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technical.angel
09-06-2006, 02:56 PM
This is more for the fems of CS.

Have you had a customer that set off warning flags?

I just had a guy that came in that set off every single reg flag that I have ever had.

He comes in with his son, and a cell phone attached to his ear. He didn't get off the cell phone during the time he was here. His kid goes straight to our candy jar, eats some candy and drops the wrappers on the floor. While I work on his dad's laptop (and get freaked out), he starts kicking them around, and kicks one under a desk.

Now, remember, Dad's on the cell phone. I boot up his laptop, and while I'm waiting for it, he comes and stands right behind me. Normally when you're looking over someone's shoulder, you stand to the side and slightly back, so you're more catty cornered to the person, rather than standing behind him. This guy was full fledged BEHIND me. I could not see him in my perpherial vision, and that totally just FREAKED ME OUT! If I know you are behind me, and I can't see you, that's bad for me.

This guy was (supposedly) married to a faculty member, so technically, we don't have to support him, but keep getting stuck with him, and he just bothers me, and I think it almost borders on scaring me.

Bossman cares enough to say that if he comes in again, let him or someone else deal with it. Dept head and AAFH understand what I'm saying. I guess it's a girl thing.

Any other stories??

Jenni :angel:

LostMyMind
09-06-2006, 03:14 PM
This guy was full fledged BEHIND me. I could not see him in my perpherial vision, and that totally just FREAKED ME OUT! If I know you are behind me, and I can't see you, that's bad for me.
Well, being male. I don't have this problem. However, having 4 sisters who I'm protective of. I understand what you saying.

When you have this problem, just pull a page out of "deaf" folks book. I'm sorry, I'm hard of hearing could you please face me. (Also works great for getting folks to get that cell-phone out of their faces)

Phone Jockey
09-06-2006, 03:20 PM
Just the guy who called once & kept asking if I would hold on while he "played with his 'remote.'" That was just gross.

wagegoth
09-06-2006, 06:31 PM
The continuous cellphone thing is what would start up warning bells with me. He's obviously too self-absorbed and/or needy to be aware of or care about the effect of his behavior on others. (I hate these jacka***s on Bluetooths.) He's ignoring his child's behavior (which is only going to get worse in his attempts to get daddy's attention), and his moving into your personal space is completely out of line.

Personally, but I'm an older, taller female, I would have told him quite politely to back off, while standing up and facing him. "Excuse me, but could you please step back." Then just stare him in the face. If you can't stare him in the eyes, stare at the end of his nose, he can't tell the difference. Do this until he moves. Don't turn your back. Don't work on his computer. Don't answer the phone. Sooner or later, he'll notice the lack of activity, and may put the other party on hold. Then, repeat your request. If he doesn't follow your instructions, close up his laptop, say, "I'm sorry, I can't help you," and give it back to him. Then walk out of the area, preferably to the back and tell your manager. Don't explain yourself, don't engage with him in any way. He's now out of your life.

My personal guess is that he's feeling overshadowed in the academic community by his spouse, and tries very hard to make himself feel bigger and better. You can handle him. You've got the ovaries. ;)

Mighty Girl
09-06-2006, 07:26 PM
Unfortunately, yes.

A guy who compliments you on any piece of clothing you're wearing is either checking out what lies beneath such clothing, or is gay.

There was this one guy who would come into the dealership, close friends with the owner, who would constantly compliment me on my sweater or skirt. And I'm like, "Do you think that will distract me from the fact that you're staring at my chest and ass???" I mean, puh-lease- am I supposed to be flattered? I was in my early twenties, he was in his fifties and the years were NOT treating him kindly. Blech!

Ryu
09-06-2006, 07:45 PM
wait what?
that is not true!
i compliment my friends clothing from time to time and im definitely not checking them out and am not gay either
that statement is not fair to men, just because a lot of men do that doesnt mean all do, a lot of men dont do that

technical.angel
09-06-2006, 09:25 PM
I was in my early twenties, he was in his fifties and the years were NOT treating him kindly. Blech!

Like the guy that told me I have a ghetto booty... :cry:

"I'm old enough to be your grand-daddy!"

Jenni :angel:

powerboy
09-07-2006, 01:25 AM
I can relate to you Jenni on that also. I hate it, whenever some stranger is standing right behind me.

Knightmare
09-07-2006, 03:54 AM
Unfortunately, yes.

A guy who compliments you on any piece of clothing you're wearing is either checking out what lies beneath such clothing, or is gay.


WRONG WRONG WRONG WRONG WRONG!
Did I mention that was wrong? And ignorant? Sexist?

I used to compliment my female coworkers alot on their clothes, outfits, accessories, etc. (When we still worked together. I left the company).
We were all very close to one another, because we were all together for such a long time (5+ years- and I don't mean that kind of close). They were like my little sisters, I was their big brother.

It's sad that a man cannot give a woman coworker a compliment, because doing so is considered sexual harassment. Political Correctness BULLSHIT is to blame for this.

Not all men are like that. Some men, like me, genuinely likes a woman for who you are, not just because you have breasts.
And I am not gay.

Ok, I will stop now before I really get on a rant. I'll save the anti-PC thread for another post.

Ree
09-07-2006, 04:04 AM
Generalizations regarding gender and racial stereotypes are never a good thing.

ArenaBoy
09-07-2006, 04:08 AM
Generalizations regrading gender and racial stereotypes are never a good thing.

Agreed. It's very stupid.

csdrone
09-07-2006, 01:41 PM
OT, I have learned NOT to judge a person by color age or anything other than behavior. In other words, a wanker is a wanker. :rolleyes: The customers that creep me out are the ones who get "personal." The wierd jerk who was mad that I did not know who he was (I did not get the brain to brain message that "he was important" fast enough) asks a LOT of personal questions. :eek: Um NO YOU MAY NOT ASK ABOUT MY PERSONAL LIFE! I do not care how long you have been a customer: my life outside work is NONE of your business! I am very cold and correct with this jackass and am waiting for him to pull the same crap he pulls with the rest of the staff "None of your business" is a polite answer, right? :angel:

morgana
09-07-2006, 06:31 PM
OT, I have learned NOT to judge a person by color age or anything other than behavior. In other words, a wanker is a wanker. :rolleyes: The customers that creep me out are the ones who get "personal." The wierd jerk who was mad that I did not know who he was (I did not get the brain to brain message that "he was important" fast enough) asks a LOT of personal questions. :eek: Um NO YOU MAY NOT ASK ABOUT MY PERSONAL LIFE! I do not care how long you have been a customer: my life outside work is NONE of your business! I am very cold and correct with this jackass and am waiting for him to pull the same crap he pulls with the rest of the staff "None of your business" is a polite answer, right? :angel:

My personal response to something like that is to do the "Spock eyebrow" and say, "How exactly is that any of your business?" It must come off scary cold; most of 'em squirm.

Morgana

Lace Neil Singer
09-07-2006, 08:31 PM
This guy who interviewed me once. (mentioned elsewhere) He asked me loads of personal questions, like "Do you have a boyf?" which I found creepy. When he asked me if I was wearing a bra, I upped and left. Pervert. :mad:

RecoveringKinkoid
09-07-2006, 09:02 PM
This guy who interviewed me once. (mentioned elsewhere) He asked me loads of personal questions, like "Do you have a boyf?" which I found creepy. When he asked me if I was wearing a bra, I upped and left. Pervert. :mad:

:eek:

I would've thought that somehow I'd ended up in an episode of "the Office."

Lace Neil Singer
09-08-2006, 03:11 PM
:lol: That wasn't even thought of back then. I see the point now tho.

csdrone
09-08-2006, 04:31 PM
My personal response to something like that is to do the "Spock eyebrow" and say, "How exactly is that any of your business?" It must come off scary cold; most of 'em squirm.

Morgana

I like that idea! :devil:

Customer Beating Robot
09-08-2006, 06:18 PM
It's sad that a man cannot give a woman coworker a compliment, because doing so is considered sexual harassment. Political Correctness BULLSHIT is to blame for this.

To be honest, I do check out the chest and butt. However, I don't make an excuse, I just do it. So I agree. Most men are checking you out.

ForestDragon
09-25-2006, 04:45 AM
My personal response to something like that is to do the "Spock eyebrow" and say, "How exactly is that any of your business?" It must come off scary cold; most of 'em squirm.

Morgana


Wish I could do that; unfortunately I don't have the necessary muscular control. Must be something genetic, like whether or not you can roll your tongue (which I can't do either). Le sigh. :( I always liked watching Spock do that in the reruns when I was a kid and envied him. He was just the epitome of kewl...:worship:
"Eyebrow on stun, Mr. Spock..."

Someone asking me excessively personal questions might tempt me to come up with ridiculous lies, but that would probably just encourage the jerk, so I guess that I'd have to settle for something like "That is not relevent to the matter at hand." A bit more polite, I suppose than "What's it to you?!" or "None of your damn business."

Imogene
09-25-2006, 05:12 AM
Someone asking me excessively personal questions might tempt me to come up with ridiculous lies, but that would probably just encourage the jerk, so I guess that I'd have to settle for something like "That is not relevent to the matter at hand." A bit more polite, I suppose than "What's it to you?!" or "None of your damn business."

"Well, tonight, I plan on soaking my bunions, that'll take three hours, cause I gotta lance the boils first... and you know Billy Jim is gonna need his catheter cleaned. And, oh yes, can't forget the sacrificial goat."