Am I weird ?

[KatherineB]

Good for you!

[DGoddessChardonnay]

I think most of you are right and that new friends are in order, or at least need a talking to. However, cousin's fiancee is always going to get a gift, as long as I'm still around.

What matters is what and how YOU feel, not those so-called "friends."

Family is just that . . . a group of people who are close enough to one another that they look out for one another. Doesn't always have to be biological.

[Teefies2]

This is a lot like the discussions I have had with my mom and my husband this year. I send my sister's children Christmas and birthday gifts every year, without fail. I rarely get an acknowledgement, unless I ask for one (like when I put cash in with a card - I want to make sure they got it). My sister hasn't sent my kids any gifts, birthday or otherwise, for over 10 years.

My mom and my husband think I should quit giving my nephews gifts ... and their reason is that "she never sends your kids anything". But, you see, I send those gifts because I WANT to, not to fulfill some quid pro quo. And besides, it's not the nephews' fault their mom is an ungrateful bitch (oh wait, did I just type that????) :-D

[dalesys]

"Home Is Where The Heart Is" by Sally Fingerett, performed by Peter, Paul & Mary.

[sms001]

Condolences on your loss, I know it can be extra tough when contrasted with some holidays.

I'm sure your she appreciates not suddenly being "forgotten" just ESPECIALLY because he's gone.

Since Ade +1'd I guess I'll +2. I'm kind of curious though, do you think if they'd been married before the accident it'd make any difference? And how long, a week, a year? Just a very strange thought pattern to me.

[worddork]

I'm kind of curious though, do you think if they'd been married before the accident it'd make any difference? And how long, a week, a year? Just a very strange thought pattern to me.

I'm not sure on my friends' thought process, but I do know that the few of them with divorced parents have stopped talking to step families when the second, third and forth marriages have fallen apart.

I know at my cousin's funeral, everyone told his fiancee that she was family and would never get rid of us. We tend to hold on to people.