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OK, so I'm really big on getting advice from people who love and know me on big issues. I oftentimes will send out a mass email to the friends I consider family. This past one was a very simple request for prayers/thoughts regarding my tax situation. I had already asked all of you for practical advice on what to do, and followed through on someone's statement (sorry--can't remember who, but thank you!) and sought out free preparation from someone recommended by the IRS site itself. In this email to my friends I did mention this, and those who responded, save one, said they would definitely pray for me to have faith and peace, as I requested. But the one has given me advice I didn't ask for, which I thanked her for, and assured her the logistics were taken care of, and my concern is regarding how it all comes out. So she is going back and forth with me about how I should possible pay her consultant, because this would somehow be better. I get her concern, but I am not asking advice in this instance, just support. I might be oversensitive, but stuff like this has happened before.
I've had the opposite--asking for advice on which of two spelled-out alternatives to take, and being given a third one that is not possible for me to actually do. I felt like, did you actually read the two proposals I wrote out? It's as if I asked, "Should I eat an apple or an orange?" and being told to sew my mouth shut and get an IV. (OK, that's really weird, but I'm strange
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And last month there was a potluck on a Sunday, within an insanely crazy week for me, in which my only day off was the previous Tuesday. I planned to make a cold salad and bring it to the building the Wed before the potluck and leave it in the refrigerator. I guess it was a mistake to ask it that was ok. I simply meant I didn't want to take up refrigerator space. I wasn't asking permission to make it ahead of time, but a friend who answered my email had a problem with just that, because the flu was going around, and apparently not making it the night before (Saturday, the weekly apocalypse for retail people) would ensure the spread of the flu, which I did not have. OK, I'd be more concerned with food poisoning, but frankly, I know what I'm doing in the kitchen--state-certified for food safety and in the food service industry. Beside that, what are refrigerators for if not to keep food below a safe temp? Well, we ironed out the argument, but honestly, her responses sometimes have nothing to do with what I ask.
I'm beginnig to think my friends/family don't listen to me any better than my customers do, even when it's the written word.
I've had the opposite--asking for advice on which of two spelled-out alternatives to take, and being given a third one that is not possible for me to actually do. I felt like, did you actually read the two proposals I wrote out? It's as if I asked, "Should I eat an apple or an orange?" and being told to sew my mouth shut and get an IV. (OK, that's really weird, but I'm strange
).And last month there was a potluck on a Sunday, within an insanely crazy week for me, in which my only day off was the previous Tuesday. I planned to make a cold salad and bring it to the building the Wed before the potluck and leave it in the refrigerator. I guess it was a mistake to ask it that was ok. I simply meant I didn't want to take up refrigerator space. I wasn't asking permission to make it ahead of time, but a friend who answered my email had a problem with just that, because the flu was going around, and apparently not making it the night before (Saturday, the weekly apocalypse for retail people) would ensure the spread of the flu, which I did not have. OK, I'd be more concerned with food poisoning, but frankly, I know what I'm doing in the kitchen--state-certified for food safety and in the food service industry. Beside that, what are refrigerators for if not to keep food below a safe temp? Well, we ironed out the argument, but honestly, her responses sometimes have nothing to do with what I ask.
I'm beginnig to think my friends/family don't listen to me any better than my customers do, even when it's the written word.
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