I'm not asking for mental health advice necessarily, but since my health insurance doesn't cover mental health, if anyone has a kid with ODD, maybe you can give me some information.
I have a difficult child. She has been difficult since she was 3, but with puberty, it has become hell on earth to live in my home. it's hard to make anyone understand exactly HOW difficult, because most attribute it to her being a teenager, but it's much, much more than that.
So I went online and started researching bi-polar and ODD symptoms. she fits 14 out of 15 symptoms or signs of ODD, and a decent amount for bi-polar, except for one huge thing.
She ONLY behaves this way at home. I get compliments from her teachers on how well behaved she is in school. She is an angel with my mother. Her friends parents have complimented me on her manners and behaviors.]
But seriously, one time, after we left my mom's house, she was in holy terror mode before we even made it to the end of the block. It is so bad in my house and has lasted for so many years, that while I love her dearly, I dread going home after work because I will have to deal with her. I'm considering moving her to my mother's for a few months, just to get a break.
We did family therapy, but the therapist didn't (or couldn't) seem interested in doing a diagnosis, and gave us various tools. However, my husbands employer would only pay for so many sessions, and things don't seem to be getting better.
I am about 95% positive it's ODD, except for the fact that she behaves everywhere else. Could she literally just be that awful for us with no mental health reason? or could it still be bi-polar or ODD and she just controls it for other's?
I'm looking into an actual psychiatrist, but I need to find out who I can afford or if DH's work with cover some sessions with a psychiatrist. But then again, even if we found one, and she was diagnosed, she refuses to take any sort of medication, including Tylenol. So what good would it do?
I guess I'm halfway ranting, halfway asking for advise. I'm just lost right now, wanting to cry. It's hard to love your kid, but want to actively avoid them as well,.
I have a difficult child. She has been difficult since she was 3, but with puberty, it has become hell on earth to live in my home. it's hard to make anyone understand exactly HOW difficult, because most attribute it to her being a teenager, but it's much, much more than that.
So I went online and started researching bi-polar and ODD symptoms. she fits 14 out of 15 symptoms or signs of ODD, and a decent amount for bi-polar, except for one huge thing.
She ONLY behaves this way at home. I get compliments from her teachers on how well behaved she is in school. She is an angel with my mother. Her friends parents have complimented me on her manners and behaviors.]
But seriously, one time, after we left my mom's house, she was in holy terror mode before we even made it to the end of the block. It is so bad in my house and has lasted for so many years, that while I love her dearly, I dread going home after work because I will have to deal with her. I'm considering moving her to my mother's for a few months, just to get a break.
We did family therapy, but the therapist didn't (or couldn't) seem interested in doing a diagnosis, and gave us various tools. However, my husbands employer would only pay for so many sessions, and things don't seem to be getting better.
I am about 95% positive it's ODD, except for the fact that she behaves everywhere else. Could she literally just be that awful for us with no mental health reason? or could it still be bi-polar or ODD and she just controls it for other's?
I'm looking into an actual psychiatrist, but I need to find out who I can afford or if DH's work with cover some sessions with a psychiatrist. But then again, even if we found one, and she was diagnosed, she refuses to take any sort of medication, including Tylenol. So what good would it do?
I guess I'm halfway ranting, halfway asking for advise. I'm just lost right now, wanting to cry. It's hard to love your kid, but want to actively avoid them as well,.
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