Apparently i'm too fat for my job

[COMINATCHA]

As most of you know, I work in a nightclub as a dancer. We have to wear tight, kind of skimpy clothing. It's not slutty, but you need a good body to look good in it, cause it shows all your flaws (eek!)

I have been putting on weight recently. Not alot, but enough to notice a difference when I'm wearing my work stuff. My manager has noticed, and he TOLD ME that he's noticed, and that I need to do something about it. He wasn't very subtle about it either, just straight out said
"Those clothes are getting a bit tight on ya aren't they?"
I was embarassed, and then I started feeling really self conscious.

It's not like he's fired me over it, but the fact that he brought it up makes me a bit nervous. I don't like someone scrutinising my body fat. I'm not fat, but i'm up against skinny girls who make me feel inadequete. I will never be really skinny, it's not my natural body shape.

Does anyone else think I should just quit and tell him to shove it?
Or should I go starve myself and stay employed?

[blas]

Forget that, Comi...

Curves are beautiful and sexy. I doubt you've gained enough weight for it to even show, you are absolutely gorgeous and I'm sure a lot of girls envy YOU because you have curves and they don't. I know I'm damn proud of my hourglass figure, and I'd look ridiculous if I was rail thin.

Don't starve yourself just because some stupid pig of a man basically called you fat.

Be proud of who you are Comi....you are beautiful, inside and out. If your boss makes you feel like you have to starve yourself to look good, you need a new job. No one's self esteem should be brought down by a pig like that.

[Barefootgirl]

Some guys like curvy girls. Some guys like skinny girls. I am sure that just as many of the club punters ogle you as ogle the skinny girls. Unfortunately the bitter truth is that in a job where you are basically just a decoration, there is tremendous pressure to conform to a set idea of "good-looking", even if you are what everyone else in the universe would consider pretty and slim.

Could you just dance a bit faster and burn off more cals that way? (slightly, but not entirely, tongue-in-cheek!)

[TeslaRecoil]

Well, unless you've been doing the Super-Size Me diet since the photos you posted in the album, I doubt you have anything to worry about.

Don't let the manager get to ya. If he wants Kate Moss, Nicole Richie, and the Olsen Twins dancing in his club, then so be it. But most guys (at least, I think) would rather have a girl with a real body. Personally, if I can count all of a girls' ribs, it's kinda freaky. It makes me wanna take her out for a steak dinner.

Too bad you're so far away. I'd come watch you dance, as I'm sure every guy on here would. Damn 14 hour flights!

[digilight]

Comi, first off you are in a position that unfortunatly subjects your physical attributes or what some could percieve as flaws for the whole world to see. Now with that said, I just looked at your photo album pics and I must say that you are a very attractive woman with a very nice figure. What the others above me have said about different men having different taste in women is very true, some like the heroine chic look while others are hot to trot for the bbw look with all other types in between. I think that the most important part is that you be happy with who you are, don't let some jerkoff dictate who you should be. I would judge it on the reactions of the men who are watching you dance if you really care what anyone thinks, after all if they are enjoying watching you then thats the true test.

And for the record I agree with Blas...

[Becks]

Comi, for the love of...well, whatever...DO NOT EVEN CONSIDER starving yourself!!!!!!!!

Your boss was just being a jerk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Personally, I know a lot of guys who DESPISE the living skeleton look (and that's good for me, smooshie girl that I am).

Just be happy with yourself, you're gorgeous!!!!!

[Irving Patrick Freleigh]

Whatever you do, abso-freakin-lutely DO NOT STARVE YOURSELF!

Tell him to shove it and find another place that will take you for who you are.

[Plaidman]

Comi, you are one of the most beautiful woman on this board, and far more likely alot more in other places. <-- Understand, I don't I'm crosseeyed XD.

Point is, Don't even Think about starving yourself for a job. Its not right, and it isn't part of your job description. You seem incredibly intelligent from what few I read of your posts, I'm damn sure you can get another job easy, so flip off the boss, do what you do, and if he throws a hissy fit, leave.

[protege]

Comi, you are one of the most beautiful woman on this board, and far more likely alot more in other places. <-- Understand, I don't I'm crosseeyed XD.

I second (third?) that.

Point is, Don't even Think about starving yourself for a job. Its not right, and it isn't part of your job description. You seem incredibly intelligent from what few I read of your posts, I'm damn sure you can get another job easy, so flip off the boss, do what you do, and if he throws a hissy fit, leave.

Whatever you do, don't starve yourself for the job. It's *NOT* worth it! Tell the boss what he can do with himself (use your imagination here ) and I'm sure you could find something better.

[MystyGlyttyr]

There really are men for all types, hon. I'm a big, muscular wrestling girl...5'6", 200 pounds, tossing around 7-footers in the ring, and it's amazing how many guys tell me I'm hot while I'm snarling and kicking the sh*t out of people. If there are guys who like THAT, then there are guys who like a girl with some curves. It's the same reversed...some girls like Tom Cruise and Brad Pitt...I find them revolting and am attracted to shorter, thinner guys like Matt Hyson and Rey Mysterio.

I'm willing to bet your manager has a potbelly and is getting bald...tell him that as soon as he attracts more women than you attract men, then you'll lose the weight.

[NightWolf]

Yeah, I have to agree with everyone else on this topic so far. Starving yourself will only do you more harm than good in the long run. Don't do it. You're way to beautiful and the effects of starving yourself will more than likely make your body take a beating and have the opposite effect that you're trying to achieve. Sure you'll be thin, but not a healthy thin. It'll take a toll on you.

I'll give ya an example: Torrie Wilson is a WWE Diva. She was an extremely beautiful blonde that I thought looked perfect when she first entered the business. She took some time off and when she came back you could tell she had lost a lot of weight. I didn't like it at all. Mainly because she looked beat up. Her eyes look rough, dark circles under them, she looks tired all the time, and she just didn't look like she was having fun. I'm assuming she lost the weight in order to keep up with the rest of the Divas on the show, but it sure didn't do her any good.

Tell your boss to take a flying leap. And by the way....isn't this the same asshat that was/is screwing around on his wife?!? I can't think of a good comeback at the moment, but something that hints about that might be a good burn for him.


Oh, and Myst.....I am now scared. All I can picture is Chyna. Please don't hurt me.....lol. But seriously, I think it is EXTREMELY cool that you do that!! I just hope no serious injuries ever happen. <Crosses Fingers>

[MystyGlyttyr]

Awww, I don't look like Chyna. Think Lita with more muscle and a bigger butt, heh. I'm a semi-mutant in that I have an enormous bone structure. My doctor, in a rare moment of lucidity, compared it to having the skeleton of a six-footer compressed into a 5'6" body. At the lightest I ever have been, I was 140 in high school when I was fitting into a 6. Now I think an eight and 150-160 pounds would be my ideal weight.

I'm never gonna be a skinny little model...and I'd never WANT to be one. I work with one of those size 0 types and I'm always afraid to shake her hand because I feel like I'm going to snap it off at the elbow...

And I already had one "major" injury...did you know you can dislocate your neck? I didn't either.

[NightWolf]

YIKES!!! I hear that, and suddenly all I can think about is Owen Hart/Stone Cold.

I've never been one for the skinny little model types. I just don't think it's very attractive when all you can see is ribs. All skin and bones, no thanks. Not for me. I'd be afraid of hurting someone too skinny, much like you've commented on.

Sorry for being somewhat COMI.

[MystyGlyttyr]

Sorry for being somewhat COMI.

Same, but the discussion remains valid...people don't just automatically want skinny little chicks, unless they're going to get sticks and play the xylophone on their ribcage like on Family Guy...

[COMINATCHA]

Tell your boss to take a flying leap. And by the way....isn't this the same asshat that was/is screwing around on his wife?!? I can't think of a good comeback at the moment, but something that hints about that might be a good burn for him.

Yep, that's the one. The girl he was screwing around with has left, so maybe he's just bored now and is trying to stir up some drama by insulting me.

I'm actually supposed to be getting ready to go to work at this very moment, but I really don't want to. I feel out of place now. The new girls that have been hired are not all that nice, and they are all stunning. I don't think it's healthy to keep comparing myself to other people like this. My self esteem is just low at the moment, and I don't want to be in a job that is based on the way I look.