Is it weird to share a room with your roomie

[HotelMinion]

Ok so it's looks like I'll being taking a roomie soon. I really don't want to, but I figure it'd might be good to have someone around.
He's a friend, I'll call him Jo. He's a poor college twenty something student so he doesn't have any money to pay me for rent yet. No job. No house. I figure it's ok because my apt has only one bedroom and told him he'll be crashing in the living room.
Jo is insisting that he set up his twin bed in my bedroom. My bedroom is large enough for 2 beds. I feel very uncomfortable with this, because as a loner type, I need my privacy. Jo knows how I am, but doesn't want to sleep in the living room because he says he saw a roach there.
He says in return for rent he'll do all the cleaning and some cooking. Plus I live in a neighborhood that isn't the safest. My building is not gated, so any weirdo of the street could wander in and break down my porch door, as a lone female, I always worry about this. :/ so yeah my safety will go up I think.
Anyway my question is this: am I being a bitch for not letting him sleep in my bedroom? I've known him for ten plus years so I'm absolutely certain that's he's not going to assault me in my sleep btw. So don't worry about that. Or is he being a brat.
Also, to anyone who has a roomie, do they sleep in your bedroom? Or is that weird.
Tyvm!

[Seanette]

I'd say DON'T LET HIM MOVE IN! He's already getting pushy about YOUR home and knowingly making you uncomfortable by insisting on violating your privacy in the process. Boundary issues here.

I would not willingly share a bedroom with someone of the opposite sex who is not either a family member or someone with whom I am on VERY intimate terms. A same-sex roomie sharing the bedroom would bother me, TBH.

[iradney]

Nope. Nope nope nope. He's not able to pay rent but he's already trying to dictate what happens in YOUR home?
Either he sleeps in the living room or he goes elsewhere. End of story.

[Seanette]

I missed the "no job" part initially. Another HUGE problem here, since he will be increasing your utility and food bills without helping pay same.

[Sunshine]

Um....your house, your bedroom, your rules. He can go pound sand if he doesn't like it. Please think twice about letting him move in because you might have a hard time if/when you decide it's not working out.

[Kristev]

Just say no. And stick to it.

[Kittish]

So much nope here. And his excuse for trying to dictate terms is kind of lame, if you think about it. If there are roaches in a home whether house or apartment, they're in all the rooms.

[Zellie Crescent]

I'm gonna say the same thing as everyone else, tell him it's either the couch or he finds somewhere else to crash. Do NOT let him try to move in his bed, if he does kick him out.

[MoonCat]

Yeah, you never know someone as well as you think you do. Maybe he doesn't have plans to try to get chummy, but whatever his reason is, it doesn't trump YOUR need for privacy. You have a right to feel comfortable in your own home and your own bedroom. Your place, paid for on your dime, he doesn't get to make the rules. And frankly I think it's very telling that he wants to push this. Friends don't treat each other that way.

Even if he backs down and agrees to sleep in the living room, I'd say put a lock on your bedroom door. On second thought, if you feel you need to do that, then he shouldn't be in the apt. anyway.

[Seanette]

The more I think about this, the worse it feels, to the point that I'm seriously questioning whether you'll be safe with him as a roomie, HotelMinion.

[Marmalady]

Jo is insisting that he set up his twin bed in my bedroom.

Jo doesn't get to insist anything. Your apartment, you say what happens.

Personally I'd be saying a big fat Nope. If you want a roomie, OK - but that doesn't mean you have to have this one.

[BlaqueKatt]

I've known him for ten plus years so I'm absolutely certain that's he's not going to assault me in my sleep btw. So don't worry about that.

sorry to burst your bubble, I was assaulted by someone I knew longer than that(I babysat his damn KIDS for several years). My "absolute certainty" that he wouldn't didn't prevent it from happening.

[Victory Sabre]

The only roomie who would share my bedroom would be my girlfriend or wife.

[seigus]

Don't let him move in at ALL. Red flags, my friend, everywhere.

[taxguykarl]

poor college twenty something student so he doesn't have any money to pay me for rent yet.

Sounds just as much like a professional freeloader to me

No job. No house.

No deal, especially in your room.