Does this come off creepy to you?

[Caffienated_Caramel]

Got a friend request on my MULE FB account (for gaming only) and almost right off the bat they wanna see what I look like (no profile pic for mule). I don't know why people want to see what I look like right away, it puts me on my guard instantly no matter how far away you are from me. (He said he lived in Morocco)

Especially since I don't ask for picture until far later on when I'm comfortable around them.

Anyway this guy asked If knew this other person who he fancied and thought I was his gf after losing contact with her. I didn't know that person at all since I only friended ppl on that account for games purposes only. (He didn't need to know that though) It sounded like he wanted to get a hold of her or me be the new person he fancied.

After trying to ask why he wanted to see what I looked like and not getting an answer (more like begging), I had to throw in the towel and tell him no and that he scared me and logged off.

Is it strange that I'm not willing to show off a picture of me when I don't have it up (cept on my real FB account, from fam) . Especially to strangers I just met? I don't know them, and it creeps me out.

[cashierbex]

Its not weird. You don't have to show a pic to anyone.

[Pixilated]

Nope, not strange at all. Lots of people don't put up real or current photos of themselves for a variety of reasons (I don't). The first red flag for me would've been his request, on virtually no notice at all, to see a photo of you. His persisting in asking for a picture would've set off a whole barnload of alarm bells.

He might be harmless -- especially if he lives on the other side of the globe -- but still, it's your photo, your choice, and he should've backed off right away -- or better yet, not asked in the first place.

[PepperElf]

"losing contact with her"

Well I can see two possible reasons for this.

1) He needs better FB pickup lines
2) His GF's "disappearance" wasn't an accident. People don't just lose contact with their partners and then make up new FB accounts... unless they're trying to avoid the partner.


either way he smells of desperation and creepiness

[Caffienated_Caramel]

I'm thinking the second reason where she could have blocked him.

Either way I'm staying out of that potential can of worms.

[Crossbow]

You could always post a picture of "Large Marge" from PeeWee's Big Adventure.

[Redbeard]

He's either creepy or a scammer. Either way, block em

[Misanthropical]

There is nothing wrong with not putting up your picture. I don't put up my picture or the pictures of my children anymore just because of privacy issues and I don't want someone getting upset with something I said and decide to do something about it by coming after me or my family. If someone asks for my picture I send them a picture of a hippo, that is just how I roll.

That guy sounds like he is a stalker type crazy and I think you did the right thing not sending him your picture and blocking him.

[Andara Bledin]

I used to get a lot of contact requests from people in the middle east who wanted to see pics 'cause they wanted to hot chat. I think out of about 60 (over a period of a decade or so), only 2 actually wanted to do anything else. >_<

And most of them sounded totally stalkeriffic. I think it's mostly language barrier issues, tho.

^-.-^

[Sapphire Silk]

It's not weird to want to not share a picture. There are a lot of guys out there who are just using the Internet as a sub for the local bar. I used to get a lot of that myself.

But even people you know can be like this. An old high school friend gets on me about not having a picture on FB. Well, I've seen recent photos of my old hs friends and prefer the memories. I'm not going to ever see any of these people in person again since most of us have scattered to the four winds, so why bother?

[AccountingDrone]

I created an email, a facebook page and a photobucket in the name of one of my characters on a game because facebook and email was how we kept in touch for raiding schedules - the 'picture' of me was a headshot of my character.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Someone asking some stranger on the internet for a picture right off the bat is creepy. Unless it's a dating site, what you look like is irrelevant.

I had some creep over at Goodreads ask for pictures. I looked at his profile he was one of those world class losers with four thousand "friends", all women. I just blocked his ass.

Goodreads. I mean, I know no forum is free from weirdos. It's the internet, after al. But shitfire, you know? I would think (and I would be wrong, apparently) that Goodreads had maybe a slightly better class of perverts on it.

[Jester]

Whether or not the guy is a creepy, if you felt creeped out by him, than that's all that matters. Not whether I think it's creepy (I do) or others think it's creepy (I'm sure some do and some don't), but what you think.

And if you don't like it, you are fully entitled to do whatever you want to to get rid of the guy, including blocking him, logging off, whatever. What you DON'T have to do is EXPLAIN to this jackass WHY you are doing it. You owe him exactly nothing. Nada. Zip. Zilch. Zero.

And if he doesn't like it, well, fuck him.

[Caffienated_Caramel]

Thanks guys. This makes me feel better I'm glad I got outta there when I did.

[Rapscallion]

If you have to ask, then that's pretty indicative in the first place.

Rapscallion