One of the reasons my brother gave me for moving in with mom was 'free storage' -- i.e. I could keep my stuff from my apartment in her basement. Wasn't happy about it, due to the smoke issue, but I was resigned to it. I've gotten rid of a lot of stuff, though probably not as much as I could have.
At the moment the situation with mom is very fluid -- she was rushed to hospital yesterday with what turned out to be an infection in her knee and was hospitalized overnight. I believe she will be going home today.
Bro is still saying there's no reason for me to expect I can't go to the family home when I leave my apt. later this month. I certainly hope this is true, because I have literally nowhere else to go.
However, I don't know what the financial situation will be when I get there. I can hardly get there and say, "Oh, I'll just dip into mom's money for whatever I need." So I will have between $2,000 and $3,000 when I do get there. This will have to do me until I can find a job or start school and get back on student loans. (Bro has been incredibly generous with me but cannot help me ATM for at least another month or so due to the escalating costs of mom's care, which he alone is covering. Sis cannot help and I certainly can't.)
I had a storage unit ($40/month) full of stuff I haven't been able to get through yet. Brother had advised me to let it go for now.
To move the remaining stuff from my apartment to mom's will cost $2,000. At this point I don't want to spend the money because of the above-mentioned financial situation. I had been planning to ask mom to loan me the money to move the stuff to her place, and IF she seems OK when I get there, I will still do that. I suggested to brother that I store the stuff in the meantime.
But NOW brother is suggesting I combine the two storage units into one large one! I know I could manage the $40/month for the one storage unit, but I can't guarantee I could manage the money for a more expensive unit. We could be talking $150/month!
I don't understand why brother seems to have flipflopped on this. First he was pushing the 'free storage' issue and now he's saying put it all in definitely non-free storage. (Sis meanwhile is chiming in with "Get rid of it all! That's what we did when we moved across the country!" But it's hard enough to be uprooted, not entirely voluntarily, without giving up everything I own on top of it.)
Brother was also pushing the idea of "You could stay in the house until you finish school" but there is always the possibility that something could change that. And IF I have to leave the house and move into an apartment, removing some of my belongings from a large storage unit won't affect the price, so I'll be paying money for a lot of empty space.
Brother is also pushing the matter of getting to My Hometown ASAP so I can start "replenishing my bank account." But My Hometown has even fewer job opportunities than my current location. Not saying I won't get a job, and I intend to look hard for one, but he's making it sound like I can just walk in there and grab one.
So he wants me to get there quickly. I concur. But if I have to combine storage units, that is going to mean additional work -- a fair amount of it, since I am doing it all myself -- which may mean additional time spent here (I have the apartment until June 30, although I'd intended to move June 20, and would still like to adhere to that, if possible -- I too would like to get to My Hometown ASAP). I can only do so much in one day, I still have stuff to pack in my apt. and this is a rather abrupt turnaround from my original plans.
I feel as if I'm suddenly getting a LOT of contradictory advice from brother -- store it free at mom's; no, store it somewhere definitely non-free; combine the two storage units into one but get to My Hometown quickly so you can get a job.
So I'm feeling incredibly stressed over all this (and the "Get rid of it all!" philosophy isn't helping!)
Thoughts, opinions? Am I overlooking or missing something? This has been difficult enough for me since everytime I think I am getting a handle on the situation it changes -- and not for the better.
At the moment the situation with mom is very fluid -- she was rushed to hospital yesterday with what turned out to be an infection in her knee and was hospitalized overnight. I believe she will be going home today.
Bro is still saying there's no reason for me to expect I can't go to the family home when I leave my apt. later this month. I certainly hope this is true, because I have literally nowhere else to go.
However, I don't know what the financial situation will be when I get there. I can hardly get there and say, "Oh, I'll just dip into mom's money for whatever I need." So I will have between $2,000 and $3,000 when I do get there. This will have to do me until I can find a job or start school and get back on student loans. (Bro has been incredibly generous with me but cannot help me ATM for at least another month or so due to the escalating costs of mom's care, which he alone is covering. Sis cannot help and I certainly can't.)
I had a storage unit ($40/month) full of stuff I haven't been able to get through yet. Brother had advised me to let it go for now.
To move the remaining stuff from my apartment to mom's will cost $2,000. At this point I don't want to spend the money because of the above-mentioned financial situation. I had been planning to ask mom to loan me the money to move the stuff to her place, and IF she seems OK when I get there, I will still do that. I suggested to brother that I store the stuff in the meantime.
But NOW brother is suggesting I combine the two storage units into one large one! I know I could manage the $40/month for the one storage unit, but I can't guarantee I could manage the money for a more expensive unit. We could be talking $150/month!
I don't understand why brother seems to have flipflopped on this. First he was pushing the 'free storage' issue and now he's saying put it all in definitely non-free storage. (Sis meanwhile is chiming in with "Get rid of it all! That's what we did when we moved across the country!" But it's hard enough to be uprooted, not entirely voluntarily, without giving up everything I own on top of it.)
Brother was also pushing the idea of "You could stay in the house until you finish school" but there is always the possibility that something could change that. And IF I have to leave the house and move into an apartment, removing some of my belongings from a large storage unit won't affect the price, so I'll be paying money for a lot of empty space.
Brother is also pushing the matter of getting to My Hometown ASAP so I can start "replenishing my bank account." But My Hometown has even fewer job opportunities than my current location. Not saying I won't get a job, and I intend to look hard for one, but he's making it sound like I can just walk in there and grab one.
So he wants me to get there quickly. I concur. But if I have to combine storage units, that is going to mean additional work -- a fair amount of it, since I am doing it all myself -- which may mean additional time spent here (I have the apartment until June 30, although I'd intended to move June 20, and would still like to adhere to that, if possible -- I too would like to get to My Hometown ASAP). I can only do so much in one day, I still have stuff to pack in my apt. and this is a rather abrupt turnaround from my original plans.
I feel as if I'm suddenly getting a LOT of contradictory advice from brother -- store it free at mom's; no, store it somewhere definitely non-free; combine the two storage units into one but get to My Hometown quickly so you can get a job.
So I'm feeling incredibly stressed over all this (and the "Get rid of it all!" philosophy isn't helping!)
Thoughts, opinions? Am I overlooking or missing something? This has been difficult enough for me since everytime I think I am getting a handle on the situation it changes -- and not for the better.
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