I live in a building; we each have our own rooms. There are 8 people in this building, imagine a halfway house or such. There is no on-site manager. We all share a kitchen. This is a kitchen with a stove (no oven), 2 microwaves, sink, etc. Basic kitchen. 6 out of 8 people here are medium to low-functioning in life skills/comprehension etc. (this is important). Everybody here DOES have a disability.
Ok.
as I said before, there are 2 microwaves. One is an old 70's /80's one, it's HUGE. Brown color, black door, can fit 2 cats in it, maybe 3. That's describing one of them. That sits on the counter next to the stove.
There is another microwave. It is smaller, white, you cook a TV dinner in it but nothing else.
Countertop space is at a premium here. And I have NEVER seen anyone use the large microwave.
So I put a paper on it asking - Vote - Keep or Toss.
It was pulled the same day by a person who lives here (there is a recycle bin in the kitchen, the paper was not there, 6 out of 8 people here ARE naive, not scheming enough to keep the paper)
Again, I put up a paper to vote.
It was tossed.
Third time, the neighbor whom I'd suspected - knocked on my door and said, "Just because you live here doesn't mean you can change anything. Just because you can't use that thing for figure it out doesn't mean you can move that. I use it so leave it alone don't change things you can't change things."
This neighbor has bullied me (IMO) before about changing things in the kitchen. Such as tilting the drain rack a hair bit so it empties faster (I did that, it was reversed later). I meant no problem, it was to make it drain faster!
Or me putting out a batch of cookies out on the counter top to share with everyone else. These got put into the fridge.
Now- a few questions.
1. Am I considered to be passive-aggressive to post a note on the microwave? (my reasoning here is that people here keep odd hours. Easy to vote, don't need to knock on doors, asking, -one person here is volatile)
2. I tried to explain what my thought was, but as I tried, she kept talking over me and getting louder and louder. Is there a way to communicate with someone who does that? This frustrates me.
3. I think this person wants the countertop to have a straight line of sight. The pattern so far physically is to have any thing stationary close against the wall, at least 2/3 of it blank. From kitchen edge towards the back wall, 2/3 open.
4. What would define her actions, of taking down the paper (twice) and then telling me to not do it? (loudly)
5. In the past I had a wishlist out (our building..long story..director mentioned she had a wishlist for the spring. I created one for the tenants, 4 blank pages, everyone wrote on it) and thought, ok, that's stayed there, could the page work?
I'm very frustrated. And I think it's stupid to have to call a house manager to just ask about removing an appliance I don't see being used, instead of asking the tenants. I don't want to yell. But how can I stand up for myself and be assertive in a situation where someone's doing that?
I don't get this one. I really don't. Help?
Another thought: I have only seen 3 out of 8 people use the countertop space for chopping/cooking/prepwork. Everyone uses a microwave, consistently.
Ok.
as I said before, there are 2 microwaves. One is an old 70's /80's one, it's HUGE. Brown color, black door, can fit 2 cats in it, maybe 3. That's describing one of them. That sits on the counter next to the stove.
There is another microwave. It is smaller, white, you cook a TV dinner in it but nothing else.
Countertop space is at a premium here. And I have NEVER seen anyone use the large microwave.
So I put a paper on it asking - Vote - Keep or Toss.
It was pulled the same day by a person who lives here (there is a recycle bin in the kitchen, the paper was not there, 6 out of 8 people here ARE naive, not scheming enough to keep the paper)
Again, I put up a paper to vote.
It was tossed.
Third time, the neighbor whom I'd suspected - knocked on my door and said, "Just because you live here doesn't mean you can change anything. Just because you can't use that thing for figure it out doesn't mean you can move that. I use it so leave it alone don't change things you can't change things."
This neighbor has bullied me (IMO) before about changing things in the kitchen. Such as tilting the drain rack a hair bit so it empties faster (I did that, it was reversed later). I meant no problem, it was to make it drain faster!
Or me putting out a batch of cookies out on the counter top to share with everyone else. These got put into the fridge.
Now- a few questions.
1. Am I considered to be passive-aggressive to post a note on the microwave? (my reasoning here is that people here keep odd hours. Easy to vote, don't need to knock on doors, asking, -one person here is volatile)
2. I tried to explain what my thought was, but as I tried, she kept talking over me and getting louder and louder. Is there a way to communicate with someone who does that? This frustrates me.
3. I think this person wants the countertop to have a straight line of sight. The pattern so far physically is to have any thing stationary close against the wall, at least 2/3 of it blank. From kitchen edge towards the back wall, 2/3 open.
4. What would define her actions, of taking down the paper (twice) and then telling me to not do it? (loudly)
5. In the past I had a wishlist out (our building..long story..director mentioned she had a wishlist for the spring. I created one for the tenants, 4 blank pages, everyone wrote on it) and thought, ok, that's stayed there, could the page work?
I'm very frustrated. And I think it's stupid to have to call a house manager to just ask about removing an appliance I don't see being used, instead of asking the tenants. I don't want to yell. But how can I stand up for myself and be assertive in a situation where someone's doing that?
I don't get this one. I really don't. Help?
Another thought: I have only seen 3 out of 8 people use the countertop space for chopping/cooking/prepwork. Everyone uses a microwave, consistently.
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