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So I'm part of a group that are fans of a tv show. Our group has been around since 2005. One year, either 2008 or 2009, we did a secret santa. The idea was to give a present that evokes the tv show, and cost $10. Postage wasn't included in the $10 spent. So I got a person who was in , $8 postage. I sent a book about the show. Now the gifts arn't reciprocal, so I had a secret santa from Ca. She sent me a scarf, because there was a Christmas episode where the main character wore a scarf.
I rather hated the scarf. I know it cost $10 because I saw it at Walgreens, and even though it cost $10 it was a really cheap scarf. I said I liked it even though it was so ugly.
Another year I sent a gift but received not gift. So I stopped doing the gift exchange.
I totally forgot about that for years until 2020. I decided to participate, and though the organizer mention the price limit ($20) she also mentioned that if we don't have the money we can do something homemade. I didn't see a mention about having to give a present based on the show. The names where assigned NOv. 24. Now the show has been off the air for 15 years, so there was little merchandise for it, I decided to check the Facebook page of the name I was assigned. I saw she liked birds and RBG, I sent a Christmas pin of a dove and a book with some quotes from RBG. Now the person who got the items was rather passive aggressive about them ("I don't know what bird this is. turtle dove? french hen?". ok, I get it, it's bird shaped, but Christmas is usually a dove), I awaited my present. Around Jan. 7, I posted, "when do we reveal our Secret Santa?" Maybe a week latter the go ahead was given to reveal. I found out my Secret Santa, she was surprised I didn't know it was her, didn't get her gift?
Now the person who was suppose to send me a present talked about how she wasn't feeling well in Nov. and Dec. On the Secret Santa message board she mentioned she had to cure the present. I don't know when she sent it out but I did contact her I did not receive it. She said she will make a new one and send me it when it's ready. So that was 5 weeks ago. I feel petty for contacting her again or contacting the organizer.
I just want to bitch about this. I don't know if my Secret Santa doesn't give a shit that I didn't get it. I stopped engaging with the group when no one would respond to any of my post for several years. I don't know if they got mad at me when I posted a library story that might have offended some. Maybe a story (you know I post tons of library stories) about "I wish parents would stop doing their kids homework," or "I wish people would stop hogging the computers," because I realized at some point after a library story no one would talk to me. I just read people posts, once someone got married and I was asked if I wanted to send $10 for a present, which I did send. Second time someone got married I didn't send anymoney so they never asked again.
When I decided to participate in Secret Santa this past year no on said, "no, we decided on excluding you." I would post things on the Secret Santa message board and no one would respond to me except the time I said I didn't get my present.
I do think of contacting the organizer, maybe I'm just seeing assholes where there arn't any. I'm used to times where years latter I mention something that happened and someone would say, "why didn't you say something at the time?" I'm just really discouraged, like I'm the shit on someone's shoe. I hope I remember not to participate again.
I know we do card exchange here. 2020 I forgot to check before the deadline, so I'll try to do card exchange for 2021.
Yes, I know the person said in the general boards that she wasn't feeling well in Nov and Dec, so I sort of don't want to tell her again I didn't get a present, though she did also say her meds were changed and she feels much better "I can climb the stairs again without being winded." Also, this reminds me of the time I bought something on ebay, after a few weeks the seller said her house caught on fire and her husband was in the hospital and she will send me my item soon. That sounded liek so much bullshit. If her house caught on fire then it's likely the item was destroyed. She never sent the item and she had me waiting so long when I finally reported her it was too late to get a refund.
I rather hated the scarf. I know it cost $10 because I saw it at Walgreens, and even though it cost $10 it was a really cheap scarf. I said I liked it even though it was so ugly.
Another year I sent a gift but received not gift. So I stopped doing the gift exchange.
I totally forgot about that for years until 2020. I decided to participate, and though the organizer mention the price limit ($20) she also mentioned that if we don't have the money we can do something homemade. I didn't see a mention about having to give a present based on the show. The names where assigned NOv. 24. Now the show has been off the air for 15 years, so there was little merchandise for it, I decided to check the Facebook page of the name I was assigned. I saw she liked birds and RBG, I sent a Christmas pin of a dove and a book with some quotes from RBG. Now the person who got the items was rather passive aggressive about them ("I don't know what bird this is. turtle dove? french hen?". ok, I get it, it's bird shaped, but Christmas is usually a dove), I awaited my present. Around Jan. 7, I posted, "when do we reveal our Secret Santa?" Maybe a week latter the go ahead was given to reveal. I found out my Secret Santa, she was surprised I didn't know it was her, didn't get her gift?
Now the person who was suppose to send me a present talked about how she wasn't feeling well in Nov. and Dec. On the Secret Santa message board she mentioned she had to cure the present. I don't know when she sent it out but I did contact her I did not receive it. She said she will make a new one and send me it when it's ready. So that was 5 weeks ago. I feel petty for contacting her again or contacting the organizer.
I just want to bitch about this. I don't know if my Secret Santa doesn't give a shit that I didn't get it. I stopped engaging with the group when no one would respond to any of my post for several years. I don't know if they got mad at me when I posted a library story that might have offended some. Maybe a story (you know I post tons of library stories) about "I wish parents would stop doing their kids homework," or "I wish people would stop hogging the computers," because I realized at some point after a library story no one would talk to me. I just read people posts, once someone got married and I was asked if I wanted to send $10 for a present, which I did send. Second time someone got married I didn't send anymoney so they never asked again.
When I decided to participate in Secret Santa this past year no on said, "no, we decided on excluding you." I would post things on the Secret Santa message board and no one would respond to me except the time I said I didn't get my present.
I do think of contacting the organizer, maybe I'm just seeing assholes where there arn't any. I'm used to times where years latter I mention something that happened and someone would say, "why didn't you say something at the time?" I'm just really discouraged, like I'm the shit on someone's shoe. I hope I remember not to participate again.
I know we do card exchange here. 2020 I forgot to check before the deadline, so I'll try to do card exchange for 2021.
Yes, I know the person said in the general boards that she wasn't feeling well in Nov and Dec, so I sort of don't want to tell her again I didn't get a present, though she did also say her meds were changed and she feels much better "I can climb the stairs again without being winded." Also, this reminds me of the time I bought something on ebay, after a few weeks the seller said her house caught on fire and her husband was in the hospital and she will send me my item soon. That sounded liek so much bullshit. If her house caught on fire then it's likely the item was destroyed. She never sent the item and she had me waiting so long when I finally reported her it was too late to get a refund.
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