Some background: my husband has always liked taking pictures, and since february he's done his first model shoots. I've been jealous of it since it's been with girls a lot prettier than me, but he's always been able to reassure me, and i do *trust* him that he sees it as photographer and nothing happens between him and the girls.
Last week he did his first lingerieshoot (without me knowing of it btw, i thought it was a normal one)
The first picture he posted online was this one - linky
I actually quite like that picture, but i did explain to him i really don't like the idea of him doing lingerieshoots/seeing other girls in lingerie. I said it's not a matter of trust but that it makes me feel really bad/sad/jealous.
He promised me he'd never do nude shoots, and that lingerie was the furthest step he'd do, but i didn't get a promise from him he won't do any more.
Then today, he posted this picture - linky - and i half broke down. I went into his room and told him it was very hard for me when he was asking for my trust and understanding to see a picture that could come out of the first minute of a porn movie.
He just laughed it away. He said "why ruin such a nice day we had together by being mad over this? It's the same shoot i did last week, you're overreacting" (offtopic: yes until now we did have a very nice day spent together)
So i'm asking you: am i overreacting? I do trust him like i said, but i really dislike the fact he's alone with these girls, they undress in a seperate room but still near him, he has "control" over them telling them what to do (posewise)
As long as they kept their clothes on/only changed outer clothes i was actually fine with this. I was jealous at the start but i'd gotten over it for most part, cause i do trust him and i know how much this hobby means to him. I just don't know if i can ever get over the jealousy of a lingerieshoot.
And a second question for advice: are there ways of not feeling this jealous? i know he hasn't cheated on me, i do love him and trust him. I'm the person he decided to spend his life with (we have been together for over 12 years) - they're just models he sees one or two days. Any way my brain can tell my heart that/has anyone here ever used a method to get over being jealous?
Last week he did his first lingerieshoot (without me knowing of it btw, i thought it was a normal one)
The first picture he posted online was this one - linky
I actually quite like that picture, but i did explain to him i really don't like the idea of him doing lingerieshoots/seeing other girls in lingerie. I said it's not a matter of trust but that it makes me feel really bad/sad/jealous.
He promised me he'd never do nude shoots, and that lingerie was the furthest step he'd do, but i didn't get a promise from him he won't do any more.
Then today, he posted this picture - linky - and i half broke down. I went into his room and told him it was very hard for me when he was asking for my trust and understanding to see a picture that could come out of the first minute of a porn movie.
He just laughed it away. He said "why ruin such a nice day we had together by being mad over this? It's the same shoot i did last week, you're overreacting" (offtopic: yes until now we did have a very nice day spent together)
So i'm asking you: am i overreacting? I do trust him like i said, but i really dislike the fact he's alone with these girls, they undress in a seperate room but still near him, he has "control" over them telling them what to do (posewise)
As long as they kept their clothes on/only changed outer clothes i was actually fine with this. I was jealous at the start but i'd gotten over it for most part, cause i do trust him and i know how much this hobby means to him. I just don't know if i can ever get over the jealousy of a lingerieshoot.
And a second question for advice: are there ways of not feeling this jealous? i know he hasn't cheated on me, i do love him and trust him. I'm the person he decided to spend his life with (we have been together for over 12 years) - they're just models he sees one or two days. Any way my brain can tell my heart that/has anyone here ever used a method to get over being jealous?
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