I am having a major dilemma regarding my mom, and I don't know who here is wrong.
Background: My dad passed away 2 years ago and left the house to me and my mom. It wasn't a surprise passing, since Dad was suffering from complications from cancer, and basically was bed ridden for the 6 months before his passing. I hated my job and wanted to spend the last moments with dad, so I quit my job a year before his passing. So between his health and no income, we drained the pool rather quick.
Fast forward to present day: I am married with a 2 month old boy. We plan to have a 2nd child, but we need a bigger place. We are living at home with mom because I have been shouldering the property tax for the house and all the bills since dad passed. I currently only make enough to cover everything with barely anything for savings. My wife covers the rest. Mom is on disability with no financial ability.
The problem: Mom won't let me sell the house. She don't want me to move out to either buy or rent a place of our own. She won't let me make changes to the house. In addition, she has been telling everyone and anyone with a listening ear about how she suffers for the family, spending her own money to buy stuff for the family, and how her son don't pay attention to her, and how my in-laws and wife is plotting to take over our house.
I'll be honest, if this was not my mom, I would've kicked that ass so hard they would land in Pluto. The house got shoved into my hands with barely any ability to maintain it, thank god the mortgage was paid off. All the income for up keep comes from me. I work 6 days a week and my wife works 5. I have a 2 month old son that I need to help take care of and a wife recovering from child birth. My MIL is the one taking care of the baby and staying up all night caring for him so me and my wife can sleep and go to work. Meanwhile, my mom just have to pick up groceries and other stuff, and she has 2 credit cards that I gave her and will pay off for anything she buys relating to the household.
We all have our roles to play, and I am trying to be the head of the household. But with mom being essentially a child, I don't know what to do.
Background: My dad passed away 2 years ago and left the house to me and my mom. It wasn't a surprise passing, since Dad was suffering from complications from cancer, and basically was bed ridden for the 6 months before his passing. I hated my job and wanted to spend the last moments with dad, so I quit my job a year before his passing. So between his health and no income, we drained the pool rather quick.
Fast forward to present day: I am married with a 2 month old boy. We plan to have a 2nd child, but we need a bigger place. We are living at home with mom because I have been shouldering the property tax for the house and all the bills since dad passed. I currently only make enough to cover everything with barely anything for savings. My wife covers the rest. Mom is on disability with no financial ability.
The problem: Mom won't let me sell the house. She don't want me to move out to either buy or rent a place of our own. She won't let me make changes to the house. In addition, she has been telling everyone and anyone with a listening ear about how she suffers for the family, spending her own money to buy stuff for the family, and how her son don't pay attention to her, and how my in-laws and wife is plotting to take over our house.
I'll be honest, if this was not my mom, I would've kicked that ass so hard they would land in Pluto. The house got shoved into my hands with barely any ability to maintain it, thank god the mortgage was paid off. All the income for up keep comes from me. I work 6 days a week and my wife works 5. I have a 2 month old son that I need to help take care of and a wife recovering from child birth. My MIL is the one taking care of the baby and staying up all night caring for him so me and my wife can sleep and go to work. Meanwhile, my mom just have to pick up groceries and other stuff, and she has 2 credit cards that I gave her and will pay off for anything she buys relating to the household.
We all have our roles to play, and I am trying to be the head of the household. But with mom being essentially a child, I don't know what to do.
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