Okay so Gma has Alzheimer's. She fell and fractured her hip on January 28th. After a week in the hospital, she was sent to a rehab facility (nursing home).
The entire time Gma was in the hospital/rehab my mom refused to leave her side. I don't know if it's because she thought Gma couldn't be alone (the rehab facility specializes in Alzheimer's care) or she wanted an excuse to not do anything, or what. (Looks I can't clean my house or get anything done because I have to live in a rehab facility with my mom.) She was always complaining that no one would "come up and sit with Gma" so she could get a chance to run errands. I went up there many times to "babysit".
Gma finally came home on Tuesday. She doesn't recognize the cottage she's lived in with mom for the past 5 years. She keeps insisting on wanting to go home, but when mom asks her where "home" is, Gma gets angry and curses at her. Gma insists that mom focus 100% of her attention on Gma's nonsensical ramblings. Gma is also "praying" for mom constantly because she thinks mom is evil/the devil for keeping her away from her home/paying her bills without asking/taking care of her.
Here's the problem. I want to help my mom out, but I am working extra hours this week and the next. I know that any help I do give her won't really be appreciated. - example: If I come up and just "hang out" for a while then I get to hear Gma's nonsensical ramblings and mom bitching about Gma/everything. If I go and "hang out" while mom goes to run errands, then mom will stay out for hours and I will be neglecting my own family at home.
So basically whether I help or not I will get yelled at and accused of not helping my family. I'm very heartsick over this, understandably. Hubs says that maybe it is time to put Gma in a Alzheimer's care facility, however if that happens, it will open another can of worms that mom doesn't want to deal with.
So any prayers/ well wishes/ good thoughts/ advice/ alcohol/ chocolate/ fabric welcome.
The entire time Gma was in the hospital/rehab my mom refused to leave her side. I don't know if it's because she thought Gma couldn't be alone (the rehab facility specializes in Alzheimer's care) or she wanted an excuse to not do anything, or what. (Looks I can't clean my house or get anything done because I have to live in a rehab facility with my mom.) She was always complaining that no one would "come up and sit with Gma" so she could get a chance to run errands. I went up there many times to "babysit".
Gma finally came home on Tuesday. She doesn't recognize the cottage she's lived in with mom for the past 5 years. She keeps insisting on wanting to go home, but when mom asks her where "home" is, Gma gets angry and curses at her. Gma insists that mom focus 100% of her attention on Gma's nonsensical ramblings. Gma is also "praying" for mom constantly because she thinks mom is evil/the devil for keeping her away from her home/paying her bills without asking/taking care of her.
Here's the problem. I want to help my mom out, but I am working extra hours this week and the next. I know that any help I do give her won't really be appreciated. - example: If I come up and just "hang out" for a while then I get to hear Gma's nonsensical ramblings and mom bitching about Gma/everything. If I go and "hang out" while mom goes to run errands, then mom will stay out for hours and I will be neglecting my own family at home.
So basically whether I help or not I will get yelled at and accused of not helping my family. I'm very heartsick over this, understandably. Hubs says that maybe it is time to put Gma in a Alzheimer's care facility, however if that happens, it will open another can of worms that mom doesn't want to deal with.
So any prayers/ well wishes/ good thoughts/ advice/ alcohol/ chocolate/ fabric welcome.
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