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My wife "J"'s father passed-away last week. Now Psycho Aunt Sally - J's mother's sister - is furious that we didn't invite her.
We didn't invite/inform Sally because it wasn't our place to. J's mother "Caroline" divorced & left "Ron" over 35 years ago. His family - his second wife "Deb", and their sons "Brad" & "Tom" - organized this funeral. J and I both felt that it was very gracious of them to include us, especially considering their church's opinion of divorce (we don't believe anyone at their church had been aware of his previous marriage). The last thing they needed was for Psycho to just show up with Caroline and insist that they include her. If Sally got that idea in her head, there would be no changing her mind! And if Sally was as close to Ron as she's now acting that she was, then they would have invited her too.
Sally texted J that she's "devastated" that she didn't know (because everything is about Sally, of course).
J had opened a Facebook account just to keep in touch with family members (though she un-friended Sally long ago). Earlier this week, J posted Ron's obituary - along with some of her thoughts & memories of her father - on her Facebook page for people in Caroline's family: Uncle B & Aunt D, their son B and his wife, etc. They posted some nice comments back.
Someone who's a friend with J on Facebook (maybe Psycho's husband or daughter?) must have let Sally read it. And Psycho of course felt the need to share her thoughts with J too. She texted "You are a joke" and mocked J for having only 10 Facebook friends (Well, J only has the account to keep in touch with family.) "They are laughing about your pitiful posts." Really? Someone - other than Sally - is laughing about J sharing some of her memories of her father? That's sick.
And "pitiful"?
"You have no soul, no heart." Methinks Sally was looking in the mirror when she texted that. Again, this is all about Sally. She's angry with J for not including her in the funeral.
Someone must have also told Psycho that we're planning on moving to Los Angeles soon. She included her opinion on that too: "Go to California so you can grab a free house." Well, we're not planning on living in (or "grabbing") my parent's house - we'll be getting an apartment as close as possible to J's work. I seriously doubt the thought of moving closer to grandparents so they could see & be involved in their grandchildren's lives would EVER cross Psycho Aunt Sally's mind!
"And if you take my sister and mistreat her. ...." Really?! This is coming from Caroline's sister who, once she was no longer able to control Caroline's money, e-mailed "Mike" (J's brother, who was assigned Power of Attorney over Caroline's finances) that she would be sending him receipts for everything she spends on Caroline and that she expected to be reimbursed promptly!
Nothing says family love & caring quite like submitting receipts for immediate reimbursement.
Mike also knew that Ron had passed away. I e-mailed him the schedule, links to the funeral home, cemetery, and church, and the links to Ron's obituary posts immediately after I found them on the Internet. Do you think Psycho is sending the same abusive texts to Mike that she sends to J? I doubt it. She doesn't appear to have the same license to emotionally abuse Mike that she does to abuse J.
Did I type "license"? The word should be "duty."
J had actually started to second-guess her decision to wait until after the funeral to tell her mother's family about this ... but Psycho's texts have confirmed to J that she made the right decision!
At least Psycho Aunt Sally's the only crazy one in that family ... or is she?
Sally also texted that her brother Fred - J's uncle - had been Ron's roommate long ago. "Yet you didn't reach out to him either. He is equally upset."
How could he be that upset? (Crazy-upset!)
Fred posted this message on J's Facebook wall (for everyone to read): "Good job [J], you mother would be proud. You are as insensitive and self centered as she is."
Sounds like someone has been listening a little too much to Psycho Aunt Sally's rants! I'm sure those are Sally's comments parroted word-for-word.
If Fred and Ron were so close, then why didn't Ron's family invite him? I believe Uncle Fred's been in the [city] area all of three times in the 14 or so years that I've known J. Did he visit Ron on any of those three visits? But I forgot - this is really about Sally not being included, about Sally not getting what she wants. (Sally always gets what she wants ... or else!) "Insensitive and self centered"? Wow.
He topped it off with a classy closing: "I am sure [Grandfather] will understand when I let the dahlia [J.L.] die off." Yep. Classy.
That would be the one mentioned in Grandfather's obituary: "He was recently honored by the [region] Dahlia Association for his "[J.L.]" which he cultivated in 2004, resulting in the 2008 Flower of the Year award."
I just remembered the time Grandfather & Grandmother arrived a day early at Aunt D & Uncle B's house when they drove up. It was planned that way: J & I were invited over, and the six of us had a nice dinner together, absolutely free of Sally-drama. When Sally called in the middle of dinner and figured out that we were all there and that she wasn't invited, Grandfather laughed.
So ... Grandfather would definitely understand our not allowing Psycho to show up and inject unnecessary stress & drama into Ron's funeral. But I doubt he would understand Fred killing-off the dahlia that he spent four years cultivating, that he had named after my wife J, and had won the 2008 Flower of the Year award ... just because of one of Psycho's temper tantrums.
It's too bad Uncle Fred can't think for himself. He might have instead been concerned with how J was doing following the death of her father.
Sally texted "Did you think this was going to go over well or do you just want no family?"
Well ... after reading Sally and Fred's comments, would anyone want them for family? No, J definitely wasn't thinking of Psycho Aunt Sally. She was instead thinking of Ron's wife Deb, who had just lost her husband, and of Brad and Tom, who had just lost their father.
Again, I can see now that we made the right choice in not allowing Psycho Aunt Sally to interfere with Deb, Brad, and Tom's ceremony to remember Ron's life.
The names have been changed to protect the innocent ... except for Sally's - because she's Psycho!
Other CS posts about this nut include:
Psycho Aunt Sally
The Return of Psycho Aunt Sally
Dog Thief! (a Psycho Aunt Sally experience)
We didn't invite/inform Sally because it wasn't our place to. J's mother "Caroline" divorced & left "Ron" over 35 years ago. His family - his second wife "Deb", and their sons "Brad" & "Tom" - organized this funeral. J and I both felt that it was very gracious of them to include us, especially considering their church's opinion of divorce (we don't believe anyone at their church had been aware of his previous marriage). The last thing they needed was for Psycho to just show up with Caroline and insist that they include her. If Sally got that idea in her head, there would be no changing her mind! And if Sally was as close to Ron as she's now acting that she was, then they would have invited her too.
Sally texted J that she's "devastated" that she didn't know (because everything is about Sally, of course).
J had opened a Facebook account just to keep in touch with family members (though she un-friended Sally long ago). Earlier this week, J posted Ron's obituary - along with some of her thoughts & memories of her father - on her Facebook page for people in Caroline's family: Uncle B & Aunt D, their son B and his wife, etc. They posted some nice comments back.
Someone who's a friend with J on Facebook (maybe Psycho's husband or daughter?) must have let Sally read it. And Psycho of course felt the need to share her thoughts with J too. She texted "You are a joke" and mocked J for having only 10 Facebook friends (Well, J only has the account to keep in touch with family.) "They are laughing about your pitiful posts." Really? Someone - other than Sally - is laughing about J sharing some of her memories of her father? That's sick.
And "pitiful"?
"You have no soul, no heart." Methinks Sally was looking in the mirror when she texted that. Again, this is all about Sally. She's angry with J for not including her in the funeral.
Someone must have also told Psycho that we're planning on moving to Los Angeles soon. She included her opinion on that too: "Go to California so you can grab a free house." Well, we're not planning on living in (or "grabbing") my parent's house - we'll be getting an apartment as close as possible to J's work. I seriously doubt the thought of moving closer to grandparents so they could see & be involved in their grandchildren's lives would EVER cross Psycho Aunt Sally's mind!
"And if you take my sister and mistreat her. ...." Really?! This is coming from Caroline's sister who, once she was no longer able to control Caroline's money, e-mailed "Mike" (J's brother, who was assigned Power of Attorney over Caroline's finances) that she would be sending him receipts for everything she spends on Caroline and that she expected to be reimbursed promptly!
Nothing says family love & caring quite like submitting receipts for immediate reimbursement.
Mike also knew that Ron had passed away. I e-mailed him the schedule, links to the funeral home, cemetery, and church, and the links to Ron's obituary posts immediately after I found them on the Internet. Do you think Psycho is sending the same abusive texts to Mike that she sends to J? I doubt it. She doesn't appear to have the same license to emotionally abuse Mike that she does to abuse J.
Did I type "license"? The word should be "duty."
J had actually started to second-guess her decision to wait until after the funeral to tell her mother's family about this ... but Psycho's texts have confirmed to J that she made the right decision!
At least Psycho Aunt Sally's the only crazy one in that family ... or is she?
Sally also texted that her brother Fred - J's uncle - had been Ron's roommate long ago. "Yet you didn't reach out to him either. He is equally upset."
How could he be that upset? (Crazy-upset!)
Fred posted this message on J's Facebook wall (for everyone to read): "Good job [J], you mother would be proud. You are as insensitive and self centered as she is."
Sounds like someone has been listening a little too much to Psycho Aunt Sally's rants! I'm sure those are Sally's comments parroted word-for-word.
If Fred and Ron were so close, then why didn't Ron's family invite him? I believe Uncle Fred's been in the [city] area all of three times in the 14 or so years that I've known J. Did he visit Ron on any of those three visits? But I forgot - this is really about Sally not being included, about Sally not getting what she wants. (Sally always gets what she wants ... or else!) "Insensitive and self centered"? Wow.
He topped it off with a classy closing: "I am sure [Grandfather] will understand when I let the dahlia [J.L.] die off." Yep. Classy.
That would be the one mentioned in Grandfather's obituary: "He was recently honored by the [region] Dahlia Association for his "[J.L.]" which he cultivated in 2004, resulting in the 2008 Flower of the Year award."
I just remembered the time Grandfather & Grandmother arrived a day early at Aunt D & Uncle B's house when they drove up. It was planned that way: J & I were invited over, and the six of us had a nice dinner together, absolutely free of Sally-drama. When Sally called in the middle of dinner and figured out that we were all there and that she wasn't invited, Grandfather laughed.
So ... Grandfather would definitely understand our not allowing Psycho to show up and inject unnecessary stress & drama into Ron's funeral. But I doubt he would understand Fred killing-off the dahlia that he spent four years cultivating, that he had named after my wife J, and had won the 2008 Flower of the Year award ... just because of one of Psycho's temper tantrums.
It's too bad Uncle Fred can't think for himself. He might have instead been concerned with how J was doing following the death of her father.
Sally texted "Did you think this was going to go over well or do you just want no family?"
Well ... after reading Sally and Fred's comments, would anyone want them for family? No, J definitely wasn't thinking of Psycho Aunt Sally. She was instead thinking of Ron's wife Deb, who had just lost her husband, and of Brad and Tom, who had just lost their father.
Again, I can see now that we made the right choice in not allowing Psycho Aunt Sally to interfere with Deb, Brad, and Tom's ceremony to remember Ron's life.
The names have been changed to protect the innocent ... except for Sally's - because she's Psycho!
Other CS posts about this nut include:
Psycho Aunt Sally
The Return of Psycho Aunt Sally
Dog Thief! (a Psycho Aunt Sally experience)
That is one delusional crazy ass bitch!
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