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I'm mostly just venting here. I know I don't post all that much on this site, but I wanted to vent in relative anonymity, and all the other sites I'm a regular on aren't a good fit for this.
It's been a really long week. I had a medical emergency of my own on Monday, but couldn't really tell anybody about it. A small handful of people know about the truth, but my parents would have gone through the roof if I told them what was really happening, so I lied. I had to blow it off as something else entirely to my family. I was miserable and just wanted to crawl into a hole and die. Then on Wednesday, my father asked me to take him to his doctor, who sent him to the ER, where he was admitted for emergency surgery. He is still there. Since I wasn't telling the truth about my own situation, I pretty much had to suck it up and do what needed to be done. This made for a pretty awful day and night Wednesday on top of the worry about my dad.
All that's just the set up for what I'm really venting about. Yesterday I got a text message from a friend. A mutual friend of ours collapsed and was rushed into emergency surgery. His liver has failed. He needs a transplant, and soon, if he's going to survive. This kid is a young, reasonably healthy college Sr. He came out to his parents a while back and they disowned him. They actually sued him for the money they've spent on his college and for the car they'd given him. Thankfully for him, his then boyfriend/now husband's family is awesome, and his mother in law is a lawyer, so the case went his way. Still, this young man had to deal with all that, from his own parents; the very people who are supposed to love you unconditionally.
I'm pissed. How on earth can anybody raise a child and then abandon him like that. I don't know if his parents are with him right now, but nothing has been said about them being there. If the last year or so are any indication, they're not. He had just started reaching out to his siblings, and maybe his mother, but his father is a different story entirely. This young man is in a coma (medically induced while they try to stabilize him), and has no idea if his parents care enough to be there for him while he's this sick. He's not even my kid and it's killing me that I can't jump on a plane and get to where he is.
All of the stress with his family rejecting him drove him to drink heavily. I did not know this before now, but he had liver issues already, and the heavy drinking was to his liver like sugar is to a diabetic. I'm pissed at his family for rejecting him. I'm pissed at him for drinking so much when he KNEW he had liver problems. I'm just pissed in general. I'm also worried sick.
Thanks for letting me vent. I think I'm going to go hug my kids a little tighter than normal. One thing I know for certain is they'll NEVER find themselves in a hospital wondering if their mother loves them.
It's been a really long week. I had a medical emergency of my own on Monday, but couldn't really tell anybody about it. A small handful of people know about the truth, but my parents would have gone through the roof if I told them what was really happening, so I lied. I had to blow it off as something else entirely to my family. I was miserable and just wanted to crawl into a hole and die. Then on Wednesday, my father asked me to take him to his doctor, who sent him to the ER, where he was admitted for emergency surgery. He is still there. Since I wasn't telling the truth about my own situation, I pretty much had to suck it up and do what needed to be done. This made for a pretty awful day and night Wednesday on top of the worry about my dad.
All that's just the set up for what I'm really venting about. Yesterday I got a text message from a friend. A mutual friend of ours collapsed and was rushed into emergency surgery. His liver has failed. He needs a transplant, and soon, if he's going to survive. This kid is a young, reasonably healthy college Sr. He came out to his parents a while back and they disowned him. They actually sued him for the money they've spent on his college and for the car they'd given him. Thankfully for him, his then boyfriend/now husband's family is awesome, and his mother in law is a lawyer, so the case went his way. Still, this young man had to deal with all that, from his own parents; the very people who are supposed to love you unconditionally.
I'm pissed. How on earth can anybody raise a child and then abandon him like that. I don't know if his parents are with him right now, but nothing has been said about them being there. If the last year or so are any indication, they're not. He had just started reaching out to his siblings, and maybe his mother, but his father is a different story entirely. This young man is in a coma (medically induced while they try to stabilize him), and has no idea if his parents care enough to be there for him while he's this sick. He's not even my kid and it's killing me that I can't jump on a plane and get to where he is.
All of the stress with his family rejecting him drove him to drink heavily. I did not know this before now, but he had liver issues already, and the heavy drinking was to his liver like sugar is to a diabetic. I'm pissed at his family for rejecting him. I'm pissed at him for drinking so much when he KNEW he had liver problems. I'm just pissed in general. I'm also worried sick.
Thanks for letting me vent. I think I'm going to go hug my kids a little tighter than normal. One thing I know for certain is they'll NEVER find themselves in a hospital wondering if their mother loves them.