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MystyGlyttyr
10-12-2006, 03:04 PM
Heh, this was just too funny. And I managed to not get involved for freaking once!

I was in line at Wal-Mart and there was an older man, probably in his 50's or so, ahead of me. There was someone else ahead of him getting rung up, so I was reading the National Enquirer and debating whether or not to buy a Chris Benoit action figure. I didn't think much of this at the time but the cashier was a young woman, obviously at least six months pregnant. The person ahead of us takes their stuff to go and the man steps up. And proceeds to make 4 errors in a row.

1. Doesn't finish unloading his cartful of groceries (this just annoyed me, I'm guessing, because I knew he'd have to come back to it and it would just be more time off my day).

2. Stepped around the counter with a DUMB grin on his face.

3. Put his hand on the cashier's belly.

4. Did this to a cashier he did not know.

Said cashier screams, draws back, and knocks the guy in the mouth with at least three rings on. And what was sad was during this I was just wondering how she was able to get those rings on her fingers because I thought pregnant women got swollen up...

Manager comes running, dude from the photography mini-store comes running, and dude starts screaming lawsuit. Manager escorts him to the door and comes back, tells the girl to take a break, and takes over checking me out.

And I didn't even drop my noodles, heh.

And yes, this is the same store as Seed Feed. I swear I'm going to switch to the other one across town...

Becks
10-12-2006, 03:27 PM
First off, may I say that I'm pleasantly surprised that you didn't start/finish it? :angel:

As far as I'm able to, I understand why the cashier acted like that. I don't think that if I were pregnant I'd want strangers coming up and feeling my belly. Hell, the only time I touch pregnant tummies is when I'm personally invited to feel the baby kick or something.

Ryu
10-12-2006, 04:24 PM
i wonder what the legal consequence to her will be if any
i would hope none but i wouldnt be surprised if there was one, and if not i hope hes not able to sue or get her fired

protege
10-12-2006, 04:56 PM
I sure hope she didn't get fired for that. Why is it that some people think they have the right to touch someone?

Rapscallion
10-12-2006, 05:03 PM
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MystyGlyttyr
10-12-2006, 05:07 PM
I don't know if she got fired or anything. The manager basically told her to go calm down and took right over for her so he didn't seem terribly concerned about it. I think I might go by there today and look around, see if I see any of the folks involved and offer to be a witness. Because dude definitely overstepped his bounds by coming around the counter and putting a hand on her.

I'm willing to bet good money that dude won't even look in the phone book for lawyers, though. He just seemed like the type to scream "Sue! Sue!" at the least provocation.

"We don't have Dr Pepper, will Mr. Pibb be okay?"
"SUE!"

sportsmom
10-12-2006, 05:51 PM
i wonder what the legal consequence to her will be if any
i would hope none but i wouldnt be surprised if there was one, and if not i hope hes not able to sue or get her fired


**I AM NOT A LAWYER (but I watch fake ones on tv)**


I think in most states just the act of touching someone without permission can be considered assault, so she could argue that it was self-defense if he tried to have her arrested.


Either way, he got what he deserved, I wish I could have done it to a couple of people when I was pregnant myself. You just don't. touch. pregnent. women. Not cool on his part.

Raerlynn
10-12-2006, 06:50 PM
**I AM NOT A LAWYER (but I watch fake ones on tv)**


I think in most states just the act of touching someone without permission can be considered assault, so she could argue that it was self-defense if he tried to have her arrested.


Either way, he got what he deserved, I wish I could have done it to a couple of people when I was pregnant myself. You just don't. touch. pregnent. women. Not cool on his part.

Battery. Assault is the threat of imminent bodily harm. Buy it was battery, and if your lawyer is good enough, it can become sexual battery, which should shut Mr.Sue up real quick =P

MystyGlyttyr
10-12-2006, 07:01 PM
Well, headed out to Wal-Mart at lunch, didn't find that manager but the cashier was right back in her spot. Made the offer to the lady and she politely turned me down, saying that the guy wasn't hurt nearly as bad as he made himself out to be, but thanked me anyway.

I asked about the belly touch thing and she said that she gets that a lot from little old ladies and she can handle that, but turning around to some weird dude leering at her just wasn't right! :lol:

Cia
10-12-2006, 07:19 PM
To bad there aren't any maternity shirts out there with the words "Touch my tummy and you will die!" I would have bought one.

Tria
10-12-2006, 08:15 PM
To bad there aren't any maternity shirts out there with the words "Touch my tummy and you will die!" I would have bought one.



I've recently taken up knittting.... I found a niche!

XCashier
10-12-2006, 09:17 PM
To bad there aren't any maternity shirts out there with the words "Touch my tummy and you will die!" I would have bought one.
:yes: Or how about, "I'm not a Buddha statue or a magic lamp! Hands off!" :D

Why do people think they have the right to grope total strangers just because the target happens to be pregnant? You don't touch others without their permission! Unless you're her doctor, signifigant other or close family member, don't touch!!! :rolleyes:

I didn't have much problem with strangers touching my belly when I was pregnant; I think I gave off a "Touch Me And Die!" vibe. :devil: If some idiot tried that with me, I might have punched him in the face, too.

Kitten in the box
10-12-2006, 09:45 PM
I would have yelled too and swung if a guy tried to touch my belly...only if I didn't know him...and this guy gets pissed and cries lawsuit...oh the poor poor man....he needs to get al life and learn NOT to touch someone he does not know...I bet it would have been funnier if the girl's husband/boyfriend would have been there...

Erin
10-12-2006, 09:52 PM
To bad there aren't any maternity shirts out there with the words "Touch my tummy and you will die!" I would have bought one.

I think if I ever get pregnant, I'll have that t-shirt made. My best friend had so many people wanting to "pet" her tummy when she was pregnant that she quit wanting to go out in public.

The only time I've ever touched a pregnant woman without asking was when I was like 4yrs old and was asking my aunt how the baby got in her stomach.

Myra
10-12-2006, 10:22 PM
I've never understood strangers thinking just because a woman is pregnant, it's totally okay to just touch her without asking first. A good friend of mine used to ask me "They don't touch un-pregnant strangers! Why is it okay to annoy me?" That's one of the few things I'm not looking forward to now that I'm pregnant. I'm stand-offish anyway, but complete strangers trying to touch me, this could be bad. REALLY bad. Think I'll take Husband out with me later on in the pregnancy for the protection of myself, but mostly the protection of others. :D

Kogarashi
10-13-2006, 02:06 AM
Carry a riding crop (or, failing that, a flyswatter) Myra.

I probably would've reacted similarly to that cashier, at least with a yelp and a backhand to their reaching meathooks. But I seem to put off a lot of people from touching my belly (being 5'11" and capable of switching from Disneyland Cheerful to Looming and Glowering in a split second helps). My fellow (female!) coworkers are (grudgingly) allowed to touch my belly. Relatives have an unspoken invite. Strangers, especially male strangers, better watch their sweaty little mitts around my tummy.

One of these days, I shall make a Cafepress shirt that says "I'm pregnant, not produce."

RecoveringKinkoid
10-13-2006, 03:29 AM
You know, somehow I managed to get through my entire pregnancy without strangers groping me on the street. I know, I hear about it all the time, and I was not looking forward to it happening to me, but it didn't. The only people that felt me up were a couple young girls I work with, and that was okay, I know them and all my coworkers are very cool. But a strange man trying to put his hands on me would have gotten the same reaction from me.

I mean, if he'd grabbed her boob would he then be crying lawsuit? No, probably the cops would have been called on him. So what's the difference?

I don't like to be touched by presumptuous people, strangers, creeps, et all.
But then, I apparently give off a vibe that keeps most people off me pregnant or no. And that's fine with me.

Also, look at this guy's reaction here. What if you went to touch a stranger, a pregnant woman, and you managed to frighten her into this kind of reaction? Would you not be mortified, and apologize to her profusedly? You just terrified a pregnant lady! No, this guy didn't do that. He wanted to get all angry and threaten her some more.

That guy was a creep and a predator who just wanted to put his hands on a woman, thinking he could get away with it that time. When he found out otherwise, he got mad.

My old coworker, the Funkstain, was just like this. He would do anything he could think to do as an excuse to touch a woman. It was damn creepy.

LdyJedi
10-13-2006, 03:24 PM
I hated, hated that when I was pregnant! I learned quickly to keep my arms crossed in front of me and to do a quick two-step back out of groping hands.

It's almost as if a pregnant belly is seen as community property!

amphrite
10-13-2006, 08:36 PM
I've never understood strangers thinking just because a woman is pregnant, it's totally okay to just touch her without asking first.

**Sarcasm** Because she must be easy, otherwise she wouldn't be pregnant. That means she's fair game for everyone else to feel up too!**End Sarcasm**

;)

Crosshair
10-13-2006, 11:49 PM
Closest thing I ever did was when I asked my cousin, who was pregnant with her 2nd child, if the "little ones" wanted some candy. (It was Halloween) I gave a candy bar to the little one standing next to her and then started poking her tummy with a 3 Musketeers bar. After a few pokes I said, "I don't think he wants it." She laughed and said, "Here, I'll give it to him" and takes the candy bar from me.:angel:

Becks
10-14-2006, 03:31 AM
Crosshair, that was cute. Awwwwwwwwwwwwww.

Sounds like something I'd do.

RecoveringKinkoid
10-14-2006, 04:51 AM
**Sarcasm** Because she must be easy, otherwise she wouldn't be pregnant. That means she's fair game for everyone else to feel up too!**End Sarcasm**

;)

Well, erm...it's pretty obvious she puts out.

Don't hit! Don't hit!:lol:

AFpheonix
10-14-2006, 10:01 PM
Maybe make a goth tee with little pokey things around the abdominal area ;)

Kiwi
10-14-2006, 10:34 PM
ugh a stranger touching a pregnant womans belly, hes lucky the husband wasnt there thats assult right there.

Here responce wasnt the right one, but Id honestly admit I would have done the exact same thing.

Jpurple
10-15-2006, 12:29 PM
To bad there aren't any maternity shirts out there with the words "Touch my tummy and you will die!" I would have bought one.

I came thisclose to buying a big shirt and writing 'Touch my tummy with that hand and you will pull back a bloody stump' on it when I was pregnant. Seriously, you don't touch a perfect stranger without at least ASKING for any reason! I was only really noticeably pregnant while at work for two months, maybe less, and I still had that happen enough times that I wanted a shirt. (and maybe a big stick to go with it)

friendofjimmyk
10-15-2006, 05:21 PM
To bad there aren't any maternity shirts out there with the words "Touch my tummy and you will die!" I would have bought one.

You can make one!

Sunsetsky
10-16-2006, 07:14 PM
I find it annoying that some people find that just because a woman is pregnant they have full entitlement to touch her belly. I have never been pregnant I admit...but I'm sure it's going to happen someday and when it does NOBODY will be allowed to touch my stomach unless you are family and friends. Maybe if you ask me then I might be nice.

However...it just sounds like this guy was just trying to find an excuse to be a pervert.

Anakah
10-25-2006, 11:09 AM
So its okay for him to touch her but when she touched him (okay punched him) it wasn't okay? It's inappropriate touching. Sexual harrassment right there. I would haul off and slug some guy who wanted to touch me too. It's NOT okay. I've never been pregnant either but I've never wanted to touch a pregnant woman's stomach either.

Maybe her maternal instincts took over and all she thought was: "Protect the baby." Maybe she saw him doing that as a threat? Or am I nuts?

Maybe she got the creepy vibe from him and was worried he was going to do a little more than touch her tummy. I'm guessing she's very protective of her tummy--I mean there's a baby! Of course you'd do anything to keep strangers/danger away from it.

I have a fear of people touching me. Maybe she has that too. I literally have a phobia of people touching me--I can't, I panic. And I think a stomach is a bit more private than touching someone's arm. I hope she doesn't get into trouble and if that stupid guy tries to press charges, I hope he looses. Granted, maybe slugging him wasn't the right thing to do on the job-- but then again she must have reacted on instincts. Just a thought.

erik316wttn
10-25-2006, 02:02 PM
I've worked with 2 pregnant ladies before. Both were about my age at the time they were pregnant, and I was on friendly terms with both. In fact, I still am.

I would go and rub the pregnant ladies belly. Both were good luck. Both saw me coming, and both laughed when I did it (and I didn't do it more than a few times to each).

I know not to touch pregnant ladies I don't know, and even ones I do know if they're having a bad day.

CrazedClerk
10-25-2006, 05:11 PM
I will sometimes ask pregnant customers when they are due, but I would never just reach for the belly. Common sense (I know, I know SCs don't know the meaning of the term).

Auto
10-26-2006, 10:56 PM
**I AM NOT A LAWYER (but I watch fake ones on tv)**


I think in most states just the act of touching someone without permission can be considered assault, so she could argue that it was self-defense if he tried to have her arrested.


Either way, he got what he deserved, I wish I could have done it to a couple of people when I was pregnant myself. You just don't. touch. pregnent. women. Not cool on his part.

Exactly.

No way this guy has a case against her. More likely he needs a lawyer should the cashier decide to press charges against him.

kerrisan
10-30-2006, 07:05 PM
The nerve! :wtf: