They don't understand why I am so mad. Am I crazy or is it them?

[morgana]

sounds like a couple of folks need a good head-slap

With a clue-by-four.

[houdini]

Yeah, I'd be mad after this too. They seriously think it's ok to give you no notice to move out? Especially when you've been checking?

Dump them asap.

With a clue-by-four.

With a nail in it.

[Jester]

I disagree with everyone here. Clearly you are the one who is crazy.

Seriously, why would you get angry at a roommate who knew the landlord, who happened to be his mother, needed you to get out, knew it for a while, but didn't tell you until three days prior to when the landlord needed you to vacate the premises? Seems like a completely reasonable and fair thing to do to a roommate and a friend. Hell, friends like that keep you on your toes!

And as for the other friend, why would you get angry at him just because he knew you were planning on moving in, and then when you told him you had to do so sooner than expected, he not only told you you couldn't do so so soon, but couldn't do so at all, as he had decided to have his girlfriend move in? Again, keeping you on your toes. It's what friends are for, after all.

And then, to top it all off, you actually had the nerve to get angry with both of the for suggesting to your brand new girlfriend that she let you move in with her? They are merely trying to help your relationship with your new beloved progress, albeit a bit faster than either you or she were expecting.

Clearly, they're are good, true friends, merely looking out for your best interests, and to get angry at them for such friendly treatment is the epitome of insanity.

[KuariKaydrith]

If the above post had been written by anybody other than Jester I might have lost my mind to flaming rage. Instead I chuckled.

[CorneliaMarieRocks]

likewise

[dalesys]

If I was less artspazztistic, I would have redone Jester's avatar with a redshift, horns and curlicued villian 'stache... He *is* a Sun Devil, after all.

[blas]

I am so sorry, OP.

There are a lot of people in this world who never consider anyone or anything, and feel that everything in life on their end is on a "need to know" basis. And apparently, no one else needs to know anything until they feel like saying anything.

Trust me, I've been friends with and dated these types of slime. They aren't worth anything to anyone in the long run.

I'm sorry, but even the most unorganized, flakey of a person couldn't go that long of a period of time withholding that type of information unless they truly didn't care or were purposely being a bag of dicks.

[Barracuda]

Dump both these creeps as friends ASAP. Anyone THAT selfish is not worth having as a friend and will let you down over and over again, and never understand why you get angry with them when they screw you over, because they are selfish enough they are incapable of understanding. I have had "friends" like that--never let you know that plans you've made together have changed, commit to something they have no intention of following through on, or treat you disrespectfully and act surprised that you are upset with them. They aren't capable of caring about others in a meaningful way if it interferes with what they want in the slightest way.
The quicker you jettison them both, the better. And slap them with a clue-by-four in the form of a letter. Maybe it won't do any good and they will just ignore it, but they will not be able to claim they weren't told why.

[customersruinmylife]

Haha, well thanks for the replies guys. I think I needed to post this as my head was completely up its arse when I first typed it!

Being back at the parents isn't so bad. The one thing I have noticed is that I have actually SLEPT. And I mean slept. I never realised just how much my roommate actually kept me awake at night (he worked evenings and weekends and sometimes thought the appropriate time to do housework was at 2am) I am trying to save, but Christmas is making that a little difficult. I have given myself a February deadline to find a new place because as much as I love my parents, I can't live with them for long.

I have also dumped the two of them as friends, but I haven't actually told them. I packed up the house and left it empty, not telling anyone where I was going. Neither of them has actually asked where I am or how I am doing. Seriously, as far as they are concerned I am a missing person, and no effort has been made to contact me.

However we do have mutual friends (who are on my side) who have come up to me, saying they have been expressing their disappointment and disgust that I am "ignoring them" I'm sorry, but I thought someone had to actually speak to you in order for you to ignore them. It's all very childish.

I am not actually mad with them, I am just very disappointed that they have not turned out to be the people I thought they were. I am also not ignoring them. Like I said, neither of them has actually contacted me for me to ignore them. We have mutual friends, so it will be impossible for me not to hang around with them again. I am simply not bothering with them as individuals anymore. Group hang outs are fine, but if one of them texts asking for me to go for a beer, I will always have a handy excuse not to go with them.

[MoonCat]

Oh, don't bother with an excuse. You don't owe anyone an explanation of why you don't want to go somewhere. Just say you can't make it.

Or, as someone on this board said: "I'm sorry, that won't be possible."

[Jester]

Or simply say, "No."

[MoonCat]

Or simply say, "No."

Sometimes the simplest answer is the best

[Trixie]

Or to take some wisdom from The Brady Bunch as I believe Greg told Marcia just say "Something suddenly came up."

[depechemodefan]

I wish you the best of luck finding a new adobe, with no wanker roommates (I'm not being sarcastic).

I would be angriest with the landlady. She should have known what a flake her son was; she should have advise you in writing, like a good landlady. Though I would be plenty angry with the (the now ex)roommate, esp. when he thinks there was no reason for you to be angry. He might have thought that you had a place to go (though I expect he never listened to you when you were talking about living with the other friend), so hopefully he knew the other friend let you down.

The friend with the house, though. I imagine he was having fly-by-the-seat-of-the-pants plans. No doubt he thought you would always land on your feet no matter what would happend But I think you should have gotten something in writing if you were planning to move into his new house. With nothing in writing, he might have not taken the idea of you moving in seriously (since he obviously didn't think you were serious when you kept on asking him for assurances )

But both were douchbags in the end. They obviously didn't care enough to realize that they made it into a problem for you; they were expecting someone else (ie, your new girlfriend) to bail you out.

I'm expecting the friend who moved will call you when he comes back to town (he will be shocked! when he finds out the new town is in middle of no where! Even though he knew it would be in middle of no where) to find out if you want to be a roommate again. And the guy with the new house will be dumped by his gf because he keeps on breaking promises with her.

[blas]

Don't feel too bad about having to go back home either, mate.

It happens to the best of us.