I'm going to throw out an emotionally neutral business perspective.
The shots are tasteful and well composed. He looks like a great photographer, and you should consider how fortunate he is to have paying jobs in such a highly competitive and saturated field.
Other posters have covered the emotional aspects of this well. I've got another perspective that may or may not apply.
When you find your emotions intrude this intensely, in a manner that is at odds with the well-considered logical reality of the situation, this is an important sign! Take the opportunity to look within yourself, and figure out why your subconscious (reptilian) brain's emotional response may have been way inappropriate for the reality. You may need a psychologist's assistance, and you may uncover an event or events from your past that underlies the reaction. Left undiscovered and unexplored, it is liable to pop out of the woodwork at random times, and bring fighting, tears, and chaos to a stable, happy relationship, without cause or warning. This is unfair to one's partner and anyone else affected by such episodes.
My own life has been impacted by unaddressed jealosies, and the partner allowed the relationship to dissolve, rather than face her own past and its influence. It is sad to live through a screaming match where your partner (a woman in her 50s) isn't addressing you at all, but rather her blended family who viewed her as the living embodiment of the destruction of their own family, and her father who abandoned them all when she was 12. All things that happened decades ago and had nothing to do with me, yet I was punished for them, ongoing.
Humans have the capacity to have their automatic reactions programmed for life by events such as this; they also have the capacity for introspection to discover, face, and conquer them, for a better future.
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If the person actually ISN'T trustworthy, the above is void of course. Punishment for one's own ACTUAL transgressions should be swift and certain.
The shots are tasteful and well composed. He looks like a great photographer, and you should consider how fortunate he is to have paying jobs in such a highly competitive and saturated field.
Other posters have covered the emotional aspects of this well. I've got another perspective that may or may not apply.
When you find your emotions intrude this intensely, in a manner that is at odds with the well-considered logical reality of the situation, this is an important sign! Take the opportunity to look within yourself, and figure out why your subconscious (reptilian) brain's emotional response may have been way inappropriate for the reality. You may need a psychologist's assistance, and you may uncover an event or events from your past that underlies the reaction. Left undiscovered and unexplored, it is liable to pop out of the woodwork at random times, and bring fighting, tears, and chaos to a stable, happy relationship, without cause or warning. This is unfair to one's partner and anyone else affected by such episodes.
My own life has been impacted by unaddressed jealosies, and the partner allowed the relationship to dissolve, rather than face her own past and its influence. It is sad to live through a screaming match where your partner (a woman in her 50s) isn't addressing you at all, but rather her blended family who viewed her as the living embodiment of the destruction of their own family, and her father who abandoned them all when she was 12. All things that happened decades ago and had nothing to do with me, yet I was punished for them, ongoing.
Humans have the capacity to have their automatic reactions programmed for life by events such as this; they also have the capacity for introspection to discover, face, and conquer them, for a better future.
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If the person actually ISN'T trustworthy, the above is void of course. Punishment for one's own ACTUAL transgressions should be swift and certain.
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