I just got the Off Meds Phone Call

[TelephoneAngel]

That does kind of make sense...............it's like you feel down, and want something immediately so you feel better......and you do have a few minutes of "wow I spent money I feel good", but later..............when you really consider............all your money is gone and you feel worse.

Is it like that?

[Whiskey]

That does kind of make sense...............it's like you feel down, and want something immediately so you feel better......and you do have a few minutes of "wow I spent money I feel good", but later..............when you really consider............all your money is gone and you feel worse.

Is it like that?

Yeah. Unfortunately, theres also up. I feel great, I feel wonderful, I want to be out and about. What to do? Go shopping! Be seen! Look fantastic! You know what would look fantastic? New green eyeshadow (15$)! Gotta smell good, some Dior purfume (55$)! Oh girl, those shoes (45$)!

I'm like a virgin on prom night. Completely spent in 15 minutes.

[TelephoneAngel]

Yeah. Unfortunately, theres also up. I feel great, I feel wonderful, I want to be out and about. What to do? Go shopping! Be seen! Look fantastic! You know what would look fantastic? New green eyeshadow (15$)! Gotta smell good, some Dior purfume (55$)! Oh girl, those shoes (45$)!

I'm like a virgin on prom night. Completely spent in 15 minutes.

Ok so then you find other ways of getting that fix.

Go window shopping, try on all the dresses, admire yourself in the mirrors in the changing rooms, go out of the changing room and ask the assistant if the dress looks good on you? Take photos of yourself in the dresse on your cell phone and admire them at home.

Walk through the department store and spray yourself with a nice perfume at the perfume counter.
Ask one of the cosmetics assistants to give you a makeover (many will do it for free)

Find a college which specialises in beauty and ask for them to experiment on you, give you a make over etc.

Get a cheap face massage (all the highs of shopping, none of the expense)

And the stuff you already bought? And don't use? Sell it.

[Whiskey]

Ok so then you find other ways of getting that fix.

Go window shopping, try on all the dresses, admire yourself in the mirrors in the changing rooms, go out of the changing room and ask the assistant if the dress looks good on you? Take photos of yourself in the dresse on your cell phone and admire them at home.

This is a disgusting idea. I would rather carve out my internal organs than clothes shop. Body image issues, severe ones.

Walk through the department store and spray yourself with a nice perfume at the perfume counter.

why? I dont wear it. Plus that looks cheap, tacky and poor.

Ask one of the cosmetics assistants to give you a makeover (many will do it for free) Find a college which specialises in beauty and ask for them to experiment on you, give you a make over etc.

I barely let someone bleach my hair. I don't like being touched and I don't like mirrors.

Get a cheap face massage (all the highs of shopping, none of the expense)

I might do this.

And the stuff you already bought? And don't use? Sell it.

But then I won't have it anymore.

[TelephoneAngel]

This is a disgusting idea. I would rather carve out my internal organs than clothes shop. Body image issues, severe ones.

ok, sorry my bad.I was thinking of the clothes (pretty fabrics etc, rather than you yourself)



why? I dont wear it.

ok, when you said you bought it I automatically thought you must wear it.


I barely let someone bleach my hair. I don't like being touched and I don't like mirrors.

ok, again because you said you would buy eyeshadow, I thought that might be nice (bear i mind I know nothing about you.Not deliberaetly trying to offend you)

I might do this.

I love having a calming massage.

But then I won't have it anymore.[/QUOTE]

yes, this is true, but from what you said, i thought maybe it makes you unhappy to see it and know you bought it and have no more money? Sometimes, and I am not saying you do this, but people sometimes spend lots of moey but then hide the purchases in cupboards because they ONLY wanted the thrill of the spend, they didn't really want what they bought.

Now, please don't think I am talking down to you, that is far from my intention.
But if you can understand my own problem, you ca understand your own much better.

My problem is this.I am overweight.I eat icecream far more than I should.I eat ice cream and it makes me feel good then I remember I am over weight and I feel bad again.
SO...............what I need to do is have a plan as to what I will do next time I feel like eating icecream, and I think I will eat low fat yoghurt instead.So i need to get the yoghurt ready.

Same with you, whatever you need to put in place for next time you feel like spending all your money, you need to have a plan in advance.

[Whiskey]

No, the stuff is just kind of there. Its pretty irrelevant once I buy it, but it still has to be here. People need to see it. Image.

I certainly need better furniture. I should have bought a flat screen while I had the money (i dont watch tv, but itd look nice over the fire place).


Also, eat Fage yogurt with honey. Better than ice cream.

[TelephoneAngel]

No, the stuff is just kind of there. Its pretty irrelevant once I buy it, but it still has to be here. People need to see it. Image.

I certainly need better furniture. I should have bought a flat screen while I had the money (i dont watch tv, but itd look nice over the fire place).


Also, eat Fage yogurt with honey. Better than ice cream.

I see........I don't really know what to suggest, other than that you could also have fun window shopping in furniture stores, get catalogues, spend time going through them and thinking "if i were very rich, this is what I would buy.........."

maybe join your local freecycle group? People very often give away nice things on there free.........I have been lucky to get some nice furniture, and a big (not flatscreen) tv.

Also what is quite fun is to see online which companies are giving away free samples of their goods (I have had perfume samples - nice ones - just for registering) Makes you feel good when that little package drops through the door, and no money spent.

Or try entering competitions to win upmarket goods? Someone has to win after all.you might find a competition to win a flat screen.

i won a whole kitchen set with plates, cutlery, coffee maker, blender, which i needed.

[Whiskey]

I might hit up free cycle again. Im going to open a savings account at a credit union and hopefully not touch it. No ATM/Check Card.

[trailerparkmedic]

Im going to open a savings account at a credit union and hopefully not touch it. No ATM/Check Card.

Sounds like a good idea.

I find mint.com to be incredibly useful in seeing where my money is going.

Have you talked to your therapist about the money? Spending tons of money is a classic sign of mania so they should have some ideas to help.

[Whiskey]

Sounds like a good idea.

I find mint.com to be incredibly useful in seeing where my money is going.

Have you talked to your therapist about the money? Spending tons of money is a classic sign of mania so they should have some ideas to help.

Mint is useless with an ATM card. I can never remember what I withdrew the money for or where I used it. If I have a check card I decimate my account balance with frivolous spending.

My therapist is useless and fucking stupid. I hate the woman. No I cant get a new one, no I cant get a new provider. The entire program (i have a "team" of useless motherfuckers who exist to piss me off, i guess) refuses the original diagnosis I had from 2005. Bi polar II, rapid cycle. According to my new doctors, I'm simply depressed.

If I mention anything about mania, excessive spending, hyper sexual behaviors, or any other classic signs of bi polar disorder, they just shrug it off and change the subject.

I'm on my own.

[trailerparkmedic]

I'm sorry your "doctor" is so fail. I wish I had some suggestions.

Is there a way for your bank to limit daily transactions to a certain $ amount? That's the only thing I can think of.

[Whiskey]

Is there a way for your bank to limit daily transactions to a certain $ amount? That's the only thing I can think of.

Daily limit of 500$ by ATM. Thats about all.

[TelephoneAngel]

Daily limit of 500$ by ATM. Thats about all.

I'm sure you know when things get bad, this is too much, do you have any other way of limiting money? put it in a lockable drawer perhaps?

I know someone who used to put the money in the freezer (in a watertight bag)because she couldnt spend it when it was frozen solid!

[Whiskey]

I'm sure you know when things get bad, this is too much, do you have any other way of limiting money? put it in a lockable drawer perhaps?

ATM card only, no direct access to my account. I lost my ATM card (again) and my check card (needed to be canceled anyways.), my credit card is cut up. I'm not very good at staying out of my money. I was pricing burberry purses earlier.

[blas]

Where oh where did I leave those raddish bundles?

Ahhh, here we are.


Stop that. Stop it now. Bad girl.