seen them almost every day this week at family events, btw, so it's not like I haven't seen them at all and am avoiding them), but they showed up anyway and woke Little Ara up from her nap. She's been grumpy all day and there really wasn't anything I could do about it.

Today was the worst. Not only was Little Ara grumpy, but I didn't have time for coffee, I didn't get to eat anything until 5, then I was abandoned in my dad's stinky, grimy motel room while they went roller skating. When Hubs got off work and came to pick me up, we went grocery shopping. We mostly got stuff for Little Ara's party, and I nearly took a nail off while getting a frozen pizza out of the freezer. We get home, I barely manage to get the groceries put away I'm so exhausted, and I start making Little Ara's birthday cake. I'm taking it out of the pan, this glorious, beautiful cake, and I DROP IT. Hubs had to make a midnight trip to the store 30 miles away to get more cake mix and eggs, and he's not back yet. Now I'm going to be up for several more hours making said cake, and I have to get up early to clean. There's no end in sight.

I feel like this would call for an alcoholic beverage, but I don't drink, so a hug and a 12-hour nap will have to do.

05-24-2015, 08:55 AM
The Hug i can help with, sadly not the nap. :)

Android Kaeli
05-24-2015, 12:47 PM
Hugs we can do, naps? Tell everyone that you are place X, have hubs take the little out for a bit, then just crash on the bed for a bit.

05-24-2015, 01:52 PM
Sadly, I have a party to prepare for, so no naps.

05-24-2015, 08:53 PM
Sadly, I have a party to prepare for, so no naps.

Sorry to seem harsh, but why are you doing this all by yourself? Does this child have NO other relatives who can pitch in if they demand a party that the guest of honor won't understand or remember anyway?

05-24-2015, 09:01 PM
I can offer hugs as well, but also some advise.

You need to grow a spine. This is not an insult. Spines are tricky little buggers to grow, and they have a habit of disappearing when they're newly forming. It's hard work, but worth it.

Yesterday should have gone something like this:

Relative: We'll pick you up at noon!
You: No, little Ara is usually sleeping then.

Noon Comes...

Relative: *shows up at the door*
You: *denying them entry* I told you no and that little Ara is sleeping. You'll have to leave now. I'll see you tomorrow at the party. *shutting the door in their face.*

People walk all over us because we let them. It's not easy to "train" people not to trample on our boundaries, but it can be done. Expect a lot of butt-hurt, cat-butt faces, and even a lawn tantrum or two, but once they get the idea that you won't bend, you life will be exponentially better!

Honestly, in your shoes, cancel the party. Have a little celebration with just you and your husband. At age one, the party is for the adults and older children. The baby isn't going to remember it. You can get the cute cake-in-the-face pictures with just the three of you. I'd call all my relatives and tell them "I'm sorry, but due to the demands on my time this week, including several people not respecting my needs for time to prepare, I have not been able to do what needed to be done. I'm afraid there will be no party as a result."

Then again, I'm kind of a bitch. I let my family control me for years until I saw the light. I took charge not too terribly long ago, and I've never been so happy.

05-25-2015, 12:38 AM
Sorry to seem harsh, but why are you doing this all by yourself?

It's her first birthday, so I'm doing this part to myself. I wanted her to have a good party with all of her family here. I wasn't expecting to have to do the preparing on so little sleep and with so many interruptions, though.

Spines are tricky little buggers to grow, and they have a habit of disappearing when they're newly forming. It's hard work, but worth it.

It wouldn't be such a problem if I wasn't so lacking on sleep, plus, this is family I only get to see once a year (they live in Colorado, I'm in Georgia) so I feel like an exception can be made. The party's over now, though, and Little Ara had a blast, so it was worth it. I just wasn't expecting this week to be so demanding. I still have a couple days before I have a chance to take a good day off and send Little Ara to Grandma's so I can sleep in and take a bath and stuff.

Little Ara's party wasn't nearly as big as expected, but that's because half of Hubs's family decided to take a sudden vacation when they said they'd be here and the other half had a funeral to go to. I understood the funeral part, but those attending said that they would still be here and somehow couldn't make it from the venue that's 30 minutes away in the four hours between funeral ending and party beginning. So that was sort of disappointing, and now we have TONS of leftover food (anyone want some hamburgers or hot dogs?).

Next year, I think we're just doing a small cake and maybe some pizza or something, just for the three of us.

05-25-2015, 01:16 AM
cake-in-the-face pictures

I hope not. :(

Other than that, great advice.

Aragarthiel, glad the party was fun.

05-25-2015, 01:40 AM
To clarify, I meant the pictures where the baby has smeared the cake all over her face herself, as most one year olds don't have the manual dexterity to feed themselves without making a gigantic disaster.

05-25-2015, 02:10 AM


Cake face, and her new toy from Gramma.

05-25-2015, 04:08 AM
She is seriously adorable!

05-25-2015, 05:22 AM
*hughughug* *hands you cookies* Some folks are so bad at boundaries. :(

Your little one is cute. She totally looks like she's having a blast. :)

05-26-2015, 08:34 PM
Super adorable! Just like my baby niece, all legs. The fun is just beginning. You are now headed into Monkey sitting. At 18 months my niece can no longer be contained in baby jail and can reach doorknobs. In November a second little monkey will join the zoo. PS I do mean zoo. One baby, two dogs, four cats, two turtles, and a chameleon. No there is no partridge in a pear tree. :)

05-26-2015, 10:07 PM
Thanks guys, she really is adorable. She's already climbing even though she can't walk yet. I caught her the other day up on one of our dining room chairs, and I know the table is next.

05-26-2015, 10:16 PM
I found my middle child on top of the refrigerator before he could walk. He managed to vault a baby gate, use a chair to get on the counter and then use the microwave to get on top of the fridge. And for those who might ask how he had the time, well, I have to use the toilet sometime! That child is almost 14 now and still a monkey.

05-27-2015, 03:58 PM
She is a cutie! Glad she had fun. Now, it's your time. Get a good night's sleep, de-stress, take care of yourself!