So my mom called me yesterday afternoon. Woke me up as she usually does, as me working night shift never occurs to her that I sleep during the day. It was her usual weekly check in that I'd missed by being at a company function for my husbands work on Sunday. So I get the where were you? Why didn't you answer? Why didn't you let me know ahead of time you wouldn't be home? (I did, she didn't remember) The usual 20 questions about my life that make me glad I live 4 provinces away from her and can control it to one visit a year if I'm lucky and a phone call a week.
We chat for a while and then after I ask for updates on the family she tells me that my Great Aunt D. had passed two weeks ago. Really the only family member on her side of the family that stood up for me and treated me like a human being, not even my grandmother did that. The only family member on her side of the family that I wanted anything to do with. The only one who saw me as a person and was proud of me, died two weeks ago and you are just now telling me?
Her excuse, well I didn't want you to waste your money coming home for the funeral, I know how expensive tickets are and if you come home now, you can't come home for your birthday. You know what, who gives a f**k about my birthday, I would have liked to say goodbye to her. Or if I couldn't come home, I could have sent flowers or a donation.
I called my cousin who was organizing everything and sent my condolences and asked if donations were being accepted to anything like cancer awareness or something. I wish I hadn't now, I got treated to an hour long lecture about how I was an ungrateful brat who never did anything to help the family, i.e., since I moved out here I haven't been to family events where they can drop their kids on me and take off to do there own thing, or be the maid after the party is over, etc. I was also informed that I had no excuse for not being at the funeral if my cousin could come home from overseas, I could damn well come home from the other side of the country. My money is apparently not welcomed in her name because I'm the bitch that turned her back on the family. Didn't even want to hear that I didn't even know that she had passed on until yesterday, nope I did it deliberately to be an inconvenience to her and she had to pay for a babysitter at the funeral as I hadn't shown up to look after her brats.
I called my mom back after talking to this witch and told her that I would no longer have any contact with her family and that as far as I was concerned they could go rot. She went on about that it was just grief talking and that I should give it time to cool down and then contact them again, ignoring that this has been just like every interaction with her family that I have ever had as far back as I can remember. I just don't know what to do anymore to get her to see how they treat me, my dad sees it and supports me when I say I want nothing to do with them, but mom can't and won't. And now the one family member I would have kept in contact with is gone so good riddance to the entire family.
We chat for a while and then after I ask for updates on the family she tells me that my Great Aunt D. had passed two weeks ago. Really the only family member on her side of the family that stood up for me and treated me like a human being, not even my grandmother did that. The only family member on her side of the family that I wanted anything to do with. The only one who saw me as a person and was proud of me, died two weeks ago and you are just now telling me?
Her excuse, well I didn't want you to waste your money coming home for the funeral, I know how expensive tickets are and if you come home now, you can't come home for your birthday. You know what, who gives a f**k about my birthday, I would have liked to say goodbye to her. Or if I couldn't come home, I could have sent flowers or a donation.
I called my cousin who was organizing everything and sent my condolences and asked if donations were being accepted to anything like cancer awareness or something. I wish I hadn't now, I got treated to an hour long lecture about how I was an ungrateful brat who never did anything to help the family, i.e., since I moved out here I haven't been to family events where they can drop their kids on me and take off to do there own thing, or be the maid after the party is over, etc. I was also informed that I had no excuse for not being at the funeral if my cousin could come home from overseas, I could damn well come home from the other side of the country. My money is apparently not welcomed in her name because I'm the bitch that turned her back on the family. Didn't even want to hear that I didn't even know that she had passed on until yesterday, nope I did it deliberately to be an inconvenience to her and she had to pay for a babysitter at the funeral as I hadn't shown up to look after her brats.
I called my mom back after talking to this witch and told her that I would no longer have any contact with her family and that as far as I was concerned they could go rot. She went on about that it was just grief talking and that I should give it time to cool down and then contact them again, ignoring that this has been just like every interaction with her family that I have ever had as far back as I can remember. I just don't know what to do anymore to get her to see how they treat me, my dad sees it and supports me when I say I want nothing to do with them, but mom can't and won't. And now the one family member I would have kept in contact with is gone so good riddance to the entire family.
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