Hi everyone
So I no longer have a blog, or a journal (should start one of those again) so I'm posting this here (also because I could use advice). I'm running into an issue at work where my lack of a spine is causing problems. I'm conflict-adverse, mostly just due to my natural personality, some from never really having been taught how to handle it. Any disagreement or unhappiness in my guests and I feel like I'm about to be screamed at or knocked across the room, so I give in.
I placate guests more than I should. Like if they didn't book a balcony room and start whining because they didn't get one I'll give them cookies from our little shop just to keep them from getting mad. The AGM doesn't like that (he said it's not a huge deal but he is correct we shouldn't be losing money for something not our fault).
So, how do I grow a spine and say "no" when I need to? I know the only way to really get over a fear is to face it, so I think I just need to start actually saying no (in a work-appropriate, customer-focused way, adding what I *can* do), and let what happens happen. I have a boss who will back me, and cops not far away, but it's still scary.
Anybody have any other suggestions? I'd really like not to be such a jellyfish without losing my natural empathy and willingness to help.
So I no longer have a blog, or a journal (should start one of those again) so I'm posting this here (also because I could use advice). I'm running into an issue at work where my lack of a spine is causing problems. I'm conflict-adverse, mostly just due to my natural personality, some from never really having been taught how to handle it. Any disagreement or unhappiness in my guests and I feel like I'm about to be screamed at or knocked across the room, so I give in.
I placate guests more than I should. Like if they didn't book a balcony room and start whining because they didn't get one I'll give them cookies from our little shop just to keep them from getting mad. The AGM doesn't like that (he said it's not a huge deal but he is correct we shouldn't be losing money for something not our fault).
So, how do I grow a spine and say "no" when I need to? I know the only way to really get over a fear is to face it, so I think I just need to start actually saying no (in a work-appropriate, customer-focused way, adding what I *can* do), and let what happens happen. I have a boss who will back me, and cops not far away, but it's still scary.
Anybody have any other suggestions? I'd really like not to be such a jellyfish without losing my natural empathy and willingness to help.
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