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Just When I Thought It Was Over....
Ever since I got the letter finding that the claims against me were unsubstantiated, I've been looking forward to this coming Monday. My attorney and I were ready to rock, we've got more than enough now probably have this entire case dismissed. The state has no case.
Yesterday, I got a knock at the door and found the sheriff standing there. He served me with papers. I signed for them and looked at them. They are divorce papers. After a 15 year relationship and coming up on 10 years of marriage, three kids, and a MOUNTAIN of history, she cited "incompatibility" as the reason for divorce. All this time I've been holding out on the hope that she had some small shred of faith in me, that she believed in me even a little bit. But now I know she doesn't. She filed on Jan 21, which was a few days BEFORE the results of the investigation, so maybe that will change things. I don't know if it will. Maybe for her. To me, I mean, it hurts deep that she would do this. That she couldn't even see that she was being used to make a case against me, that she didn't love me enough to see that this was all a misunderstanding. She's seeking sole custody of the children, and I won't allow that. I did nothing wrong, there is no reason for her to do this to me, and (more importantly), to our children. We have to take a divorce class before they will proceed, maybe she'll see how much worse this is going to make everything. I don't know.
Some of the stuff in the papers doesn't make sense to me (why am I ordered to pay child support when we aren't divorced? She still has her ATM card for my account, and our checkbook, for that matter). I went by my attorney's office yesterday and it was closed. I figured it was probably because of the weather. This morning I called him and found out he's out of state until next Wednesday. I have court on Monday, so I panicked for a minute, then called my parents. I gave him my home address last week, but if he mailed anything to me before that point, he'd have sent it to my parents' address, which was on file at the time. They got a letter the other day. Court has been moved to March 6th.
That's a month away. That means I am left here, unable to do ANYTHING about ANY of this for another month. That's another month that I have no chance of seeing my kids again. This is complete madness. As far as I'm concerned, this thing is over. The state has yet to produce ANYTHINNG for their case. We, on the other hand, pretty much have everything we need. So they do this. I don't know if they're stalling, if they are trying to break my spirit, or if they're just lazy, but this is my life, and the lives of my children that they are toying with here. It's just unbelievable. I don't know what to do now. I don't know what I CAN do. I'm just trying to hold it together, trying to keep from falling into despair. I've come a long way since this all started, and I will not give up now. I just want it to be over. I want to see my kids again. I want to hold them and tell them I love them. I want my life back.
Yesterday, I got a knock at the door and found the sheriff standing there. He served me with papers. I signed for them and looked at them. They are divorce papers. After a 15 year relationship and coming up on 10 years of marriage, three kids, and a MOUNTAIN of history, she cited "incompatibility" as the reason for divorce. All this time I've been holding out on the hope that she had some small shred of faith in me, that she believed in me even a little bit. But now I know she doesn't. She filed on Jan 21, which was a few days BEFORE the results of the investigation, so maybe that will change things. I don't know if it will. Maybe for her. To me, I mean, it hurts deep that she would do this. That she couldn't even see that she was being used to make a case against me, that she didn't love me enough to see that this was all a misunderstanding. She's seeking sole custody of the children, and I won't allow that. I did nothing wrong, there is no reason for her to do this to me, and (more importantly), to our children. We have to take a divorce class before they will proceed, maybe she'll see how much worse this is going to make everything. I don't know.
Some of the stuff in the papers doesn't make sense to me (why am I ordered to pay child support when we aren't divorced? She still has her ATM card for my account, and our checkbook, for that matter). I went by my attorney's office yesterday and it was closed. I figured it was probably because of the weather. This morning I called him and found out he's out of state until next Wednesday. I have court on Monday, so I panicked for a minute, then called my parents. I gave him my home address last week, but if he mailed anything to me before that point, he'd have sent it to my parents' address, which was on file at the time. They got a letter the other day. Court has been moved to March 6th.
That's a month away. That means I am left here, unable to do ANYTHING about ANY of this for another month. That's another month that I have no chance of seeing my kids again. This is complete madness. As far as I'm concerned, this thing is over. The state has yet to produce ANYTHINNG for their case. We, on the other hand, pretty much have everything we need. So they do this. I don't know if they're stalling, if they are trying to break my spirit, or if they're just lazy, but this is my life, and the lives of my children that they are toying with here. It's just unbelievable. I don't know what to do now. I don't know what I CAN do. I'm just trying to hold it together, trying to keep from falling into despair. I've come a long way since this all started, and I will not give up now. I just want it to be over. I want to see my kids again. I want to hold them and tell them I love them. I want my life back.
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