Brother is down for various reasons, and again we got onto the subject of the contents of Mom's house when it comes time to get rid of them. He said he's fine with renting a ginormous bin and just dumping EVERYTHING into it and carting it off to the dump.
Mom has some nice teak furniture, and she was always proud of it. Admittedly, it's not so fine anymore ... nothing would be after a couple of decades of cigarette smoke. But I'd still like to see if an antiques dealer or second-hand furniture dealer would be willing to take the stuff for a nominal sum (or even nothing at all) and clean it up and re-sell it. Ditto for the bedroom set in the 'guest' room. It isn't quite so saturated in cigarette smoke because the door was always kept closed ... but it still is definitely not smoke-free.
However, there's enough smokers in Hometown that the furniture could probably find a new home.
So what's the problem?
Sister.
I've written about this before, a couple of years ago, under my previous screen name. Sister "isn't comfortable" with getting rid of Mom's stuff while Mom is still alive.
I have no idea WTF is her problem. Mom is not coming home, ever, and at this point wouldn't recognize ANY of her "stuff" if it was set down in front of her. Sister is in the medical profession so she can't say she doesn't know how bad Mom's condition is.
I said to Brother that Sister seems to want some kind of Walton Family get-together, in which we three all get together to pore over Mom's belongings, exchange memories and so on.
Seriously?
Brother was getting a bit frustrated at this point (the discussion had been going on for some time) and said he doesn't have time to organize that get-together. I said yes, I knew that, but I've been here for FIVE years, Sister has been down for several visits (usually at the same time as Brother) and we could've at least made a head start on some of this stuff.
But she won't.
Brother did concede that by now, there's a good chance Sister will run out of time. If we get the call next week saying Mom has passed away in her sleep, the house will need to be dealt with quickly ... and if Sister can't make it down to sort through Mom's stuff ... too bad, so sad.
Because of my job problem (tea store is closing) I've spoken to Brother about helping me (financially) to move to his province in the spring -- regardless of Mom's condition. I need to go somewhere where I can find work. This is another scenario that will put a crimp in Sister's "discomfort" with getting rid of Mom's stuff while she's still with us.
Sister and I don't get along all that well, so it would do me no good to bring it up.
Anyway ... not really asking for help, although if anybody's got any advice or suggestions I'd be happy to listen. Mostly I'm just venting.
Mom has some nice teak furniture, and she was always proud of it. Admittedly, it's not so fine anymore ... nothing would be after a couple of decades of cigarette smoke. But I'd still like to see if an antiques dealer or second-hand furniture dealer would be willing to take the stuff for a nominal sum (or even nothing at all) and clean it up and re-sell it. Ditto for the bedroom set in the 'guest' room. It isn't quite so saturated in cigarette smoke because the door was always kept closed ... but it still is definitely not smoke-free.
However, there's enough smokers in Hometown that the furniture could probably find a new home.
So what's the problem?
Sister.
I've written about this before, a couple of years ago, under my previous screen name. Sister "isn't comfortable" with getting rid of Mom's stuff while Mom is still alive.
I have no idea WTF is her problem. Mom is not coming home, ever, and at this point wouldn't recognize ANY of her "stuff" if it was set down in front of her. Sister is in the medical profession so she can't say she doesn't know how bad Mom's condition is.
I said to Brother that Sister seems to want some kind of Walton Family get-together, in which we three all get together to pore over Mom's belongings, exchange memories and so on.
Seriously?
Brother was getting a bit frustrated at this point (the discussion had been going on for some time) and said he doesn't have time to organize that get-together. I said yes, I knew that, but I've been here for FIVE years, Sister has been down for several visits (usually at the same time as Brother) and we could've at least made a head start on some of this stuff.
But she won't.
Brother did concede that by now, there's a good chance Sister will run out of time. If we get the call next week saying Mom has passed away in her sleep, the house will need to be dealt with quickly ... and if Sister can't make it down to sort through Mom's stuff ... too bad, so sad.
Because of my job problem (tea store is closing) I've spoken to Brother about helping me (financially) to move to his province in the spring -- regardless of Mom's condition. I need to go somewhere where I can find work. This is another scenario that will put a crimp in Sister's "discomfort" with getting rid of Mom's stuff while she's still with us.
Sister and I don't get along all that well, so it would do me no good to bring it up.
Anyway ... not really asking for help, although if anybody's got any advice or suggestions I'd be happy to listen. Mostly I'm just venting.
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