I must smell bad or something.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

There is this chick that we run into (I don't want to say where exactly). Suffice it to say we play in a band and she plays in a band and that is how we know her. Her group and my group are friends.

Man, this broad hates my guts.

We invited her over to one of our things once, and she came out of the gate making weird comments where I was concerned. I didn't know this chick, so it isn't like there was history. I just shrugged it off. She's our guest, she's enjoying our hospitality, and acting like I threw a boat of gravy on her head or something.

Every time we've been in the same place, this chick goes out of her way to snub me. Every time. At this point, it has reached ludicrous levels. She has spent the last couple years pretending she doesn't know my name, doesn't know who I am, doesn't know what group I'm with, etc. I have made a point to be nice to her, at this point, just to see how far she will go with the bizarre behavior. It has become a running joke with us.

It's messed up when you are using manners and niceness to annoy someone, but that is what I am doing and it seems to be working. We live in a crazy world.

[Sapphire Silk]

Kill 'em with kindness, that's the way to go.

She's probably jealous of you for some reason, and is hiding her own inadequacies by being a total bitch.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Somebody suggested that, but I don't think that's it. She started out of the box with it.

She is a very good singer and frankly, her band is better than mine.

[zombiequeen]

My brother in law is like that, and he's in a band too. Maybe some people feel they need to act all snotty and like "rockstars" when they are around other bands to feel better than them?
Have you ever tried calling her out on this behavior? Maybe pointing out she's being a bitch for the sake of bitchiness will make her think about how she treats people. It probably won't work, but it's worth a try.

[Food Lady]

Women act like this toward other women that threaten them. If her band is better, she obviously doesn't know it. She feels threatened, whether it's warranted or not. Just read all blas' posts about Ann.

[Peppergirl]

and acting like I threw a boat of gravy on her head or something.

Would it be 'advocating violence' if I said that I wish you actually HAD?

Seriously - what a bitch.

[dalesys]

Could your band work up a cover of the Stones' "Stupid Girl"?

[Sheldonrs]

Is it possible you dated someone she knows?

Maybe you just look like someone she hates.

You could always just ask her what her problem with you is.

[blas]

I vote she's just an insecure bitch.

I get snubbed and stared at a lot by random girls. I can't figure out what it accomplishes by treating me that way or glaring at me.

[chainedbarista]

Could your band work up a cover of the Stones' "Stupid Girl"?

i vote for garbage's version instead.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Is it possible you dated someone she knows?

Maybe you just look like someone she hates.

You could always just ask her what her problem with you is.

1. No way. New Jersey/South Carolina.

2. Possible. Probable. Since she lives in Jersey, and chooses to hate random people, it's just good odds that I look like someone she hates. Half the girls in Jersey look like me.

3. I could, but I don't really care what her problem with me is. It seems to annoy her that I don't notice how hard she is hating me. And I think that's hilarious.

If she's got rock star complex, that is pathetic. We're all a bunch of folkies.

[Teskeria]

For more fun, on a day when she's being just a smidgen less bitchy than usual, act all concerned. Ask her 'Are you okay? You aren't sick or depressed or something today are you? Are you sure you're okay?' (you want your group to hear, esp if they noticed how bitchy she always is). when she finally snaps a 'Why are you asking' type question, you respond oh so sweetly "Well you are being so much less bitchy than usual and that really worries me.'
The whole implication (which most people should get easily) is that you think being a bitch is her normal personality. And you cant really be faulted on that since that is how she always behaves toward you anyway.

[Sheldonrs]

1. No way. New Jersey/South Carolina.

2. Possible. Probable. Since she lives in Jersey, and chooses to hate random people, it's just good odds that I look like someone she hates. Half the girls in Jersey look like me.

3. I could, but I don't really care what her problem with me is. It seems to annoy her that I don't notice how hard she is hating me. And I think that's hilarious.

If she's got rock star complex, that is pathetic. We're all a bunch of folkies.

Actually, her living in NJ answers your questions. Psycho bitches ALL come from NJ! Just watch Jersey Shore, Jerseylicious or Real Housewives of NJ.

[Anakah]

Maybe she has a crush on you and this is her antisocial, immaturistic and crazy "I like you" behavior? If not, ask her what the hell her problem is!

[PepperElf]

chooses to hate random people

makes me wonder if it's a symptom of a mental condition?


i wrote about her once here... girl i knew (barely knew) who i saw at the bar... ranting about me. not just "i don't like PepperElf" but serious rant with plenty of gestures, raised voice, obviously *very* angry.

i found out later that she was bi-polar (and that she disliked me a lot). and that the two issues just kinda got combined once in a while. (hence the full-blown rant i walked in on).



maybe it's something like that. a simple dislike...but one that's being magnified into rude behavior by other issues.