But my Kid wants Pancakes!!

[Bramblerose]

Lessons for the bone-headed:

1) Don't make promises you can't keep to children. Well, don't make promises you can't keep to anyone, but children cry louder. HOw did she get a child that old and still make that stupid newbie mistake?

2) if you want pancakes, go to IHOP. Or the moral equivalent thereof. Idiot. I'm curious why she didn't pack her ass off to another restaurant when they couldn't get pancakes in the first stop. They pitched a fit and still have no pancakes. that was such a winnr of a plan.

3) Lesson for both- "If wishes were horses, beggars would ride", or, if you are feeling less friendly, "And people in Hell want ice water." Or even, go cry, emo kid.

[Polenicus]

If that were my roommates they'd starve to death in filth.

They DO, that's the staggering part.

We used to pool money for groceries, except we kept thoughtlessly wasting money on things WE wanted, instead of buying just what was on their list (Which, apparently, consisted of ground beef and nothing else). We also didn't prepare meals to their liking... committing such crimes as making Shepherd's Pie with pie crust, adding horrible things like oregano to spaghetti sauce, making things with pork (No, they're not kosher. In fact they eat bacon. But pork, is apparently, too fatty for them and makes them sick. But bacon is fine.)

So, they started buying their own food. Which, naturally, consisted of ground beef. But then... why wasn't there any noodles, or sauces, or bread, etc? They don't seem to understand that these items don't simply grow in cupboards, and must be bought as well.

So they eat out until they run out of money, then they live on meat and rice. And they keep the dishes in their room until they grow mold, and then when we finally raid their horrifying cave of a room because they have ALL the plates in the house, they can't help wash them because they're allergic to mold spores.

I'm not the cleanest guy around, but I keep my own stuff tidy. I use as little as possible, I keep the areas I use clean, I don't keep dishes in my room for more than a day, I clean and vacuum occasionally... I tend to be cluttered, but not filthy.

Not suprising, these guys are sick a lot.

... and... sorry, this is all

[friendofjimmyk]

You're passing up a great opportunity to try and teach your kid something about life, that it's going to sometimes have its downs amongst all its ups, and that not everything can be gotten from a river of tears.....
But instead of teaching him this, you think it beter to throw a temper tantrum in the store like a 3rd grader and try demanding and threatening others into getting your way. With this kind of parenting, the kid is going to grow up with a very skewed view on life, that not getting your own way ALL the time is something akin to blasphemy and must be fought at all costs. .

AMEN!!!! Right on!! WOOT!

Kids learn what their parents teach them. This child is an entitlement whore in the making.

I think some parents believe they are advocating for thier children when they pull stunts like this. They say to themselves, "poor Johnny, he's crying. I have to help him! I"ll show him that mommy/daddy is a hero!" and then they commence to putting on their Asshat the Great cape and mask and make the biggest scene to win the hearts of their young ones rather than teaching them that you can't always get what you want.

My mom...you know that Rolling Stones song "you can't always get what you want"....well, my mom thought she was funny. When I would throw tantrums over something that I wanted but could not have - she'd tell me, "Tough, you can't always get what you want." and start singing. It's funny now, but I HATED it as a kid.

[Horsetuna]

As much as I dont have sympathy for the parents, I do think that its not right that EVERY bad thing happening should be chalked up to 'that's how life is, get used to it' :/. I dunno. Maybe I'm just reading it too often on the boards here, heh

On the other hand I can't argue on how to make it BETTER without making the kid spoiled, except perhaps offering him a fun alternative and maybe chocolate cake.

[Peppergirl]

I don't know about you guys, but as a mom with two nearly grown boys, stuff like this makes me EXTRA sick.

Kids will always get something in their head that they want, and when it can't or won't happen, their reasoning skills aren't as developed as an adults is. Well, MOST adults - SC's don't count.

Anyway, this is the perfect time to attempt to explain to them that we can't always get our way and a lot of times we must make a second choice.

My oldest was pretty laid back, but my youngest (he turns 18 in 2 weeks) was hell on wheels. There was more than one occasion where I had to take him to the bathroom or out to the car for a spanking because he threw a fit over not getting his way in a restaurant. (Please no spanking lectures, its not the point).

I guess what I'm saying is that so many kids today, and it hasnt been THAT long since my kids were little, seem to be being raised by these entitled nitwits that can't or wont tell their kids NO. It's horrifying, especially after having worked so hard when my kids were little, trying to instill logic and decision making skills in them. To see these parents blame a restaurant for not catering to little johnny's whims, and worse - to throw awful, screeching hissy fits over it, really makes me...hell, I can't even put it into words.

Where does this sense of entitlement that we all see stories about, come from? It's truly frightening...seriously

[depechemodefan]

The only question I have is whether this Kids Menu specifies that pancakes are only served before 4 PM, or they are just a Kids Menu item along with the spaghetti and grilled cheese. If the menu doesn't specify this then the customer might have had a point, but of course she went about it completely the wrong way.

I agree. It's ok to question the restaurant, but not have a fit and act like a child. If the menu says "not served after 4 pm" then ho-biscuit better get to IHOP. Granted, I don't know why anyone eats pancakes at IHOP. I never had a cooked pancake there, and most people I talk to havn't either. The pancake in the middle is always raw.

[retaildrone]

I use opportunities like this to teach my kid that things don't always go the way tou want them to. Recently, we went out to eat at a place that usually has 'smiley face potatoes' (SFP) My daughter loves SMPs, however when we got our order she had regular fries. Instant fit. We calmed her down and called the server over. Turns out that they don't have SFPs anymore. Daughter gets even more upset. Instead of throwing a tanrtum of our own because precious wanted SFPs, we turned to daughter and said "they do not have them anymore. Calm down, eat these or eat nothing." Fussing and crying is not going to make them appear out of thin air.

She was still upset, and still gets a little upset everytime we go there and finds out that they still do not have them, but she has learned that sometimes you can't get what you want when you want it. Wish more people would teach their kids that.

We even get regular compliments for NOT giving in to her public I WANT IT temper tantrums.

[retaildrone]

anybody else thinking of the "I can't get waffles at chilli's" letter at pfb?

Please tell me you are kidding!

[walking with scissors]

Couldn't she have gotten a box of pancake mix from the cupboard & made her own fucking pancakes?

Pod. If she's going to ruin her son, she doesn't have to drag innocent strangers into it.

[AriRashkae]

I use opportunities like this to teach my kid that things don't always go the way tou want them to. Recently, we went out to eat at a place that usually has 'smiley face potatoes' (SFP) My daughter loves SMPs, however when we got our order she had regular fries. Instant fit. We calmed her down and called the server over. Turns out that they don't have SFPs anymore. Daughter gets even more upset. Instead of throwing a tanrtum of our own because precious wanted SFPs, we turned to daughter and said "they do not have them anymore. Calm down, eat these or eat nothing." Fussing and crying is not going to make them appear out of thin air..

I've been know to stand and watch my youngest (not quite 3, so he still gets a little slack) throw himself on the floor and scream when he doesn't get his way. Of course, I have to try hard not to laugh my @$$ off at him, since he just looks so silly. The oldest has learned better (he's 10), and now we only see those fits if he's already exhausted and/or starving. Not acceptable, but understandable.

Also, if you didn't already know , I think it's McCains that makes smiley fries, over in the frozen fries section of the grocery store. Special treat for the boys when they're on sale.

[Music Mo-Gal]

Dear lord! If the most traumatic thing in this kid's life is to be denied pancakes after 4PM, then he lives a very sheltered life indeed. There are kids in the world whose parents can't even afford to buy them pancakes!

[42_42_42]

Children should never cry. If a child is crying you (every stinkin person on the whole godforsaken planet) must immediately do whatever it takes to make the child stop crying, because crying will kill the child! [/sarcasm]

[smileyeagle1021]

I agree. It's ok to question the restaurant, but not have a fit and act like a child. If the menu says "not served after 4 pm" then ho-biscuit better get to IHOP. Granted, I don't know why anyone eats pancakes at IHOP. I never had a cooked pancake there, and most people I talk to havn't either. The pancake in the middle is always raw.

OT, but I actually like IHOP pancakes

on topic I'm willing to bet that the ho-biscuit saw the bit about no breakfast after 4pm and just ignored it because after all pwecious wants pancakes and parent is a noun not a verb.

[aurelemsrealm]

See, I knew I should have thrown a fit at the Indian restaurant last night because they ran out of lamb for a dish I'd wanted to try. Instead, I graciously said okay, and chose something else off the menu that I hadn't tried. It turned out to be a good evening with friends after all.

Just think, I missed an opportunity to make an ass of myself in front of my family and friends, and the restaurant, just because they ran out of lamb. How fun could that have been?

[tropicsgoddess]

I've been know to stand and watch my youngest (not quite 3, so he still gets a little slack) throw himself on the floor and scream when he doesn't get his way. Of course, I have to try hard not to laugh my @$$ off at him, since he just looks so silly.

When my little cousin E was 2, he threw a fit over drinks at home. SO was there with me, E and my two kid sisters at our aunt's house (the parents were at work and we were staying over since our folks were on vacation). When E started kicking and screaming on the floor, SO did the same thing. E looked at him and stopped. It works...so does laughing at the kid throwing the tantrums. SO knows that from dealing with a lot of kids in his area that he's known since they babies (and are now teens).