Kara,
Speaking from personal experience you did exactly what you needed to do for him. You were that guiding light to help him through his darkest moment in his life.
My wife passed away unexpected after the first of the year. In her case we went to bed one night, and when I woke up her up the next morning she was gone. What I remember when I realized when she was gone was that sudden feeling of "I'm alone'. You being there has no doubt in my mind, helped cushion that blow for him.
Like others has said before, you need to make sure he is eating right, sleeping, and taking care of himself. based on my experience, most likely what is going to happen, is between now and the services he's going to have a lot of people to help him along and he will be so busy, he won't have time to morn. For him, it's going to be after the services when it will the hardest for him. That's when he will sit down, and start to think.
For everyone else, life will go on pretty much normally, but for him it won't. He will still need someone after him for a while to make sure he's eating/sleeping/ and taking care of himself for a while because, frankly, he won't care. That hardest is going to be the 'firsts' for him. The first day back to work. The first missed birthday, the first anniversary the first holidays etc.
Speaking from personal experience you did exactly what you needed to do for him. You were that guiding light to help him through his darkest moment in his life.
My wife passed away unexpected after the first of the year. In her case we went to bed one night, and when I woke up her up the next morning she was gone. What I remember when I realized when she was gone was that sudden feeling of "I'm alone'. You being there has no doubt in my mind, helped cushion that blow for him.
Like others has said before, you need to make sure he is eating right, sleeping, and taking care of himself. based on my experience, most likely what is going to happen, is between now and the services he's going to have a lot of people to help him along and he will be so busy, he won't have time to morn. For him, it's going to be after the services when it will the hardest for him. That's when he will sit down, and start to think.
For everyone else, life will go on pretty much normally, but for him it won't. He will still need someone after him for a while to make sure he's eating/sleeping/ and taking care of himself for a while because, frankly, he won't care. That hardest is going to be the 'firsts' for him. The first day back to work. The first missed birthday, the first anniversary the first holidays etc.
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