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I have a question. Mom is in a nursing home, and is slowly deteriorating (to nobody's surprise, sad though it is). She bought birthday cards for my sister and niece ahead of time and then never sent them -- I suspect she'd forgotten she had them. 
So what I'm wondering is ... should I donate the cards? Niece is in her teens so it's not as if she were a small child who would be thrilled to get a card from "Grandma" and wouldn't know that "Grandma" didn't sign it. And sis is a nurse-practitioner; she's certainly aware of Mom's increasing limitations.
For Mom's first few years in the nursing home I would bring her the cards and get her to sign them, but the last time I tried that (on a card for niece -- her granddaughter) she signed the 'G' ... and then couldn't seem to think of what came next. I finished 'Grandma" for her. Now, I'm not sure she could even manager that much -- and the two birthdays are eight to 10 months away. By then, she'll only have deteriorated even more.
They are pretty, sentimental cards -- which is odd, as Mom was never a sentimental person ... she was definitely NOT an indulgent grandma. Because of that, and extensive physical distances, niece has never had the kind of close, memory-making relationship with Mom that my siblings and I had with Mom's mother
In future I plan to get a generic card (not one for "Granddaughter" or "Daughter" and sign it from both Mom and I. Just debating what to do with these cards. Meanwhile, I'm sure out there somewhere there's somebody who'd love to use these cards.
Thoughts?
So what I'm wondering is ... should I donate the cards? Niece is in her teens so it's not as if she were a small child who would be thrilled to get a card from "Grandma" and wouldn't know that "Grandma" didn't sign it. And sis is a nurse-practitioner; she's certainly aware of Mom's increasing limitations.
For Mom's first few years in the nursing home I would bring her the cards and get her to sign them, but the last time I tried that (on a card for niece -- her granddaughter) she signed the 'G' ... and then couldn't seem to think of what came next.
I finished 'Grandma" for her. Now, I'm not sure she could even manager that much -- and the two birthdays are eight to 10 months away. By then, she'll only have deteriorated even more.They are pretty, sentimental cards -- which is odd, as Mom was never a sentimental person ... she was definitely NOT an indulgent grandma. Because of that, and extensive physical distances, niece has never had the kind of close, memory-making relationship with Mom that my siblings and I had with Mom's mother
In future I plan to get a generic card (not one for "Granddaughter" or "Daughter" and sign it from both Mom and I. Just debating what to do with these cards. Meanwhile, I'm sure out there somewhere there's somebody who'd love to use these cards.
Thoughts?
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