View Full Version : Baby's First Gay Bar

03-01-2009, 02:13 AM
My friend C called me up saying he wants to drink tonight, but not alone. He suggests a gay bar. Being the terminally straight female that I am, I accept.

Honestly, I'm a little wary. I mean, isn't it kind of impolite? Like going to a Goth club in neon green.

But I'm making him buy me drinks, so yay, free booze.

03-01-2009, 02:33 AM
Impolite? No. As long as _you're_ not impolite.

The door to any gay bar is open, the same as any straight bar's. Come to think of it, probably even more open. I've never had anything but a great time at any I've ever gone to with friends over the past 35 years, and never have I been treated as if I was out of place or unwelcome.

Go with your friend, have a good time! Don't give it another thought.

03-01-2009, 09:46 AM
The only two bars I go to here are gay bars. It's awesome, you'll have a blast, and get some awesome views, but not have to be worried about being hit on :D

Enjoy yourself, enjoy the booze, and don't worry about a thing!

03-01-2009, 04:49 PM
I had lots of fun. It was SOOO busy, since apparently every Friday and Saturday they have the drag show. Now that was fun. And at the end, the Mistress of Ceremonies did a little standup and a bunch of guys near the front were tossing off non-serious bitchy comments.

Also, lots of eye-candy in the staff. The guys were mostly shirtless and the girls wore hot-pants/tank-top ensembles.

I think I want to go again, only not on Friday or Saturday.

03-01-2009, 04:52 PM
Gay bars are so much fun! Great music, lots of dancing, no grabass-ing...hell, a bunch of my friends used to go to one....gays, straights, men, women...didn't matter! Yes, straight guys went and it was fine.

03-01-2009, 05:00 PM
Gay bars ARE fun. I think my favourite part is that nobody's really all that worried about what anyone else thinks - they're just doing their own thing, being genuine in a way they might not be able to elsewhere. (Kink Night was a REAL eye-opener :D) "Straight" bars are usually just the opposite, as everyone preens and struts but conceals everything important about who they are as people.

Generally I prefer pubs to bars (I like to sit and chat with my friends over a beer or three), and gay bars/dance clubs over straight ones. I always go out with friends so it's never been a matter of meeting anyone at a bar other than as a new friend to talk to.

03-01-2009, 05:42 PM
Gay bars are so much fun!

...no grabass-ing...

Not always true on the second point. I would be lying if I said I have never had someone grab me in a way I did not want to be grabbed.

Lace Neil Singer
03-01-2009, 11:13 PM

Carry on... XD

Honestly, I went to one once and it was fun. They played disco music all night, no-one tried to grab my arse and I danced with loads of guys in a fun, drunken way, knowing that none of them would try to cop a feel.

03-02-2009, 02:42 AM
Glad to hear you had fun :D Yeah we have drag shows at ours... Though Club Connections has one of the top rated drag shows in the US, so yeah :D I love Hurricane Summers to death (by the way i've met some of the queens in person, so it's always cool)... Plus we have a shower boy at Club Connections... Oh I so wish I could take you there :D

Did you tip a queen? Heehe that's always fun

03-02-2009, 03:38 AM
heh...I had one of the queens compliment me on my outfit (short skirt, knee boots, crazy top). :lol: She was so awesomely put together I took it as a massive compliment.

Lace Neil Singer
03-02-2009, 06:10 PM
Ha, this guy that my boyf used to work with was a queen; he used to dress up with the works; short skirt, wig, shaved legs, makeup... even heels. XD I met him once at a work do; he loved my skirt, which was the only skirt in the room as short as his, and my hair. :lol: We danced to Simply The Best together.

03-02-2009, 07:25 PM
I would be lying if I said I have never had someone grab me in a way I did not want to be grabbed.

:whistle: I would like to plead the fifth to that one :whistle:

ok, so in reality, it wasn't me... I've never grabbed a straight guys ass before... come to think of it, I've never grabbed a gay guys ass before either... nor been to a gay bar... now I feel kind depressed :(
We shall have to remedy all of those soon (except the grabbing a straight guy's ass... that would be inappropriate :p )

Lace Neil Singer
03-02-2009, 08:47 PM
What about a straight girl grabbing a gay guy's arse? XD

03-02-2009, 09:23 PM
What about a straight girl grabbing a gay guy's arse? XD

I was certainly tempted. SOOO many cute gay guys hanging all over their boyfriends.

Also rum and coke. I was in my happy place. :angel:

03-02-2009, 11:31 PM
I've never grabbed a straight guys ass before...

You are assuming I am talking about having an ass grabbed.

I never did say which body parts were being pawed, now did I?

03-03-2009, 03:04 AM
I made a gay male friend come to a contra dance with me. I was playing bodhran with the band, and tried to dance a few numbers when I wasn't.

Yeah, my trying to contra dance wasn't so great. So he insisted afterwards we go to his favorite gay dance club.

THAT ROCKED. I could dance all night and nobody bothered me. Only thing I didn't like was all the smoke. But aside from that, it was awesome. I'd go with him more often if he didn't go so late. But man, it was a fun, laid back crowd!

03-03-2009, 03:12 AM
... I've never grabbed a straight guys ass before...

I have.

Seriously, I do that kind of crap joking around a lot. It's fun.

03-03-2009, 04:24 AM
I've had my ass grabbed by more guys than chicks, and I've never been to a gay bar. :(

03-03-2009, 04:40 AM
Greenday, I think I speak for a few of us when I say this is not very surprising. And I'll leave it at that. :lol:

03-03-2009, 02:32 PM
I have.

I have too. While he was hugging me.

Granted, he's my best friend, and we were saying good-bye, and his girlfriend told me to grab his ass, but the reaction was still priceless. :lol:

03-03-2009, 02:38 PM
but the reaction was still priceless. :lol:

fine... I'll be the one to say it

This thread is useless without Pics :D

03-03-2009, 03:31 PM
I only go to clubs for live music (Yes I'm an addict > 2300 CD/LP/CS)

Took my (then) 24-year-old daughter to a lesbian sports bar for a CD release show for a local musician, Trace Wiren (who I call the rock goddes for electricians).

"Jane" (her nom de restaurant wait line) surprised several people with: "My dad brought me":p

03-03-2009, 05:48 PM
I only go to clubs for live music (Yes I'm an addict > 2300 CD/LP/CS)

Can I just say one thing?

HOLY HECK! That's a *insert several adjectives collectively longer than this insertion* lot of music! How do you have room for it all?

03-03-2009, 07:07 PM
:)Squirrelly has been filling the nutcache for 40+ years:) All of my posts on the Fun Song Game thread are tracks I have. 3/4 are people I've seen or bands that have/had people I've seen. 1/6 are old bands I never saw, but have had the albums for 30 years or so. I just suffer from OC-CDCD: Obsessive-Compulsive CD Collecting Disease.:devil:

Like Jim said: "The music is your only friend... Until the end..."

03-04-2009, 04:39 AM
What about a straight girl grabbing a gay guy's arse? XD

Been there done that...... :angel: Whatttttt Smiley don't look at me like that! You know most of my male friends are gay, or at least bi... Damnit I'll grab YOUR ass when i get there! :p

03-04-2009, 08:06 AM
Damnit I'll grab YOUR ass when i get there! :p

is that a promise :p

03-04-2009, 06:57 PM
Damnit I'll grab YOUR ass when i get there! :p

There is something seriously wrong when the gay guy's getting more threats of this nature than the straight guy. :p

Oh, and smiley, NO PICS FOR YOU. :p