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    So some may recall the family from this thread. (Which everything turned out okay, my friend has no charges against him, all is good on the legal side of things.)

    Well here I am again involved in something I'd rather not be. Now in the previous thread I mentioned how the mom in this family is pretty much batshit crazy and my friend has had me come down so she'll stop screaming at him for five seconds.

    So we have some friends of ours visiting from Michigan and we thought we'd show them this really good barbecue place nearby (You can't leave Texas without having some good barbecue!), when we see the youngest boy sitting at the edge of the street crying, not only that, it's raining pretty bad.

    Oh boy, here we go.

    I tell mom to go ahead and let me out of the car and that I'd meet her at the BBQ place. Talking one on one with the boy (We'll call him Carson) I learned that his mom is showing someone a house (she works in Real Estate) and that her client decided it'd be a good idea to leave his kid there. Well, from what I was told, fighting ensued, and Carson was thrown onto a couch and he was held there, face down, suffocating. He also got a punch to the stomach that left a good sized red mark, about the size of a fist.

    So here I'm thinking I might be dealing with some teenager by this point. Carson isn't small. He's 11 going on 12. So for someone to be able to pick him up and throw him is a feat. Either way, I'm not standing for it, Carson and his siblings are all like family to me, and I've know Carson himself since he was a baby.

    I walk down to the house with him and there the kid is, no more than 12 or 13 sitting and watching Youtube videos. He turns, sees me (I'm already flashing the dagger eyes I've inherited from my mom, they're pretty nasty when I'm talking one on one with someone) and he goes white.

    Me: "Do you know why I'm here?"
    Boy: "I didn't mean to hit him, he fell on the couch and my arm fell on top of him!!!"

    Yeah, right off the bat, he starts lying to me.

    Me: "......... You're kidding right? You'll need to think of something a little better than that."

    Basically I filled him in on what Carson told me, that he was punched, thrown on the couch and suffocated. Then I get this gem.

    Boy: "But he was going to hurt his little sister! She told me to do it!"

    The kicker? Said sister is 3 FREAKING YEARS OLD!

    Me: "So you decided it'd be a good idea to listen to a toddler?"

    Boy: "But..."

    Me: "No, you listen, I don't really care what happened, all I know is things got violent and there are clearly no responsible adults in the house right now to deal with it. Now, I was going out for dinner when I saw Carson on the street in the rain....

    Boy: "But I kept telling him I was sorry and to come back in!!!

    Me: "Doesn't matter, you still hit him and did things that you shouldn't of. Now as I was saying before I was interrupted, I'm hungry and I can think many things I'd rather do than play referee for something that shouldn't have gotten out of hand in the first place. Now, if I have to come down again, it's not going to be pretty, so please, just stay away from each other.

    With that, I left. And who do I see in the garage, two of the family members (not much younger than my 18 year old self), one of whom was even on her iPad in the same room when it happened and did absolutely nothing to stop it.

    When I was out of the house, I saw my mom didn't leave me and patiently waited for me to finish talking with them so I didn't have to drive myself to meet them. (Have I ever mentioned she's awesome? I've tried to model myself after her) We left for the restaurant.

    I'm really sick of playing referee for this family, this isn't the first time something stupid has happened while the mom leaves her kids unattended.

    In other news, the BBQ was delicious.
    Last edited by Eevie; 07-17-2013, 06:05 AM.
    Some people just need a high five...

    In the face with the back of a chair....

  • #2
    I don't know if its been said before, but for the love of cheese, CALL CPS.
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    • #3
      Quoth fireheart View Post
      I don't know if its been said before, but for the love of cheese, CALL CPS.
      Trust me, it's been done before. CPS is pretty useless around here. They couldn't give two shits.

      The best part is that the little sister mentioned is adopted. I know for a fact she got the kids to lie and tell them everything was fine so that she'd be cleared to foster babies. I remember waiting for her to drive me and my friend to school and she said to him, "When CPS gets here this afternoon, DO NOT tell them about mommy and daddy's fights!" Yeah. Not kidding. With me sitting right there no less.
      Last edited by Eevie; 07-17-2013, 07:22 AM.
      Some people just need a high five...

      In the face with the back of a chair....

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      • #4
        Thats not terribly uncommon around here. People get a TON of money for fostering.

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        • #5
          Toddlers are notorious for stirring things *before* you add in any extra baggage from their unusual situations. I do hate it when adults sit back and let the kids hurt each other - I always want to tell them to take some responsibility for their family!
          I am so SO glad I was not present for this. There would have been an unpleasant duct tape incident. - Joi

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          • #6
            Quoth Gizmo View Post
            Toddlers are notorious for stirring things *before* you add in any extra baggage from their unusual situations. I do hate it when adults sit back and let the kids hurt each other - I always want to tell them to take some responsibility for their family!
            Yeah, I know. Especially with this little girl. She's a sweet little thing but she is a troublemaker (Having three older brothers doesn't help that). My main issue is that we had an older child that decided to listen to a toddler instead of his own judgement.

            As for not taking responsibility, the mom is notorious for not taking her kids into account. She has a big heart, but she doesn't think about her own family. She took into fostering children without thinking of the money it would take to support them. Yeah, the thought was there but...

            And if my house burned down, she would take my family of five in, no questions asked, saying "Oh, we have the room! No worries!" I know for a fact she doesn't. That's only scratching the surface of all the instances of helping people that she's done. Yes, the thought is there, but she doesn't take the time to account for her own life.
            Some people just need a high five...

            In the face with the back of a chair....

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            • #7
              Well, fuck. Here we go again!

              So yesterday my friend came home from work to find his closet smothered in human piss. It ended up being one of the guests they had over. Not sure if he is or is related to the boy in the original post... Naturally of course, this sets him off (Can you blame him?), and he starts yelling. But according to his mom, everyone was watching the kids. So it's not her fault she didn't see someone sneak upstairs to pee in a closet.

              Best part; She blew up at him today for not watching his sister when she cut off a piece of her hair. Yeah, suddenly it's everyone's fault when someone doesn't watch her kid.


              Is there any help for this woman?
              Last edited by Eevie; 07-18-2013, 02:18 AM.
              Some people just need a high five...

              In the face with the back of a chair....

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              • #8
                How old is your friend, can he stay with someone else for a while?
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                • #9
                  Quoth Sarah Valentine View Post
                  How old is your friend, can he stay with someone else for a while?
                  He's 18. Yes, there are many people he can stay with, but he chooses not to. He tells me mostly because with his mother, he doesn't have to pay any sort of rent. He's told me numerous time he can't stand her.

                  I guess this is definitely a case of, "You get what you pay for."
                  Some people just need a high five...

                  In the face with the back of a chair....

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                  • #10
                    Is there any help for this woman?
                    Parenting classes. There might be something at a community center, a medical center, etc.
                    When you start at zero, everything's progress.

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                    • #11
                      Quoth MoonCat View Post
                      Parenting classes. There might be something at a community center, a medical center, etc.
                      She has to believe there's a problem first.
                      Some people just need a high five...

                      In the face with the back of a chair....

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                      • #12
                        Quoth Eevie View Post
                        He's 18. Yes, there are many people he can stay with, but he chooses not to. He tells me mostly because with his mother, he doesn't have to pay any sort of rent. He's told me numerous time he can't stand her.

                        I guess this is definitely a case of, "You get what you pay for."
                        Yep. He's made his choice. Luckily it's one he can "unmake" fairly easily. It may not be too long before he decides that this particular rent-free situation just isn't worth it anymore.

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