The Bachelor and the Wanna-Be (people are weird)

[WishfulSpirit]

Hi everyone.

So we have Sean Lowe, from season 17 of the Bachelor, having a book signing in my hotel tonight. I talked to him during check-in and didn't tell me he was on TV (found that out on my own), and he's a totally chill, normal guy. It was great getting to meet him, even if I wasn't squealing quite as much as my younger and single coworkers (male and female I might add...I'm married and not as susceptible, plus pretty boys aren't really my type).

We also have another, ahem, gentleman (50+ and not ugly but certainly not all that and a bag of chips) who is somewhat taken with my cute Korean coworker. He made totally inappropriate comments to her while she was driving him around in our shuttle. She had to be practically pushed into the HR office to tell them what's up (in her own words, Asian women don't make a fuss about stuff like that), and I'm pretty sure if it happens again, Lecherous Larry (not real name) is going to be kicked out. Our FOM doesn't tolerate that kind of crap and he has no trouble telling an out-of-line guest off to their face. Big Bossman is a bit more diplomatic but he doesn't tolerate bullshit either.

So here's my question. How come a man who was LITERALLY being fought over by women on national TV was cool, down-to-earth, and respectful, while some other 50+ guy with greasy hair was making lecherous comments to my younger co-worker as if she should be swooning over him?

[CyberLurch]

Sounds like the older guy might be in the throes of a mid-life crisis. Other than that, I don't have an answer for you. People are as people are. Some are respectful, decent adults, while others are just perpetual, spoiled children.

[Aria]

You said she's not the kind of person to complain. He likely sensed that...

[Pixelated]

Same way that fame hits some people like a brick wall and turns them into Top-of-the-Line Entitlement Whores, while others seem able to cope with it without losing their cool. I think it says a lot about the person as a whole.

I also think Aria's got a point. Unfortunately.

[Grumpy]

Being a grumpy middle-aged man myself I think I can answer part of your question, because I've watched plenty of my peers turn into the creepy old lecher who harasses very young women. I think what happens is that one day they look in the mirror and for the first time realize that the young man they still think of themselves being isn't looking back at them. Instead it's some old guy with gray hair, or very little hair, wrinkles, eyeglasses, spare tire, shaggy eyebrows, hair growing out of their nose and ears etc. and they freak out.

So to prove that they're still a handsome young man they hit on pretty young women, because pretty young women wouldn't want some old guy, therefore if they succeed it proves they're not some old guy. And when their efforts with young women fail, they get increasingly desperate and obnoxious until they become full on gross creepers.

Some of them eventually figure out that they're never going to get anywhere with young women, so they become really, really offensive and obnoxious to "punish" young women for not wanting them. They tend to shrivel up and disappear when said young woman's boyfriend/husband/father/brother is around, but they can be really disgusting and even dangerous when they can catch a young woman alone.

[Food Lady]

If a man is older than me and not the most attractive guy I might still be interested if he has good character and respects women. Conversely, I'm totally put off by the admittedly handsome, muscle-bound front end supervisor at my retail job. I recognize he's the type that attracts women but I can't be attracted to him because he's not humble, not compassionate, and doesn't make an effort to put others ahead of himself.

[WishfulSpirit]

Well Mr. Greaser has officially lost the privilege of shuttle rides. No member of staff is ever to be alone with him per Big Bossman. I sent the email to our Housekeeping Supervisor so he could warn his staff as well (Big Bossman doesn't speak Spanish, most of them have limited English).

[Pixelated]

Glad to hear it. Let him walk or pay cab fares.

[Argabarga]

Now I'm just waiting for the PFB letter about how that mean ol' hotel banned him from the shuttle for NO REASON WHATSOEVER!!!!! THEY MUST HATE REAL MURRICANS!!! (TM)

[WishfulSpirit]

Lol Argabarga. He probably wouldn't say Real 'mericans though because he's from Australia. You have not lived until you've been hit on by Crocodile Dundee.

[Argabarga]

Frightening........ mate.

[Shannarah]

Lol Argabarga. He probably wouldn't say Real 'mericans though because he's from Australia. You have not lived until you've been hit on by Crocodile Dundee.

I have to admit, he is a bit out of my age group - but if I had a choice of being hit on by the original Crocodile Dundee, or whoever is playing a bad caricature of him in the new miniseries, I would choose the original (Eeek, even at 40 years older than me)

[WishfulSpirit]

Mic Dundee was more respectful of women than this low-life. I bet FireHeart would tell me he's a Bogon.

[Blue Ginger]

Not a 'bogon' but a bogan.

And Paul Hogan (AKA Mick Dundee) is a larrikin, but he is being portrayed as a bad bogan and a tosspot. I was curious about his life and was looking forward to the show. But I had to turn it off after 5 minutes because of the actor playing him so badly. It was simply the wrong person to play him.

[dalesys]

As an electron caries electricity, a bogon carries bogosity.