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Jack T. Chance
01-24-2009, 12:52 AM
We are now only a few weeks away from one of my least favorite days of the year... the holiday traditionally known as Valentine's Day. But for those like myself, who have searched high and low and are still unable to find someone to share this life with, the holiday has now been rechristened...

it shall hence forth be known as Singles Awareness Day!

This thread, then, is for those that are WITHOUT a significant other to come together, and commiserate, to share our stories about what it's like to face each and every February 14th alone, while all around us, the "normal" people run around in a 1-day state of bliss, publicly displaying their affections, with each "happy" couple we see pushing us closer and closer to snapping! :hairpull:

Or, you know, maybe that's just me. Maybe you just hide inside at work or home all day, sulking, brooding, and generally being miserable. Or, maybe you go out with other single friends and CELEBRATE your freedom, celebrate not being "tied down" to one person! :rolleyes:

Whatever the case may be, this is your thread, to share your stories of the single life at this time of year!

As for those of you that have someone special to celebrate Valentine's Day with... to quote the Almighty Gord (http://www.actsofgord.com/), "door's to your left." Feel free to start your own thread about your holiday, and kindly leave us to ours, thankyouverymuch. :p

As for myself, this February 14th happens to fall on President's Day Weekend, which luckily for me, is the same weekend that the Baltimore area's annual Farpoint Convention (http://www.farpointcon.com/) is on! So, that's where I'll be on Singles Awareness Day this year! :D

*Leans back in chair, props up feet, and waits for others to start posting.*




P.S. It sucks that we can't use the BB Codes in the title of a thread. If we could, the title would've looked like this:

The Valentine's Day Singles Awareness Day 2009 Thread!

But, you know, so much for that idea! :rolleyes:

Bandit
01-24-2009, 01:04 AM
Single's Awareness day is the day before the Daytona 500, so at least there will be some racing on TV. Good excuse to have some beers, some steak, and sit around in the shorts watching TV almost all day. :)

Or I could go throw snowballs at every "Too Sweet" couple I see on the canal. :p

B

Mike Taylor
01-24-2009, 01:05 AM
R. Lee Ermey sez...

http://i25.photobucket.com/albums/c61/anastasthetraveler/RLEsezNOMOPING.gif

Jack T. Chance
01-24-2009, 01:08 AM
Single's Awareness day is the day before the Daytona 500, so at least there will be some racing on TV. Good excuse to have some beers, some steak, and sit around in the shorts watching TV almost all day. :)Cool! :cool:Or I could go through throw snowballs at every "Too Sweet" couple I see on the canal. :P

BNow THAT sounds like fun! :devil:

Too bad we still haven't had any snow here in MD this winter... well, none that amounted to anything, anyway. :doh:

BookstoreEscapee
01-24-2009, 01:10 AM
My friend's daughter will be one year old this Valentine's day. :D

Otherwise...blah.

Jack T. Chance
01-24-2009, 01:12 AM
My friend's daughter will be one year old this Valentine's day. :D

Otherwise...blah.You should drive down to B'more for Farpoint! You'd get to see me in my alternate identity as one of the defenders of the Old Republic! :D

lupo pazzesco
01-24-2009, 01:17 AM
It always irks me, this particulary holiday, and the hype put into it. It's like, "Prove to your SO you love them on THIS DAY!!!"

What about the other 364 days of the year, dude? Srsly? >.<

On top of that, the looks of pity I get for being single?

Pfft. For the most part, it's choice for me. I have too much on my plate with school and work, and quite frankly the selection pool around here could use a lot of chlorine... >.> So, I'm working on myself, becoming a great me before I contemplate becoming part of a we. who knows, that may change if I meet someone, but until then, 'tis where I stand.

So, I proudly celebrate my single status on that day, and would far rather spend time with some good friends and with good food rather than get all snuggly with one person becuase i think the gesture means more when it's just because as opposed to because it's a national holiday.

Rambling done. Should probably go find some real food, since I've not really eaten today.

RetailWorkhorse
01-24-2009, 01:42 AM
Who's got two thumbs and is more single than a neutered goat in a pack of donkeys?

THIS GUY.

Do I care? Nah.

Dreamstalker
01-24-2009, 02:50 AM
Hear hear lupo. I never really got the point of V-day either. Something's wrong with one designated day to express love...although the candy's nice (around this time I always get some unusual flavor of chocolate--chile, curry, wasabi, et al--from my dad).

For the past couple years, the ex has been threatening to "build [me] an AC-powered vibrator" :eek:

Given the result of his last electrical experiment--Frankenflashlight powered by an electric-blanket transformer--I'm not sure I want to ponder that too much. There are some things one does not want near wobbly bits unless the designer/builder knows what they're doing. He does not.

SG15Z
01-24-2009, 03:57 AM
I hate valentines day. I hate it when I'm single and not. And I'm proud to say I've been single for 3 years this March! :yes: What I like the freedom. Plus I'm not really looking, mainly because I don't care right now. Maybe that'll change one day..... anywho how does giving your SO a gift when she expects it and society says you have to a sign of love?

With my last GF I said don't expect gifts on any holiday. If I really care about you I'll get a gift when you least expect it just because! Though it does get pretty lonely around here because 1/2 my friends are already married and most of the other half have SOs so I'm usually the 3rd/5th wheel........kinda akward. And all my single friends are losers (except my fellow CSers of course :D). Oh well I don't care I like being single! It's much more affordable :lol: :2cents:

Ok I'm done ranting now.

Bella_Vixen
01-24-2009, 04:13 AM
V-Day (or it's alternate STD name) is an eh day for me.

Fave Ex® and I started dating a week later, and never celebrated it with each other, although we wish each other a happy one as we both still love each other.

Starting dating Cheating Manwhore Of An Ex® probably just before, and broke up with him just a few days after, after being together for a year. Both years he did get me something. When we were dating, he got me a teddy bear (the day after the cheapskate :lol:), and when we broke up, he got me some candy. At least he tried, I guess.

Actually, Fave Ex® and I were going to spend the day together the year after we broke up, but I got called into work instead. :pissed:

I don't get angry, or bitter, or sad. V-Day is just another craptacular day.

Shpepper
01-24-2009, 05:50 AM
Having been through V-day as both single and in a relationship, I much prefer single. The soon to be ex husband wouuld get the stupidest things that were totally useless. Toys that I didn't need or want and candy that he ate. I'd rather be single and get nothing than that carp.

Nyoibo
01-24-2009, 06:15 AM
Having been single all my life I can honestly say Valentines day would have no meaning for me except this year will be the 3 year anniversary of having my arm crushed in an industrial roller.

SG15Z
01-24-2009, 06:17 AM
Having been single all my life I can honestly say Valentines day would have no meaning for me except this year will be the 3 year anniversary of having my arm crushed in an industrial roller.

Um... Congratulations???

karath
01-24-2009, 08:52 AM
Woot! Glad I found this thread...count me among the celebrators of single awareness day! :p

MannersMakethMan
01-24-2009, 09:23 AM
See, I wouldn't mind the day as such if weren't for everything else that goes with it:

The commercialisation of love ["This Valentines day, do this, buy this for the most magical... Enough already!]

The pity looks when you say you're single [Oh how awful...]

The shocked look when you say you're not overly bothered [But you must be with someone for Valentine's - we'll try to set you up with (insert random name here)]

The incessant babbling about the forced gestures made. [A got me this fabulous XYZ for Valentine's day and we did this, and... - Newsflash! Knowing A, I can honestly say he wouldn't do it if he wasn't strong armed into it. He's a nice guy, but he feels like he has to just because it's VD]

By all means if you need a day set aside to show you love someone, go for it. Some people do need the prod to remind them to show that they really do care. Personally, I'm not so fussed, so let's not go through this rigmarole every year. It's just another day of the year, and 3 weeks today, it won't bother me in the slighest asking for fish and chips for one.

Akasa
01-24-2009, 12:55 PM
My circle of friends before I moved had annual F--k Valentines Day parties.
We'd get together and talk trash about our exes and burn pictures, things they gave us, or their names on a piece fo paper if we didn't have anything. We'd have a party till the wee hours of the night watching movies and playing games like Apples to Apples.
Turned Vday into something to look foward to for the first time in my life.

smileyeagle1021
01-24-2009, 01:10 PM
Ah yes, the annual, "I'm eternally :censored: single for no apparent :censored: reason day"

Don't get me wrong, I know that with 15 credit hours at school and 40 hours at work (btw, 15 credit hours means 15 hours of class a week, plus if the instructors are doing their job properly 30 hours of homework), I don't have time to sleep much less have a relationship... that said, it gets really damned old being alone.

Jester
01-24-2009, 01:10 PM
Oh, now THIS is a subject that I can dig my teeth into.

Pardon me....first I must stretch. (cracks neck in both direction)

Ahem. (cracks knuckles)

EXCELLENT! Now, let me begin.

It always irks me, this particulary holiday, and the hype put into it. It's like, "Prove to your SO you love them on THIS DAY!!!"

What about the other 364 days of the year, dude? Srsly?

Well said! Frankly, it is my opinion that Valentine's Day is a FALSE holiday, a commercial venture set up by, promoted by, and benefited by the fucking florists, candy manufacturers, and greeting cards peddlers. It is a fucking joke, period. A day for every unromantic asshole and weaselly fucktard of a boyfriend or husband to make up for the rest of the year when they did absolutely nothing for their woman....and women let them get this free pass. While those of us who don't need that special day for such things are sitting there thinking "what the fuck, Chuck?" Because if you are romantic, if you do do special things for that special girl in your life, then this overly commercialized "holiday" is a basically unneeded redundancy for you.

And I use the genders very specifically because, be honest, this bullshit day is about the MEN showing the WOMEN how much they allegedly care. There is no pressure on women to do one bloody special thing for their man, is there? And of course, for the most part, the companies promoting this ridiciulousness could give two shits about gay men or lesbians, as they just don't fit into their pre-set "Valentine's Day" equation--though they will, of course, take their money.

Now I am currently single. This has nothing to do with my views on the holiday. I have had girlfriends going into Valentine's Day, and have espoused the same philosophy, that this holiday is a load of hooey. And most of the girls I have been with have either agreed with me or given me a pass on this day since I am, quite honestly, quite a romantic fellow, and have probably already wowed them for one reason or another.

Normally on Valentine's Day I volunteer to work a double, just so I can rake in that much more money from all the saps and suckers out there who are drawn in by this stupidity. Hey, I may not believe in the day, but just like the companies promoting it, I'll take your sheckels. And I'll use them to do something special for some woman that has caught my fancy on some OTHER day, thank you very freakin' much.

Two notes here. One, if you do celebrate the holiday and are offended by my comments, please go complain somewhere else. This thread is for those of us who despise this holiday so frankly, I don't wanna hear it.

Two, ironically February 14th is a very special day for me. Not Valentine's Day, mind you. But February 14th. Why? Because it's when my mother and father were married in 1957, and also the day that my beloved home state of Arizona became the 48th State, in 1912. Beyond that anniversary and birthday, I could give two flying fetid ferret shits about it.

Yes, I'm an absolute blast at Valentine's Day parties! :wave:

lupo pazzesco
01-24-2009, 01:14 PM
Though it does get pretty lonely around here because 1/2 my friends are already married and most of the other half have SOs so I'm usually the 3rd/5th wheel........kinda akward. And all my single friends are losers (except my fellow CSers of course :D). Oh well I don't care I like being single! It's much more affordable :lol: :2cents:

Ok I'm done ranting now.

I was about to say, I'm a single friend? I'm a loser?? But you recovered fairly nicely. ;)

Here's to being single! I actually don't mind being 3rd/5th wheel, but I guess it depends on the couple. My "unavailable" friends all have pretty kick ass SOs, and we usually have a blast hanging out together.

Well said! Frankly, it is my opinion that Valentine's Day is a FALSE holiday, a commercial venture set up by, promoted by, and benefited by the fucking florists, candy manufacturers, and greeting cards peddlers.

And I use the genders very specifically because, be honest, this bullshit day is about the MEN showing the WOMEN how much they allegedly care. There is no pressure on women to do one bloody special thing for their man, is there? And of course, for the most part, the companies promoting this ridiciulousness could give two shits about gay men or lesbians, as they just don't fit into their pre-set "Valentine's Day" equation--though they will, of course, take their money.

Amen to that as well! Although weighing in as a female on this viewpoint, I'm especially sickened at the commercials. "Women WANT diamonds" "diamonds are the ONLY present your girl wants" "Give her all this expensive shit because she's shallow and only wants materialistic symbols to show off that you love her!"

Ugh! Now, me, I'm equally impressed with something thoughtful and planned out/tailored to what I actually like. It would show the guy actually cares about/knows me? Books on topics or by authors I adore. Music I like. Take me to see that movie I've been wanting, or to see the museum exhibit I've been raving about. Little things, right? And honestly, you don't necessarily have to spend money! Cook dinner or something! The effort, oftentimes says more than the gift itself. I'm not a shallow creature who's greatly impressed by sparkly rocks or expensive chocolates. I don't wear the first and I can't have the second. Whyfor would I be impressed by the assumption that those are all I want for a pseudo-holiday?

And major, MAJOR props to you, Jester, for pointing out the commercialism and how it's tailored to straight hetero (no pun intended) relationships. If you don't fit the mold, you're basically SOL in a big way, and 'tis very irksome. I'm straight, but many of my gay friends have spoken about their hatred of the holiday as well, because, well they're not your typical man/woman buying for what the big corporations consider a typical boyfriend/girlfriend. Which goes back into the above statements about sparklies and chocolates. Totally not worth it.


Now I am currently single. This has nothing to do with my views on the holiday. I have had girlfriends going into Valentine's Day, and have espoused the same philosophy, that this holiday is a load of hooey. And most of the girls I have been with have either agreed with me or given me a pass on this day since I am, quite honestly, quite a romantic fellow, and have probably already wowed them for one reason or another.

Yes, I'm an absolute blast at Valentine's Day parties!

Emphasis mine, because that's the way I think it should be, on the part of BOTH parties. The guy shouldn't be the one doing all the wowing!! I think it's fun and great to surprise someone I care about with a just because something or other. It's just, to me the natural thing to do!

And yes, Jester, you sound like an absolute blast. I simply must add you to the guest list of my next shindig. :) :p

AdminAssistant
01-24-2009, 01:41 PM
The worst V-day I've had, oh dear. I was having a really bad day, outside of V-day singleness, when a guy buddy (let's be honest, friend w/ benefits) called me. He could hear I was really upset, so he came over and we talked and cuddled and I felt a lot better. Then he ran out to his car and came back with some candy and a teddy bear. It was so unexpected that I just melted.

Until another female friend called me later to say that the same guy had gotten her the same exact fucking bear and candy. I was NOT HAPPY.

I have no idea about this year, mostly because I'm so unsure about BoyThing and I just don't know where it's going, if it's going. So...who knows?

Jester
01-24-2009, 01:55 PM
I forgot to mention something amusing I did for this Crapfest a few years ago.

Back when I was DJing at the college radio station, the nearest Sunday (when my show was) to Valentine's Day, we (me and my assistant) did a Black Valentine's Day show.

We played every single anti-love song we could lay our grubby little mitts on, and mocked the "holiday" incessantly and mercilessly.

It was one of the best and most satisfying shows I ever did there. :D

Irving Patrick Freleigh
01-24-2009, 03:34 PM
I forgot to mention something amusing I did for this Crapfest a few years ago.

Back when I was DJing at the college radio station, the nearest Sunday (when my show was) to Valentine's Day, we (me and my assistant) did a Black Valentine's Day show.

We played every single anti-love song we could lay our grubby little mitts on, and mocked the "holiday" incessantly and mercilessly.

It was one of the best and most satisfying shows I ever did there. :D

I am to assume "Love Stinks" was among them?

"I have a microphone, and you don't. SO YOU WILL LISTEN TO EVERY DAMN WORD I HAVE TO SAY." :lol:

JoitheArtist
01-24-2009, 03:46 PM
You know, when I was a kid, I loved Valentine's Day. My dad worked at a paint shop, so we always had these big books of wallpaper samples around: we'd cut them into heart and decorate them with paper lace and glitter. Really fun.

Then in high school and college, I passionately hatred Valentine's Day. Though I dated a bit, I never had anyone special on the day itself. My college used to have a really fun program called "Blue Valentine" on Valentine's Night: they'd set up tables outside the coffeeshop with black roses in a vase, and invite any student band to come play for the attendees. Very fun!

Now? I still am not fond of Valentine's Day, largely because they start selling the cheap crap right after Christmas so I have to look at it for darn near two months, and I hate pink! :) I'm generally pretty happy with being single, but Valentine's still irritates me, just because it's a reminder that most people are not happy with me being single. They keep saying, "oh, you'll find that special someone" (don't want to), or "there's a lid to fit every pot"(not in my experience). Is it too much to ask for them to just shut the hell up? :lol:

McGoddess09
01-24-2009, 04:46 PM
Even though I'm not single, I really don't celebrate Valentine's Day either. This year, it happens to land on a Saturday,which is one of the only days I can see the SO because he works from 3pm-11pm Monday-Friday. We aren't doing anything for Valentine's Day.

I like the seasonal candy that comes with it,though.

My worst Valentine's Day was when I was in fifth or sixth grade. I had to go to my great grandma's funeral. It was really sad for me. I could(and still can) remember hearing her say "Bambini! Come-a to your Nana!" (yes. She was from Italy). Also, I was shown around because I have the same birthmark as her, same place,same shape,even same darker coloring!

protege
01-24-2009, 05:17 PM
I only have a few words to say.. "Fuck Valentine's Day."

There, I said it :p Seriously, after being alone every one of them since 2001, it doesn't hold any meaning. It's just another day. Not that it would have mattered before then--the girl I was dating also hated that day. She couldn't see the point--her thing was, why not show your love for someone *all* year? But, it doesn't matter--the past 8 years have been pretty cold. Instead, I'll probably take the MG for a spin, or do what I did on New Years' ...spend the entire day in bed or building models.

Even so, if *one* more relative remind me that I don't have anyone...I'm going to hit them.

RetailWorkhorse
01-24-2009, 06:31 PM
Did you know that we also seem to have a "Sweetheart Day" as well? It's a couple days before Halloween.

They must've decided to pull that one to get more money. :rolleyes:

Slytovhand
01-24-2009, 06:35 PM
Down here, we don't have a public holiday for it. - So crap, I can't get double time:(

Where I work, they actively encourage doing anonymous Valentine's things to your 'secret love' type thing... yeah!! Way to embarrass people!!!

Otherwise, I'll be sitting it out alone again. Not that it matters, the commercialisation is crap!! It's actually about being with the one you love, it's about spending big bucks to show them... ummm... something.... Yay for not being shallow.

Protege, aren't you sounding a little hypocritical there. First you say "Fuck Valentine's Day", and then you go onto say that you'll spend precious 'quality' time with your true love...(your MG).... go on - admit it... isn't that the real love of your life?? :D :D :D

ArenaBoy
01-24-2009, 08:18 PM
Valentine's Day is an advertiser's, florist's, baker's, restaurateur's, and card maker's wet dream. Aside from Christmas anyway.

That said, last girl I dated she was content with me cooking for her. Save money, my cooking's a lot better anyway (Having a mom who works with chefs helps), and it's relativley cheaper.

Miyon
01-24-2009, 08:23 PM
Love the topic. I will not be part of the V-day club but and content with my singlehood.

But I have to say with so many single guys on here, one of you needs to call me. I sooo sick of my lack of sex life, its torture.

Jack T. Chance
01-24-2009, 10:43 PM
Love the topic. I will not be part of the V-day club but and content with my singlehood.

But I have to say with so many single guys on here, one of you needs to call me. I sooo sick of my lack of sex life, its torture.:lol:

Ya know, I hadn't decided to go there yet, but needless to say... *In best Bill Clinton voice* "I feel your pain." ;)

Of course, it might help if you gave people a wee bit more info about yourself, such as your age and location! ;)

Miyon
01-24-2009, 10:55 PM
:D 37, Ohio.

Back in 1995 I met my ex-husband online (egads AOL) on V-Day, around 3am in a Stars Wars chat room. Both of us were not looking for someone, just bored and online. So that day doesnt really have a special place in my heart, him being my Ex-husband.

But in past relationships I sadly would get all giggity if I got flowers though, its in my genes, I cant help it I swear.

BookstoreEscapee
01-25-2009, 01:14 AM
The only good thing about Valentine's day is the chocolate covered cherries :D

guywithashovel
01-25-2009, 01:54 AM
Even though I'm perpetually single, and sometimes get down over that fact, Valentine's Day really doesn't bother me all that much. In fact, anymore now, I honestly don't notice it.

Well, actually, saying that I'm perpetually single isn't exactly accurate. I have had a few dates, and one thing that would have turned into a relationship had she not had to move just when we were getting started (job offer). But I've had nothing long term, so I guess I'm not too far off from being perpetually single.

After reading this thread, I noticed something. It's something I noticed the first time I joined CS several years ago. This message board has quite a bit of people who claim to be single and want nothing to do with a relationship. I wonder if very many of these people really feel this way, or if they are just saying "F*ck relationships, don't want one" in efforts to ward off their lonliness. I'm not suggesting that to be vindictive or passive aggressive. I'm just saying that because I've actually done this very thing before.

protege
01-25-2009, 03:06 AM
Protege, aren't you sounding a little hypocritical there. First you say "Fuck Valentine's Day", and then you go onto say that you'll spend precious 'quality' time with your true love...(your MG).... go on - admit it... isn't that the real love of your life?? :D :D :D

Well, what can I say...other than the car understands me. But, there are just some things you can't do in a sports car...and I'll leave that up to one's imagination :p

Guywithashovel, I hear you on that one. It's not that I'm saying "screw relationships," but I've simply grown tired of wasting my time. I gave up, in other words.

Becks
01-25-2009, 03:42 AM
I'm in a committed (heh) relationship, and I *despise* Valentine's Day.

I don't get anything. :(

karath
01-25-2009, 09:08 AM
After reading this thread, I noticed something. It's something I noticed the first time I joined CS several years ago. This message board has quite a bit of people who claim to be single and want nothing to do with a relationship. I wonder if very many of these people really feel this way, or if they are just saying "F*ck relationships, don't want one" in efforts to ward off their lonliness. I'm not suggesting that to be vindictive or passive aggressive. I'm just saying that because I've actually done this very thing before.

Well, guy, first I've got to say I cracked up when I read your name.

And, moving back on to the subject at hand...speaking for myself, I've yet to see any relationship among my friends end in any way other than catastrophe. My own relationship lasted for a mere two months, and while I do miss the physical and emotional intimacy...quite honestly, I really feel I'm better off single. I may very well mature and be ready to share my life with someone in the future, but I'm going to declare "fuck relationships, don't want to be in one" loud and long until that time.

Akasa
01-25-2009, 10:39 AM
Something those posting in this thread may enjoy:
http://myuglyvalentine.com/category/user-generated-valentines/

Jester
01-25-2009, 02:10 PM
I am to assume "Love Stinks" was among them?

And this is why we don't assume, kids!

No, that was not one of the songs. It would have been, but the format was alternative music, so that was not one of my options. But yeah, we had some doozies.

"I have a microphone, and you don't. SO YOU WILL LISTEN TO EVERY DAMN WORD I HAVE TO SAY."

"Wedding Singer," right? Having DJ'd weddings for four years as well as having DJ'd at a couple of bars, I very much know that particular sentiment!

Even so, if *one* more relative remind me that I don't have anyone...I'm going to hit them.

I'll loan you my Louisville Slugger.

But I have to say with so many single guys on here, one of you needs to call me. I sooo sick of my lack of sex life, its torture.

You are in Ohio. I don't do cold. Get down to the Keys, and we'll talk.

Hell, what's one more in my suddenly expanding harem? :lol:

Slytovhand
01-25-2009, 02:14 PM
I'm in a committed (heh) relationship, and I *despise* Valentine's Day.

I don't get anything. :(

*Hands cookies


Guy, I can only speak for myself (well, no, I can choose to speak for everyone else, not sure they'd want me to, though :p), but I've emotionally detached myself from people. I'm a loner. I moved 1000 miles to a city I've never been in before, and basically have no real friends here. And, to be honest, I don't really miss the ones 'back home'. So, relationship??? Meh.... I'm quite comfortable in my own space, and this 'intimacy' thing doesn't really mean much to me at all..... (course, be nice to have ppl buy me things :D)

crazylegs
01-25-2009, 03:00 PM
Bah, this valentines day/night I'll be looking after students at the local University who, by the end of the night, will have drunk far too much and will invariably pass out in the most awkward of places.

So for me this St. Valentines day will be all about the unpleasant bodily fluids! :lol:

JoitheArtist
01-25-2009, 03:54 PM
Heh. This page always cheers me up immensely around Valentine's Day:

http://www.capnwacky.com/valentines/valcard1.html

Nyoibo
01-25-2009, 04:25 PM
But I have to say with so many single guys on here, one of you needs to call me. I sooo sick of my lack of sex life, its torture.

Now if I had have know that while I was in Ohio a while back.

SorryIsGoodEnough
01-25-2009, 04:47 PM
I love Valentine's Day. I have ever since I was 16 and my 20 year old boyfriend took me out and gave me the best Valentine's Day ever.

That said....

I'm 21 and single. I really had hoped to have someone this year, as I haven't had anyone on Valentine's Day since that one guy, but....

*sigh*

Sonoma
01-25-2009, 05:03 PM
I am to assume "Love Stinks" was among them?

And this is why we don't assume, kids!

No, that was not one of the songs. It would have been, but the format was alternative music, so that was not one of my options. But yeah, we had some doozies.


But it was one of the songs my friend played on her college 80s music radio show. If the Vault fell on Valentines Day, we did a similar theme night, and Love Stinks was always on the playlist.

Jester
01-25-2009, 05:27 PM
But it was one of the songs my friend played on her college 80s music radio show.

Had my show BEEN an 80's show, I could have very well done that. But it was the Sunday Hangover Special, and had no special format other than the station's normal alternative format and my own screwy brand of commentary and stunts. (As far as I know, I was the first DJ in the state of Arizona to bungee jump on the air.)

I do believe, however, that one of our selections was Transvision Vamp's classic "Down on My Knees Again." :devil:

And of course Social Distortion's "Ball and Chain!" Listening to it now......

Well it's been ten years, and a thousand tears
And look at the mess I'm in-
A broken nose and a broken heart,
An empty bottle of gin
Well I sit and I pray
In my broken down Chevrolet-
While I'm singin' to myself
There's got to be another way

Take away, take away
Take away this ball and chain
I'm lonely and I'm tired
And I can't take any more pain
Take away, take away
Never to return again
Take away, take away
Take away this ball and chain

Bella_Vixen
01-26-2009, 05:27 AM
And of course Social Distortion's "Ball and Chain!" Listening to it now......

I LOVE that song.

(Thanks Becks!)

Jester
01-26-2009, 05:47 AM
I just had a thought.

By this Valentine's Day, what with the latest goings on in my life, it is very possible that I could be somewhat involved with more than one woman, slightly possible that it could be as many as 4 (okay, that is probably wishful thinking, but not completely impossible).

Thank GOODNESS I'll be working all day that day at The Bar! (And my managers better not let me down on the scheduling end of that!) :lol:

Becks
01-26-2009, 06:33 AM
(Thanks Becks!)

Anytime, Lizziebeff. :D

Giggle Goose
01-27-2009, 03:03 AM
Ugh, the worst V-Day was in 2007, and this guy I was dating for only a few weeks sent me this ridiculously sized teddy bear. I barely had any room for it in the apartment. It was way too cheesy and forced, and I ended up dumping him a couple weeks later (which I was planning to do before, but he was the kind of sap that would be completely ruined if I did it on that "special" day). I gave the teddy bear to a kindergarten class I had subbed recently. :ashamed: I know, i know, it's terrible, but we were so NOT right for each other that it was the best thing to do.

My guy and I will probably just cook dinner. He treats me better than any guy I've ever dated, so we don't need some dumb cards and candy to "prove" anything. I think his roommate and his gf are into that goofy dinner reservation crap, so hopefully we'll have the place to ourselves.

I actually wish I was single! Then I wouldn't have to feel gulity about gathering up my best buds and gorging on candy, which always makes for a wonderful day to me :D

Amina516
01-27-2009, 03:04 AM
I dont put much stock in Valentines, and Ive been married for 5 years. Its just another day...we do get things for our kids though.





So, uh....Happy VD everyone?









(I dont mean valentines...i mean venereal disease. You all got it from opening this thread. Enjoy!!)

Irving Patrick Freleigh
01-27-2009, 03:07 AM
(I dont mean valentines...i mean venereal disease. You all got it from opening this thread. Enjoy!!)
:burnup:

If I don't see you in line with me at the free clinic, we're gonna have a problem. :lol:

Antisocial_Worker
01-27-2009, 03:31 PM
Ah yes... Valentine's Day. I think over the course of 9 years of dating I might have had someone to celebrate it with once.

But what the hey, it gives me an excuse to trot out for your viewing pleasure my litany of horrible boyfriends. People tend not to believe me when I say that I am among the unluckiest people on the planet when it comes to love, but read it and weep, I say.

God knows I have.

Boyfriend No. 1 -- Cheated, caught HIV, passed it along. Was also abusive, and I still have scars on my naughty bits from him.

Boyfriend No. 2 -- Couldn't figure out if he was gay or straight, and so we broke up like clockwork once a month. I've known women whose periods were less reliable. Finally, the day after I learned I'd caught HIV from BF1, he dumped me for good.

Boyfriend No. 3 -- Great guy when he was on my turf in NC. When I was on his turf in Arkansas, I didn't come first. I didn't come second or third or fourth. His friend, the bar, and alcohol all came before me. And be sure to ask me about the play. At any rate, when I learned that in addition to all of this he was also a meth-addicted alcoholic, we parted company.

Boyfriend No. 4 -- Clinically insane. Told me he wanted to leave Chicago and move to a smaller place with a slower pace of life (ie, here). When I asked him during his visit if he liked it enough to stay, he told me that was too big a decision to make and it was unfair of me to ask him that. Soon everything fell under that category, including when I asked him if he would prefer Coke or Pepsi to drink.

Boyfriend No. 5 -- Nice guy and we talk to this day, and he still wants me back to this day. God help me, but I'm considering it. What happened here was that he realized he was really, truly falling in love with me and decided that the best way to deal with this terrifying prospect was to disappear and cut off all contact for more than a month. By the time he resurfaced, I told him to go to hell.

Boyfriend No. 6 -- I thought this one was a nice guy, and he actually lived with me for about eight months, before his cousin who lived with us and who I despise(d), talked him into dumping me. After he left, I found a note on the closet floor with the names, addresses, phone numbers, and directions to four different guys' houses. Since then I've also had three different men tell me they had a great time with him. They were able to describe accurately some of his more distinctive peccadilloes, so I tend to believe them over him.

Boyfriend No. 7 -- Nice guy, but young and by default, stupid. It was a classic case of him not being all that into me, and he thought the best way to let me know was to stop talking to me. Finally, I broke up with him in order to run into the arms of...

Boyfriend No. 8 -- I think I actually fell in love here. But, he couldn't handle the fact that my life stinks on ice and always has and always will. My parents are dying, my job was making me suicidal, HIV is still incurable, and there were other things that at the time made my life a living hell. He preferred sunshine and roses when on my best days all I can work up to are humidity and crabgrass. And yet again, he thought the best way to let me know was to vanish for a month. To this day he still tells me that he loves me and always will but he can't be with me, and that doing what he did hurt him more than it hurt me. To this day I still tell him I wish he was dead.

Boyfriend No. 9 -- A wonderful man who wasn't compatible with me and who I wasn't compatible with. When he came to visit from Oklahoma, we spent the entire time either boring or irritating each other. I sent him back to the Midwest single and it was for the best.

Boyfriend No. 10 -- I think I fell in love again, this time to a very busy TV producer from Charlotte. God, he was wonderful. Said all the right things, knew how I was feeling, called to see how I was doing or what I was feeling, listened... And three times we tried to arrange a meeting. The last thing I heard from him was that he was getting in his car to come see me. That was December 2. The only way I know he's not dead is because for a few weeks solid, I checked the Charlotte Observer obituaries.

Now, having said all that I can honestly say I'm okay with being alone although I'm not by any means happy about it. I figure I must be severely defective if, at the age of 28, I'm such a goblin that I can run off 10 different men. The thought of feeling anything for me is so terrifying that it has sent three of them into hiding.

And silly me for thinking that I am at my most attractive and most desirable here in my 20's.

Perhaps I feel that so strongly because with every passing day, my face looks more and more like a rubber mask. Having seen my mother and known how she has aged during a lifetime of relentless stress and sorrow, I am going to age ugly. And this means that if I don't find someone now, when I still look more or less human, I won't have a snowball's chance later on when I look like something out of a story you'd use to frighten little children into behaving.

Also, I always wanted a family and it's not like I'm getting any younger on that front either. On the off chance I do find someone, I don't want to get into a situation where I have to wear diapers about the same time the kids don't anymore. But, seeing as I will almost certainly die alone -- and be one of those people who nobody notices until unspeakable fluids start leaking into the apartment below -- it's not like I'll really have to worry about it at all.

Not that I'm bitter.

I think it's really a matter of how my biggest fears are of ending up alone and of having to face the death of my parents, who are dying horrible deaths in very slow motion, alone. In my life, you get to face your deepest fears whether you want to or not. Obviously, my mistake was not realizing this in time to bluff, and say that my biggest fear is finding my one true love and adopting a passel of babies right off. Had I known, I'm certain I'd be attending PTA meetings right this moment and cooking up a stew for whenever the other half got home from work.

Damn hindsight.

Dreamstalker
01-27-2009, 06:57 PM
The ex is probably going to attempt to call and initiate either phone- or cybersex, as he has done for the past 2 years....or is it 3? (Not Interested and you know it, this year isn't any different kthx). The half-assed tries are good for a later laugh though; you'd think he gets ideas from Z-grade porn or phone sex lines, whichever has more pathetic scripts.

I'll probably have my nose stuck in a Networks+ text whilst trying to keep my muses from destroying things (guys, if you want to blow something up, can't it be the upstairs neighbor's stereo?).

Racket_Man
01-28-2009, 03:48 PM
Did you know that we also seem to have a "Sweetheart Day" as well? It's a couple days before Halloween.

They must've decided to pull that one to get more money. :rolleyes:
back in my childhood Valentines Days was kinda fun. then I moved on to my HS years and it was still fun but.......

then I got married and it got gradually forced down my throat and up my ass as the MALE I was EXPECTED to do all of the normal "bullshit" ie. flowers cards maybe dinner, etc. (never had the $$$ for jewelry and such although she HINTED very strongly for that several times).

well that did not do any good as a 20 year marriage went down the tubes over really stupid stuff that I did not cause

then along came SWEETEST DAY. another manufactured "holiday" for us guys to sweat over. My Ex gave me literal HELL for calling this day for what it is a FALSE Hallmark manufactured "special" day

there is one particular set of commercials that bugs the SHIT out of me. some of my fellow Wisconsinites will regocnize this chain. I believe he is state wide

Hi I am Richiard Kessler and I want to be YOUR jewelry store. it is that SPECIAL time of year (that most men hate) when you NEED to say how much you love your wife or SO or Girlfriend or current fuck buddy blah blah blah blahtty blah (you get the idea) diamond blah blah sparkle blah blah eye light up blah blah hero (implied sexual favors) blah blah blah greatest husband ever blah blah blah

:flame::chipper::puke::runaway:



he runs these commercials soooo often I just started talking over the radio (even at work) by saying I am RK and I want you to shove a large ROman Candle up my ass and light it and watch me explode in a shower of sparks and smoke

I like Jester usually want to work on Valentines Day because it seems that there are people who actually STAY HOME on this day and wnat pizza delivered. the last couple of years have been very very good for me in that aspect. other than that it is just another day.

the_std
01-28-2009, 04:48 PM
I am generally not an angry or bitter person when it comes to ex-boyfriends or Hallmark holidays, but this year I think I will be getting drunk as a rage-filled, possibly homicidal, skunk.

Is it just me, or do people seem to pull the most dick moves around potentially-significant calendar dates?

Akasa
01-28-2009, 11:26 PM
Is it just me, or do people seem to pull the most dick moves around potentially-significant calendar dates?

Yes they do.

Gawdzillers
01-28-2009, 11:50 PM
It's on a Saturday.
So no school, yay.
But I have to work, boo.
Maybe If I'm lucky, everyone will be home having sex so that I can sweep and mop in peace. Maybe I'll get super lucky and get to listen to my radio instead of the moldy oldies they always play over the loudspeaker.

KellyHabersham
01-29-2009, 12:51 AM
I think the worst Valentine's Day for me was during my senior year of high school - my sister (who was a sophomore at the time) had recently gotten together with the guy whom I was interested in (and yes, she was aware of that), he got her all this cute stuff for Valentine's, and I felt like I was expected to be happy for them and NOT be upset. Since then, I've discovered that the guy in question wasn't someone whom I'd ever have been happy with, but at the time, it really made me feel like shit.

Nyoibo
01-29-2009, 01:09 AM
Hi I am Richiard Kessler and I want to be YOUR jewelry store. it is that SPECIAL time of year (that most men hate) when you NEED to say how much you love your wife or SO or Girlfriend or current fuck buddy blah blah blah blahtty blah (you get the idea) diamond blah blah sparkle blah blah eye light up blah blah hero (implied sexual favors) blah blah blah greatest husband ever blah blah blah


Makes me think if the phrase "Diamonds, she'll pretty much have to"

prb
01-29-2009, 01:13 AM
I got this e-mail today. Sigh... more commercialization of a commercially-created holiday. um... wait.
http://img405.imageshack.us/img405/5596/12315925ui2.png

Bella_Vixen
01-29-2009, 06:04 AM
I like Kessler's commercials...


I wish they'd play the really cute one again. "Pick me! Pick me!!"

RetailWorkhorse
01-29-2009, 06:54 AM
if they are just saying "F*ck relationships, don't want one" in efforts to ward off their lonliness.

I'm just too lazy to maintain a relationship. (Insert sleeping smilie here)


Damn hindsight.

Hindsight is ever 20-20.

*Hugs tight*

Racket_Man
01-29-2009, 03:09 PM
I like Kessler's commercials...


I wish they'd play the really cute one again. "Pick me! Pick me!!"

I just find him or his voice very annoying not sure which. its either a condecending attitude on his part or to me his voice sounds like fingernails on a blackboard

Bella_Vixen
01-30-2009, 05:03 AM
To each his own. :wave:

I'll tell you what, though.

That is the ONLY jewelry store I have ever been to that the employees honestly made me feel like I was the best customer in the world whenever I'd go in and buy a gold rose. And it was sincere.

I know I don't look like I have money to spend (even when I do), and from the second I walked in, you would have thought that I had a million dollars to give away.

AdminAssistant
01-30-2009, 01:37 PM
I actually do have someone to spend the day with...but I looked at my pill pack this morning and realized that Mother Nature hates me. :(

So, I'm going to suggest moving the day. That should work, right?

the_std
01-30-2009, 03:11 PM
Okay, after another development, I have decided: screw Valentine's Day. I will be going out and getting plastered that night and you're all free to join me! I'll buy! :D

Jack T. Chance
02-05-2009, 10:27 PM
Okay, after another development, I have decided: screw Valentine's Day. I will be going out and getting plastered that night and you're all free to join me! I'll buy! :DToo bad I won't be up there in Canada! But you have fun partying! :yes:

And now, a special Valentine's Day Singles Awareness Day message from your friends at Miller:

http://www.joetheprogrammer.net/images/beer.jpg

:roll:

Kusanagi
02-05-2009, 11:13 PM
Singles Awareness Day is the day I reflect on all the problems my dear friends tell me about their current relationships and think to myself "Thank god"

LibraryLady
02-06-2009, 12:41 AM
I've been happily married for over 25 years but My DH and I much prefer Single Awareness Day to the Hallmark Holiday of Valentine's Day. As understand it, the proper color for the day is Navy Blue. We'll go with that.

No roses, no cards, no wine. He goes out with his single friends on February 14th and I go out with my single friends. We see it as a relief from marriage and enjoy ourselves thoroughly in innocent ways.

Am I a hypocrite? Perhaps, but I like sharing love with friends on that day instead of the insular love that people in a loving relationship shouldn't need a day to celebrate.

Jester
02-06-2009, 01:27 AM
Am I a hypocrite?

Absolutely NOT.

Valentine's Day is allegedly about love. So you are showing your love for your friends while also showing the strength of your marriage by NOT having to be with your husband on this day.

Well, what about those who say that Valentine's Day is about ROMANCE? Fine. Let's go with that for a moment. Why do I get the feeling that you (and probably your husband) are the type of person that, while out with your single friends, will not hesitate to, and might even go out of your way to, help them hook up romantically with someone that strikes their eye or fancy?

And that just reminds me how BAD most of my friends are at being wingmen/women. Grrr..... :lol:

Racket_Man
02-06-2009, 03:52 PM
To each his own. :wave:

I'll tell you what, though.

That is the ONLY jewelry store I have ever been to that the employees honestly made me feel like I was the best customer in the world whenever I'd go in and buy a gold rose. And it was sincere.

I know I don't look like I have money to spend (even when I do), and from the second I walked in, you would have thought that I had a million dollars to give away.

I do not doubt that his stores treat people with respect irrespective of thier appearance or financial situation. that is part of his adverts/appeal. it is just the condecending commercials I dislike - that sickly sweet nails on a blackboard voice he has or does for the adverts IMO

Dreamstalker
02-06-2009, 05:28 PM
What about the Jared commercials? Yuck. (although I do confess, the one with the HAL-esque GPS is amusing)

Diamonds IMO are overrated.

Samaliel
02-06-2009, 05:56 PM
I figure I must be severely defective if, at the age of 28, I'm such a goblin that I can run off 10 different men.

At age 26, I had a grand total of two relationships, both of which lasted a fortnight.

I understand I had an overall much easier life than you (and how ! :eek:). But as far as love is concerned... Well, at least abstinence is still the best way to keep away from STD. I count this as a plus.

I'm currently in my 3rd, and longest lived relationship. I will spend the Singles' Awareness Day with my very Significant Other (yes, I'm completely smitten). Something very important for the both of us might happen.

But I'll try to have a thought for all singles around here, whether they wish they were in a relationship or they hope they never will be, or they don't care at all.

protege
02-06-2009, 07:48 PM
Well, I did get something for my "true love." Er, actually several things...

Things like the missing chrome strip for the hood, a new switch for the dashboard lights, new covers for the struts that hold up the rear hatch, plus new badges for said rear hatch.... :lol:

the_std
02-06-2009, 10:19 PM
Well, at least abstinence is still the best way to keep away from STD.

Abstinence is no guarantee for keeping me at bay! :D

Jack T. Chance
02-07-2009, 12:08 AM
Well, I did get something for my "true love." Er, actually several things...

Things like the missing chrome strip for the hood, a new switch for the dashboard lights, new covers for the struts that hold up the rear hatch, plus new badges for said rear hatch.... :lol:Tonight, on an all new episode of "Pimp My Ride"... :lol:

Jester
02-07-2009, 05:33 PM
What about the Jared commercials? Yuck.

I actually hate the Jared commercials about as much as I hate the FreeCreditReport.com commercials. And I think we ALL know how much I hate THOSE fuckers. :burnup:

As for the 14th, I am currently scheduled to work that night at The Bar serving tables, though I was not able to get the double I requested. Towards that end, I have asked to be scheduled for the day shift at the Waterfront Bar, my other (very occasional) job.

Amusingly, while I am currently flirting with three lovelies, due to my work schedule, I have no worries about any expectations any of them may have of me. Plus it is likely that they are all working themselves.

I will, however, be celebrating the two things I celebrate every February 14th:

1. the anniversary of my Mom and Dad's wedding (1957), and
2. Arizona's birthday (1912). My home state will celebrate its 97th anniversary of being admitted to the Union as the 48th State.

These two events are, to me, far more important than any lame, phony, bullshit Hallmark holiday.

Boomer
02-07-2009, 06:53 PM
My favorite ex-girlfriend and I celebrate Singles Awareness Day together (if we're both single at the time, which we usually are). Among the day's activities are going to the card shop and reading each other Valentine's Day cards in phony East European accents. Trust me: it's actually rather amusing to hear the flowery poetry read that way, unless there happens to be actual East Europeans in the store at the time. Then things can get a little chippy.

Then we end the night with a good one for old time's sake, a pleasure considerably enhanced by the knowledge that it's only once a year.

Jack T. Chance
02-07-2009, 07:45 PM
My favorite ex-girlfriend and I celebrate Singles Awareness Day together (if we're both single at the time, which we usually are). Among the day's activities are going to the card shop and reading each other Valentine's Day cards in phony East European accents. Trust me: it's actually rather amusing to hear the flowery poetry read that way, unless there happens to be actual East Europeans in the store at the time. Then things can get a little chippy.

Then we end the night with a good one for old time's sake, a pleasure considerably enhanced by the knowledge that it's only once a year.Ah, Friends With Benefits... those are the best kind of friends to have! :eyewaggle:

Sadly, my FWBs are now in long-term relationships, so I no longer have that option. :blink:

protege
02-07-2009, 10:39 PM
Tonight, on an all new episode of "Pimp My Ride"... :lol:

Nope, no bling-bling on this car. The bright orange paint and loud exhaust draws enough attention as it is :lol:

Sarlon
02-08-2009, 06:02 AM
singles awareness day will include gaming all night with my friends (all but one whos in a relationship), and fight a massive war!

normally however I'll be home alone with a bottle of wine, a "guy" movie (guns, big explosions, etc.), chocolate, and a nice dinner (made by myself).

a few days after singles awareness day though....I celebrate my parents wedding aniversery (34 years this year). :D

Nyoibo
02-08-2009, 01:00 PM
I do believe I'm just going to take a bottle of alcohol and crawl into a hole.

Jester
02-08-2009, 02:44 PM
I do believe I'm just going to take a bottle of alcohol and crawl into a hole.

Now that's no way to celebrate the holiday! It is about being reveling in whatever situation you are in and, more importantly, thumbing your nose at those wankers that think this is an actual holiday.

Okay, it's official, I've been talking to too many Brits. I just used the word "wankers." http://www.spokanestreetracing.com/forums/images/smiles/crybaby2.gif

powerboy
02-10-2009, 09:57 PM
This year, I am going to have a third date on Valentines day.

Jester
02-11-2009, 02:51 AM
This year, I am going to have a third date on Valentines day.

It's not that we all hate you.

Wait....actually, yes it is. We all hate you.

InSearchOfSunset
02-11-2009, 01:59 PM
best thing about v day.. the discount chocolate the day after :lol: and knowing me I'll sleep through the day ( I work nights so this is common) wake up around midnight, shrug and watch some movies ... like every sat :D

Jester
02-12-2009, 04:29 AM
I am now officially working a "mixed double": a day shift at one bar and a night shift at the other.

Luckily, though, I have Sundays off. Perfect chance to sleep in and recover. :D

Mike Taylor
02-14-2009, 12:35 AM
I have family coming down for the night. They're taking me back to Georgia to pick up a replacement for my crapped out automobile. I'll take that as a Valentine present.

DGoddessChardonnay
02-14-2009, 01:19 AM
I'm working half a day tomorrow at the Litter Box (need to run backstock and get an order put together and sent off for Tuesday's delivery.)

Other than that, I'll be home and hopefully getting some pictures hung up on the walls in the bedroom so the walls aren't so nekkid . . .

If not, I'll be hanging out online or taking a good long nap.;)

lupo pazzesco
02-14-2009, 02:55 AM
I have the day off, so I plan on cleaning house, cooking for the week and just being lazy. Mebbe catching up on some homework.

I was hanging out with EQ tonight, and dear gods, the sheer number of red tents that have popped up on street corners selling gaudy oversized teddy bears and sparkly heart type things and.... <shudders> I'm scaring myself... T_T

Jack T. Chance
02-14-2009, 03:53 AM
It's not that we all hate you.

Wait....actually, yes it is. We all hate you.I'll definitely second that sentiment! :yes:

If you have a Valentine this year, I hate you, it's as simple as that. It's nothing personal, it's just on general principles! :p

Becks
02-14-2009, 04:53 AM
I get to work from 6pm until midnight (Central time).

FUN!!! :D

SG15Z
02-14-2009, 05:30 AM
Well I'm pulling a 3rd shift out in the tent and get off at 6am so I have the rest of the day to myself. I'll be sleeping first then finishing laundry and calling a certain landlord to make sure she got my app for some apartments I hope to move to soon. ;)

Other than that no plans. Just another day.

smileyeagle1021
02-14-2009, 12:25 PM
I'm just getting off a grave, work another grave tonight, my time not spent at work or sleeping I will be cooking for next week, cleaning, and doing homework. Oh, and both my roommates are happily in relationships and will be out of the condo all day... so for singles awareness day I will have nothing but the companionship... of my cat.

AKA, it's a normal saturday for me :(

crazylegs
02-14-2009, 03:15 PM
Bah. The function that I was supposed to be helping out at has been cancelled so I'll be here, at home with bugger all to do!

Rine
02-14-2009, 04:52 PM
I am babysitting four children tonight so their parents can go out for a romantic dinner. Oi.

:cry:

Well...at least I'll get some money out of it...

Diablo
02-14-2009, 05:01 PM
Wow I am late to the party...
You know the day before Valentine's Day is National Mistress Day. Can't take the lady on the side the day after cause then they think they are an after thought. As it is said in Goodfellas "Saturdays are for the wives, Fridays are for the girlfriends"

Worst V-Day for me? Actually at the time, I was deployed and completely forgot about it, along with my own birthday, my sister's wedding, two family funerals. No point in tracking the days since otherwise you'll go fucking insane. Get back three months later...no one is at the pier for me. I couldn't even get a ride the first day. So what is up with the Significant Other? I couldn't even get her to return my calls. I finally get a ride the next day and she is just chilling in my apartment.

Now I don't want to sound sexist, but there are huge differences between men and women. I have gotten into a brutal fist fight on the boat over the way a guy was breathing through his nose (again, six plus months locked in a room with people make you go apeshit) but afterward, it was no big deal. Us guys are like that it seems. We come to blows on something quick and its over. Women, and again this is my limited experience, will hold onto something and just let it fester.

So back to the story...She didn't pick me up, return my calls, or even acknowledge I was alive, after being gone for seven months, cause I didn't call her on Valentine's day. I was in the middle of a fucking war zone and had emailed her, but I didn't call her. Never mind that a satellite phone cost $20 to use whether or not the 5 minute call goes through, no I was a insensitive dick for not making it happen.

Going that long on a ship filled with men, I was wired enough with sexual tension, I would have fucked a vacuum cleaner. And yet, that day was spent be me kicking her out of the apartment. No sex for me that day.



As for this Valentine's day, I will end up hanging out with my fellow college students, even though they are 9 years younger than me, they are the only people I know in this town, and I will invariably be a witness to a half a dozen annoying teenage couples fall into and out of love on this utterly bogus and fake holiday.

the_std
02-15-2009, 01:16 AM
Freakin' V-Day... True to my word, I am getting drunk! But it's at home, watching Family Guy and talking to friends in other cities over IM. What an exciting life!

Greenday
02-15-2009, 01:52 AM
Another night in for me. Everyone 21 or older is going out. Another friend is going to the beach for the entire day with some guy she's interested in (How she could make such major plans with this guy and not realize it's V-Day is beyond me. I honestly don't believe that. I think she just didn't want me to be hurt.). One friend has a friend from home stopping by for the weekend because her friend has a interview in Philly on Monday (That's another thing, why the hell don't I have off for President's Day? I'm in a state school.). Pretty much everyone else is busy. Pretty lame. I hate not doing anything.

AdminAssistant
02-15-2009, 03:11 AM
Well, I'm sitting at home....alone.... and very pissed and upset and hurt. :(.

Ree
02-15-2009, 05:19 AM
This was my first Valentine's Day in 23 years that I was alone, but you know what?
I refuse to rain on anyone's parade over a holiday set aside to celebrate romance.

I get so ticked off at all this negativity over the holiday.

Prior to my meeting the man I married, I had already spent 25 Valentine's Days alone.
In fact, in Grade 1, due to the fact that I was incredibly shy and not that popular, I only got 1 Valentine...from my cousin who was in my class. That one hurt, and stuck with me for a long time.

Even at that, I never got all pissy about the celebration of this day.

Before I had a child I didn't get bent out of shape about a holiday like Mother's or Father's Day set aside to honour parenthood.


I do my job very well, but I don't get all jealous and pissy when they have a day set aside to honour Secretaries.

It's just a commercialized holiday celebrating romance, the same as every other holiday in honour of stuff.

I deal with it.

Yeah, it was damned hard this year, but instead of getting gloomy about the "haves" celebrating, making the "have nots" feel bad I just took time to reflect and remember what I had.

RetailWorkhorse
02-15-2009, 05:53 AM
I worked a double shift today, then hit The Diner with Dad to get a bite to eat.

TT pokes fun at Dad saying I was too young to be his "date". :roll:

Oh, TT, if only you knew I'm not a girl. :rolleyes:

I need to do some artwork. I'm in the mood for it.

Greenday
02-15-2009, 06:39 AM
This was my first Valentine's Day in 23 years that I was alone, but you know what?
I refuse to rain on anyone's parade over a holiday set aside to celebrate romance.

If someone currently in a relationship, I'm not going to give them crap over celebrating Valentine's Day. But that doesn't change that I feel that it's a ridiculous holiday. I just don't see what's wrong with the other 364 days of the year that there has to be one special day to point out how much more awesome it is to be dating than not.

Went over to my best friend's (a.k.a. ex-girlfriend) place tonight since we haven't been able to hang out lately. I asked her about her day at the beach with her current interest and she told me about it, fine. She then asked for advice on something, which I was reluctant too, but fine. Then, as I was trying to convince her that her bed is more comfy for sleeping than the couch, she was saying she didn't want to go to bed because it's too big and feels empty. I, joking around, said well, I'll take the other half since her bed is more comfy than mine, but then said I was just kidding. Then she said, "No, I just want to cuddle with *current interest*" Hurt pretty badly.

JuniorMintz
02-15-2009, 06:56 AM
This was my first Valentine's Day in 23 years that I was alone, but you know what?
I refuse to rain on anyone's parade over a holiday set aside to celebrate romance.

I get so ticked off at all this negativity over the holiday.

Prior to my meeting the man I married, I had already spent 25 Valentine's Days alone.
In fact, in Grade 1, due to the fact that I was incredibly shy and not that popular, I only got 1 Valentine...from my cousin who was in my class. That one hurt, and stuck with me for a long time.

Even at that, I never got all pissy about the celebration of this day.

Before I had a child I didn't get bent out of shape about a holiday like Mother's or Father's Day set aside to honour parenthood.


I do my job very well, but I don't get all jealous and pissy when they have a day set aside to honour Secretaries.

It's just a commercialized holiday celebrating romance, the same as every other holiday in honour of stuff.

I deal with it.

Yeah, it was damned hard this year, but instead of getting gloomy about the "haves" celebrating, making the "have nots" feel bad I just took time to reflect and remember what I had.


Entire post quoted for emphasis/awesomeness.

This entire week I have been busting ass writing term papers and preparing for mid terms-when I'm not at work, anyway. I *just* finished taking the first half of my online mid term, but I swapped cards and treats with my family.

Tomorrow, I will get to spend time with Richard, if he doesn't get called in to work. If he does, I'll get a nap in and it will still be a good day.

To me, Valentine's Day is just a fun fluff holiday that gives me yet another excuse to spoil my niece and nephews and goof off with my family. Any reason to eat cupcakes and laugh at funny (read: stupid) cards, I'll take it.

I'm sorry if some of you are bitter and I don't mean to pee in anyone's cornflakes, but I hope you'll do me the same courtesy and not think me an idiot for enjoying the holiday.

Now Happy Freaking Valentine's Day, ya Goobers!

Shpepper
02-15-2009, 07:00 AM
I spent the day shopping with my mom and the evening finding new music. I've never been a big fan of V Day even as a kid. Last year it was made sucky by the fact that my husband thought he had to do something and did thoughtless things. This year i don't have to deal with him anymore. He ran home to Momma in November.

So this was actually one of my better V Days

edible_hat
02-15-2009, 11:34 AM
I worked for 8 hours, then visited my future in-laws and sat around playing WoW and drinking wine that was way better than it had any right to be considering what I paid for it.

Because I had to get up early on the day, my fiance and I exchanged gifts the night before. I got chocolate and underwear, she got assorted gourmet candy.

Nyoibo
02-15-2009, 12:09 PM
I don't have a problem with Valentines day so much as the commercialism of it, and having it shoved in my face reminding me of what I don't have and made to feel like there's something wrong with me because I don't.

smileyeagle1021
02-15-2009, 12:14 PM
Well, I'm sitting at home....alone.... and very pissed and upset and hurt. :(.

hey, look at it this way... you could be sitting at WORK... alone... and very pissed and upset and hurt...

that would be me.

Slytovhand
02-15-2009, 12:18 PM
Well, I began the day working, then went home and slept, woke up, did some exercisey type stuff after checking emails and the like.. then came to work again... great!

oh, I apparently got an sms, but I haven't returned it, and it was just a basic "how are you" thing.

So - yet another eventful and meaningless day gone :D

AdminAssistant
02-15-2009, 04:38 PM
I ate most of a DiGiorno's pizza, watched Kill Bill, Vol. 1...in the middle of that got the 'busy tonight, sry' message from BoyThing. Proceeded to get really upset, cried for a few hours, drank myself silly, and passed out around 1.

I suppose he's one of those that thinks it's just 'another day' but it's really not. And I'm sorry, but I like roses and candies and fluffy girly stuff like that. My birthday isn't just 'another day' and if there's not cake and candles at some point I'm going to be upset. I'm still pretty ticked...he has to work today, but I'm hoping we can talk at some point. It's another straw on the camel's back....

Jester
02-15-2009, 06:39 PM
I get to work from 6pm until midnight (Central time).

I spent the entire day working. And when I say "entire day," I mean I worked from 9 am until about 4:45 pm waiting tables at a busy Waterfront Bar, had a brief break to eat some grub, and then waited tables at The Bar from 6 pm until about 11 pm, where once again I was busy, though surprisingly not with couples, but with several large parties.

It was a great day--I made some decent money, and personally celebrated the two important things that February 14th means to me: the 52 anniversary of when my parents married, and the 97th birthday of my home State of Arizona, which officially joined the Union on February 14, 1912.

I refuse to rain on anyone's parade over a holiday set aside to celebrate romance.

I get so ticked off at all this negativity over the holiday.

Even at that, I never got all pissy about the celebration of this day.

Before I had a child I didn't get bent out of shape about a holiday like Mother's or Father's Day set aside to honour parenthood.

It's just a commercialized holiday celebrating romance, the same as every other holiday in honour of stuff.

Not everyone here who is anti-Valentine's Day is necessarily raining on the parades of those who are celebrating it. I myself do not begrudge ANYONE their enjoyment of this particular day, despite my personal feelings about it. I know I am not alone in this.

Mother's Day and, to a lesser degree, Father's Day are certainly over-commercialized, as are most holidays in this overly commercialized society. However, and this is an important distinction, they are NOT marketed in a way that makes people feel guilty or wrong if they aren't celebrating it. Yes, I am sure that there are people who, for whatever reasons, can't stand Mother's Day. But there are a LOT of people who despise Valentine's Day, probably more than any other single holiday. And it IS the crass and overdone marketing that is associated with it, not to mention the materialism that (some) girls place on it. "You didn't buy me any jewelry? You don't love me!"

I look down my nose at this holiday not only for the ridiculous marketing and commercials (especially from the jewelry industry, who can eat my shorts), but also because, to me, it is an "apology holiday." It is the day of the year that every dude who can't get his shit together with his girlfriend/wife/whatever can save face by buying her this, that, or the other, and make a stab at faking this whole romance thing. Frankly, as a full-time romantic, who likes doing things on a regular basis for whomever I might be dating, I find this alleged holiday insulting and demeaning. I also find disturbing the number of women (because, let's face it, this IS a woman's holiday, for the most part) who believe that if their guy didn't do anything for them, he sucks. Including if he was working, had other commitments, or (as one poster noted) happened to be stationed somewhere far away with the military. That girl, sadly, is not atypical.

Look Ree, as I said, I do not begrudge anyone their right to enjoy this holiday with that certain someone, if they have someone, or to wish for someone if they don't. I think it is great that you are not dwelling on how negative this holiday could have been for you, but rather are reflecting on how many wonderful Valentine's Days you had with your husband. It may surprise some people to know that I am all about celebrating the positive over dwelling on the negative. Well, I try to be, anyways. (Some negative things I have trouble moving on from, I'll admit.) I think it is wonderful that so many people, despite the huge negative sentiment against it, enjoy this holiday in whatever way they do.

But that does not mean I have to like it, or put up with the people and companies that are determined to shove it in my face. Whether or not I have a girlfriend, every Valentine's Day is to me a blazing crock of shit. Most of the girls I have dated have either agreed with me on this, or at least understood my position on it. And most of them have also not had a problem with this position, since they know from personal experience that I do not need one particular day of the year for romance. I don't need an apology holiday.

I make a point out of working as much as possible each and every February 14th, whether I am single or involved. It is good money and it allows me to effectively ignore the so-called holiday.

I suppose he's one of those that thinks it's just 'another day' but it's really not. And I'm sorry, but I like roses and candies and fluffy girly stuff like that. My birthday isn't just 'another day' and if there's not cake and candles at some point I'm going to be upset.

I'm sorry that you, AA, and many others were not able to enjoy this day. I hope things improve. I really do.

A boyfriend/husband who forgets your birthday is a cad. That is a special day to YOU, not one particular day set aside for everyone and their uncle to show how romantic they can be one day a year. Remember, guys, you don't have to wait for their birthday or this (ridiculous, overly commercialized, endlessly hyped, annoyingly materialistic) holiday to give your girl roses, candies, and fluffy girly stuff. And by the way, that goes for you women as well. There is no rule that you can't do something special for your guy on whatever days are special to him. I once had a girlfriend show up to watch a football playoff game looking very sexy in my team's colors. THAT was sweet, and something I very much appreciated, and remember even now, 15 years or so later. Sadly, so much of this holiday IS geared towards guys bending over backwards to express their romantic inclinations to women. It doesn't have to be that way, on this day or any other. Romance, in my opinion, is something that should be expressed often, not just on certain days.



The above sentiments and rants notwithstanding, I DO hope that everyone here who celebrates Valentine's Day enjoyed their day to the utmost. I also hope that everyone here who celebrates it as Singles Awareness Day enjoyed your single day or anti-VD day equally as much.



Now, if you folks will excuse me, I am going to go spend some time on this, my day off after working approximately 12 hours yesterday, with my true love, and the one love interest in my life who has never let me down: Amanda, my bicycle. If anyone needs me, they can wait, as Amanda and I have about 40 miles worth of love we want to knock out. :wave:

Ree
02-15-2009, 07:06 PM
I think there is pressure on people to celebrate, no matter what the holiday, and pretty much every holiday has become commercialized and overdone, so I still don't understand why this holiday has to be such a thorn in everyone's side.

Yeah, when I was alone, I admit to feeling like I was missing out, and my loneliness was probably emphasized more for me on that day, but I didn't get all bitter and think that it was a stupid day that people should just ignore or rename to "Singles' Awareness".

While I agree that love is something that should be recognized and expressed all year long, I don't really have an issue with setting aside just one day to recognize it.

We could probably say the same thing about most holidays and other days of recognition.

We should think every day of contributions made by soldiers, so why set aside one particular day to recognize it on Veteran's Day or Memorial Day?

Martin Luther King was a remarkable man and his life is something that should be remembered and considered constantly, so why have one special day to recognize his contribution to society?

Parents should be respected by their children all year, so why set aside special days for them? Same for grandparents.

The list goes on...

Life gets busy, and most people do show their partners that they love them on a daily basis, but what's really so horrible about setting aside one day to celebrate love, (other than the fact that the card, candy and flower companies have found a way to make a buck from it)?

If anyone feels pressured that they simoply have to get their SO something shiny and pretty or else they don't love them enough, then they have a bit of a problem.

It's not that I don't recognize that not everyone is going to be in a happy and stable love relationship, and having all this schmaltzy advertiisng shoved in their face doesn't help, but I just don't really see why it's become so trendy to hate on this whole Valentine's thing.

I guess I really have always preferred to focus on the positive rather than seeing things only in a negative light. :shrug:

Evil Queen
02-15-2009, 07:12 PM
Well. I'm going to weigh in here. Yes, I have a boyfriend, but he doesn't believe in Valentines Day. I kinda don't, but hell, a freaking card would have still been nice.

We did, however, spend the evening watching Chocolate stuff on Food Network and The History Channel. And snuggling on the couch. It was raining so we didn't bother going out.

AdminAssistant
02-15-2009, 07:41 PM
I wouldn't have minded so much if I'd had some notice. On Friday, we were hanging out and I asked him before I left "So...tomorrow night?" and he said, "Well, I was supposed to hang out with *other male friend* but I dunno. I'll call you when I know something." Well, 6:00 comes and goes and I start getting hungry and wondering what's going on, so I ask him via text and he doesn't get around to answering 'til 8:30. If he had said, on Friday night, "Well, I've already planned to do something, so why don't we celebrate next weekend?" Then I could've spent Saturday rounding up gal pals to do something last night. By the time he let me know, it was too late to call anyone - and most of my friends up here are married or in involved in various relationships, so....yeah. It's just....I mean, if he can't get his shit together on Valentine's Day for fuck's sake..when there's constant reminders all over...I just don't know.

Jester, I do agree with you that it shouldn't be limited to one day. I've actually got a present that I've been holding on to, waiting for the right moment (it's a USB card in a cassette tape holder...sort of a modernized 'mix tape').

*sigh* I hope it gets better too...but I have a feeling that it's just going to be over soon. I'm tired of dealing with it and I really don't think he'd care one way or the other.

Akasa
02-16-2009, 12:21 AM
AdminAssistant that was a really assholeish thing to do to you.

Ree you have obviously not had your nose rubbed in being single year after year. I'm glad. It sucks and I wouldn't wish it on anyone, but it does happen and lets face it you get enough of that behavior year after year you tend to hate the cause of it.

This year I spent the day in bed with a fever, a cough, and a runny nose. I've had worse years sadly.

Dave1982
02-16-2009, 01:20 AM
or do what I did on New Years' ...spend the entire day in bed or building models.

HA!!!! That's pretty much exactly what I did! I worked the early shift, then spent the rest of the day alternating between working on my model airplanes and playing The Legend of Zelda: A Link to the Past (the Ice Dungeon can kiss my ass, by the way!!)


Aside from that bit of amusement, reading through this thread (a day late) was more than a little depressing. I've never even HAD a girlfriend, so yeah, "Singles Awareness Day" is a very apt description of this so-called "holiday" for me. There have been many girls I've been good friends with, but it's always been just that - friends. It doesn't help that I'm a very quiet, shy guy in person.

Can someone answer this question for me? Why is it that whenever one finds themselves attracted to someone, and it seems like there a "spark" or "connection", it always turns out that that person is already in a relationship?! Or if they aren't in a relationship, they reject you? It's just not fair. :cry:

Akasa
02-16-2009, 01:57 AM
Can someone answer this question for me? Why is it that whenever one finds themselves attracted to someone, and it seems like there a "spark" or "connection", it always turns out that that person is already in a relationship?! Or if they aren't in a relationship, they reject you? It's just not fair. :cry:

I would love to answer that question for you, but I don't know you well enough to give you any insights. You may be reading the signals completely wrong. That's all I have for you Dave. :(

Thrifty
02-16-2009, 02:26 AM
Wanted to say something about those who like V-day and the way I think of it...

See I don't think of Valentine's day as just a day to celebrate a relationship your in. I think of it as a day to show love to all people, and to have fun with it.

For this Valentine's day I had flowers delievered to my work, and then put them in vases for my co-workers. This worked two fold because I got to give my lovely co-workers flowers, and help out a local flower shop with their business.

I also made goodie bags for all the clients in the house (I work at an inpatient substance abuse treatment center). They loved them and it was great to see their faces when they got a present.

Also gave my mom this beautiful white bloomed rose, and enjoyed seeing the happienss on her face.

Oh and surprised my husband at work with balloons and two tickets to a hockey game. He was really excited, hasn't been to a game in 29 years.

Now I could and have done stuff like this at random times throughout the year (I especially like doing things for the clients). I just think of V-day as one more day to do something special, especially when love in in the air...

Jester
02-16-2009, 03:04 AM
Can someone answer this question for me? Why is it that whenever one finds themselves attracted to someone, and it seems like there a "spark" or "connection", it always turns out that that person is already in a relationship?! Or if they aren't in a relationship, they reject you? It's just not fair.

Dave, I got news for you: life isn't fair. You can either accept that and do something to change your situation, or you can complain about it.

I used to complain about it. Then I did something about it. For a while after that, I complained about it. Now I am once again taking control of my own life and making things happen that would have seemed virtually impossible to me just a short time ago.

Look, I can't tell you what is going on in your life, and why things have worked out for you the way they have. I CAN tell you that the only person who can change things in your life is you. After all, the one common denominator running throughout your life is....you.

This is not meant in any way to be depressing or a condemnation. Far from it, this is meant to perhaps wake you up to the possibilities of positive thinking and how YOU can change YOUR life for the better. Yes, there are times when the Fates seem to conspire against us. I know that as well as anyone. But even when it seems that nothing seems to be working in your favor, you need to look beyond that, to rise above it, and find ways to make things work towards your advantage.

"But Jester, you are an outgoing, vivacious guy. I'm a quiet and shy guy. What the hell would YOU know about my life?!?!?"

Believe it or not, I used to be a shy, quiet introvert. Shocking, I know, but true. And even very recently in my life, even to this day, I am often shy when it comes to approaching women I am interested in. Well, not approaching them per se (I can talk to anyone), but in broaching the subject of romance or something beyond friendship.

But be that as it may, in the end you are right. I don't know you, nor the particulars of your life. But you do. Which brings me back to my main point: only you can change this.

See I don't think of Valentine's day as just a day to celebrate a relationship your in. I think of it as a day to show love to all people, and to have fun with it.

I just think of V-day as one more day to do something special, especially when love in in the air...

You freakin' rock! And if everyone treated the way you do, it would be a much more tolerable, even enjoyable, holiday.

Sadly, they do not.

Dave1982
02-16-2009, 04:04 AM
I know, I know. It was intended more as a rhetorical question rather than a call for help. I just needed to get it off my chest after reading through this thread. And I DO plan on doing something about it, once the other brushfires I'm dealing with in my life right now are dealt with. They're mainly work related, though not things I want to discuss just now on the forum.

AdminAssistant
02-16-2009, 04:19 AM
Well, I talked to BoyThing and figured out what was going on. There was a screw-up at work, just as he was leaving on Friday night. Saturday he got a snide e-mail from one of the higher ups (copied to coworkers and his boss) that the engineering team should have spent all Friday night working on this problem and blah blah blah. BoyThing got really pissed off and spent all weekend trying to fix it himself. Just as I was talking to him, the final report came in, so he had to e-mail a bunch of people and print off stuff and he still sounded all stressed out and busy.

I pointed out how I'd been really pissed and upset all last night and I could practically hear the light bulb switch on. "oh, I should've told you why" Ummm...ya think? Now, we do need to have a long talk at some point in the near future, but I'm feeling a little better now.

Jester
02-16-2009, 01:47 PM
It was intended more as a rhetorical question rather than a call for help. I just needed to get it off my chest after reading through this thread.

Oh, I understand. Still felt it needed to be said, just as you felt it needed off your chest.

And I DO plan on doing something about it, once the other brushfires I'm dealing with in my life right now are dealt with.

Now THAT is good to hear!

Ree
02-16-2009, 02:44 PM
Still felt it needed to be said, just as you felt it needed off your chest.Some people just post to vent. Not everyone is actually looking for advice, no matter how well-intentioned it is. ;)

Jester
02-16-2009, 02:46 PM
I know, Ree. But sometimes I just can't help myself. :lol:

Samaliel
02-16-2009, 04:53 PM
This February the 14th has been my first actual Valentine's Day in 26 years.

It may have been the happiest day of my life.

And I didn't have to buy anything.

Dips
02-17-2009, 09:10 PM
it was damned hard this year, but instead of getting gloomy about the "haves" celebrating, making the "have nots" feel bad I just took time to reflect and remember what I had.

That was really nicely said, Ree.

Holidays, even silly ones, are very hard for me too. But, like you, I can't bring myself to ruin them for others.

I think it makes me feel a little less sad to see other people happy. Even if I can't share in it, it's good that joy exists somewhere. Trying to destroy it just seems wrong somehow.

Giggle Goose
02-18-2009, 12:02 AM
I made Valentine's for all my friends (single or not), and they were very well-received. V Day is also my cousin's birthday, so we went out to a dive bar, played pool, ate greasy bar food, and had a genuinely good-ass time. It SHOULD be about celebrating love, romantic or not.

I did get a very beautiful emerald claddagh ring that morning though, because I really like the meaning behind it; and my friend told my guy about it behind my back so it was a total surprise. That was probably the most meaningful gift I've gotten EVER, so I just had to mention it, I'm sorry, please don't hurt me :o


Then, as I was trying to convince her that her bed is more comfy for sleeping than the couch, she was saying she didn't want to go to bed because it's too big and feels empty. I, joking around, said well, I'll take the other half since her bed is more comfy than mine, but then said I was just kidding. Then she said, "No, I just want to cuddle with *current interest*" Hurt pretty badly.

:( OUCH. I winced a bit reading that. I'm sorry, Greenday; I know how hard it is to get over someone when you still care for them a lot as a friend. You don't want to cut that person completely out of your life, but at the same time you just need some time away...oy.

Sounds hard to believe, but you're young and you WILL find someone when you least expect it. If it can happen to me it can happen to anyone (and I mean that). I could very well get my heart broken again, but I'm not going to ruin what I have by being paranoid and untrusting. Just deal with these things as they come; you'll amaze yourself with your resilience.

Jester
02-18-2009, 03:50 AM
I can't bring myself to ruin them for others.

I think it makes me feel a little less sad to see other people happy. Even if I can't share in it, it's good that joy exists somewhere. Trying to destroy it just seems wrong somehow.

I would like to point out (if I haven't already) that many of us who are anti-Valentine's Day are not, in fact, going out of our way to ruin the holiday for others, or to destroy it. We can protest something, and be against something, without wanting it destroyed.

I like what this holiday is supposed to be about. I do not like however, what it has become. I won't go out of my way to make someone enjoying the day miserable or mess with their good time. Hell, I won't even do it if it is convenient and not out of my way. I am a romantic, as I have said before, and it is based on my beliefs about what romance and love are and what this holiday is supposed to mean that I am opposed to what this holiday IS.

Dips
02-21-2009, 11:52 AM
I would like to point out (if I haven't already) that many of us who are anti-Valentine's Day are not, in fact, going out of our way to ruin the holiday for others, or to destroy it.

I certainly didn't aim it at you or anyone else, specifically. I apologize if I didn't make that clear.

My post was in support of Ree, who has an amazing outlook considering what she's been through. And it was in the hopes that those of us here on CS, who are in pain, for whatever reason, will realize that the happiness of other people is a good thing and not a threat. Envy and bitterness can really harm the soul.

Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with poking lighthearted fun at a silly marketing opportunity holiday. As a matter of fact the concept of "Singles Awareness Day" makes a lot of sense. After all, is there any day of the year where one is more acutely AWARE of being single? :p

crazylegs
02-21-2009, 04:39 PM
After all, is there any day of the year where one is more acutely AWARE of being single? :p

Well, apart from this thread I didn't see/hear anything else that reminded me that it was Valentines Day and didn't feel any different to the norm. Last year on the other hand I was acutly aware of my single status.

Dips
02-21-2009, 06:01 PM
I'm not single, but we didn't do anything special either.

No, wait. I did my taxes on Valentines Day. ;)

Jester
02-24-2009, 01:13 AM
I certainly didn't aim it at you or anyone else, specifically.

My post was in support of Ree, who has an amazing outlook considering what she's been through.

Oh, I knew that. Hell, my comments were in response to Ree's post. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely agree with what you said about her outlook. I just disagreed somewhat with what she said in that post, and that was what I was responding to. It wasn't anything you said. :D

...the happiness of other people is a good thing and not a threat. Envy and bitterness can really harm the soul.

Emphatically agreed on all points. I have never objected to what the holiday is supposed to be about, just how it is presented within society and by the media and advertisers.

JuniorMintz
02-24-2009, 03:52 AM
:deadhorse: :deadhorse: :deadhorse: :deadhorse: :deadhorse: :deadhorse: :deadhorse:

*headdesk*

Jester
02-24-2009, 05:17 AM
Point taken, JM. Shutting up now. http://www.spokanestreetracing.com/forums/images/smiles/eusa_silenced.gif

JuniorMintz
02-24-2009, 06:07 AM
I have a way with words. :p

iradney
02-24-2009, 11:09 AM
Eh.
Valentine's day is just another day, except TTO and I get each other NON VD gifts - He got a shirt and I got a book!! *SQUEEEE!!!*
I actually feel more pressure on our anniversary/his birthday (Same day!!! :eek:) to get him something NICE, but it's only because I want to get him something really nice.

So what can I get him THIS year??

Nyoibo
02-24-2009, 03:24 PM
I have a way with words. :p

Or at least emoticons. :p

protege
02-24-2009, 05:01 PM
Damn. This thread hasn't died yet? :p