Just ask me god damnit (my pet peeve)

[Sliceanddice]

ok we all know what i do.
I can think of a many things that bug me.
But they one thats makes me wanna wolf out and rip the throats out of my calls, roll around in their blood and spread their entrails around my cupical.

WHEN YOU SAY MA'AM!!!!
not that i got any problem with politeness. These are the people apparently didnt understand me or have a question but dont ask it. No they say 'Ma'am' sop that i either sit there waiting for them to say something or just ignore them and keeping talking until they say it hundard times or just ask me. and they dont say it politely... not they say it snotty.

Must not kill.

[JustADude]

Okay, just checking here, you're not talking about the puzzled, query-toned "Ma'am?" uttered by someone who is genuinely hesitant to interrupt and trying to be polite about it, are you?

[Sliceanddice]

Okay, just checking here, you're not talking about the puzzled, query-toned "Ma'am?" uttered by someone who is genuinely hesitant to interrupt and trying to be polite about it, are you?

no im taLKING ABOUT THE SNOTTY MA'AM WHERE THEY WAIT FOR EVER TO SAY SOMETHING

[Broomjockey]

Ah, I get it! The "Ma'am!..." That cuts you off, like they are going to say something, then they turn into shoelickers. It's not the Ma'am itself, but the interrupting for NO FREAKING POINT!

Heh, I get that, only they don't even say "sir!..."

[greensinestro]

I never understood why many women get offended when someone says "Maam" to them. To me, it's a state of politeness, being I have called tons of women I do not know "maam", and not once was I doing it be be a shoelicker, as one person said. I saw an episode of "The Mary Tyler Moore Show" once where Mary seemed offended by a man calling her "maam" in the newsroom, and later on at home, talks to Rhoda about it, like it was a bad thing.

Now, a more impolite title to call someone, I think, is "young man" or "young lady". I normally call my kids that if they are bad.

[Ill_Used_Heroine]

I never understood why many women get offended when someone says "Maam" to them. To me, it's a state of politeness, being I have called tons of women I do not know "maam", and not once was I doing it be be a shoelicker, as one person said. I saw an episode of "The Mary Tyler Moore Show" once where Mary seemed offended by a man calling her "maam" in the newsroom, and later on at home, talks to Rhoda about it, like it was a bad thing.

Now, a more impolite title to call someone, I think, is "young man" or "young lady". I normally call my kids that if they are bad.

It's an age thing. I just watched that MTM episode last night, and it was because the guy who called her ma'am was in his 20s, and she was only 30. I had the same reaction, cause ma'am means old lady to me. Granted, it fits me now ... but back when I got called ma'am the first time, I was only 29 or 30, still dressing young, shopping at Hot Topic, listening to Nirvana/Smashing Pumpkins/Green Day, and I'm considered a ma'am? No f'ing way!

[GingerBiscuit]

I don't mind so much. The first time it happened at work I was 20 and had an 'I'm old enough to be called MA'AM now?' moment.

I jsut let it wash over me now.

I try to let it ALL wash over me, and go and live in my happy place, where chocolate is a low-cal, free health food and SC's are gagged and force to wash the feet of those staff that normally stand for their entire shift, and nobody smells bad.

[Emrld]

I want to live in GingerBiscuit's happy place - only lets make chocolate no cal, not just low cal . . . .

I admit on occassion I have had a really great question and the moment I get the chance to ask it - poof all gone I can't think - I don't think this is what Sliceanddice is facing - but I still hate it when it happens

[RecoveringKinkoid]

I've always considered myself a ma'am. Polite people "yes ma'am" and "no ma'am" each other.

I've said "yes ma'am" to teenage girls and I'm old enough to be their mother. Respect is a two way street. Usually it suprises them into excellent manners themselves.

But I don't think that's what the OP is saying, though I'm not sure I understand what is meant, either. Why are they interupting?

[Sliceanddice]

i have no problem with being called ma'am ive been mistacken for alot of different ages before its ok with me.

I hate when they just say ma'am then stay quiet for like a minute or 3 and make me think they where just letting me know they where paying attention when they have a question.

Hell you can call oh holy mistress for all i care, just ask me the damn question

[ShadedWings]

I had a guy on the phone that said "ma'am" after every.. single.. thing.. he said. It honestly made me want to scream. "yes ma'am, thank you ma'am, no ma'am, this amount ma'am, I got my bill yesterday ma'am". I'm serious, after every single thing. I think I remember muting the phone for a moment and half-shouting "STOP SAYING THAT WORD!" at one point.

[Foxglove8778]

The first time it happened at work I was 20 and had an 'I'm old enough to be called MA'AM now?' moment.

I remember that moment. It threw me for a loop too.

go and live in my happy place, where chocolate is a low-cal, free health food and SC's are gagged and force to wash the feet of those staff that normally stand for their entire shift, and nobody smells bad.

I need a happy place... especially the part where nobody smells bad. I was born with a sense of stench instead of a sense of smell.

[JustADude]

Having been raised in The South, I was taught by example that you call girls "Miss" and grown women "Ma'am". Basically, all a "Ma'am" from me means is that you're 1) being respected and 2) don't look like you should still be in high-school.

[draftermatt]

I started getting "sir" at like 14. So now everyone is "sir" or "ma'am" I don't call anyone "miss" it reminds me of yelling "Oh Miss" to a waitress.