If your mother had more respect for herself-- and you-- she would know that not only does she not need a man to do 'man stuff' around the house/property, she would know that she could do it herself, and if not herself then hire people-- and she would know that you are not her slave labor to hobble and keep like a pet at home. With less dignity even.
It's quite another thing to help a parent out/do what your mother is wanting you to do-- but if respect is at the core of it, then it's a very different dynamic. I willingly help my parents out when I can, because they are awesome, and let me make my own mistakes. They are enabling me-- to become an adult, become independent, and a viable member of society. Your mother wants you to be her live-in maid, caregiver, gardener, etc. without actually asking you.
She needs help, and needs to get her tail yanked out of that knot it's in!
There's a story about someone like that that I had to read in my literature class... I'll have to look it up, but it's a southern gothic short story... a woman had to live with her father because he needed a woman to look after the house, so she never got married-- and never had her own life, and stuff happened from there. She ended up murdering someone... o_O (not that I think you'd murder anyone! )
It's quite another thing to help a parent out/do what your mother is wanting you to do-- but if respect is at the core of it, then it's a very different dynamic. I willingly help my parents out when I can, because they are awesome, and let me make my own mistakes. They are enabling me-- to become an adult, become independent, and a viable member of society. Your mother wants you to be her live-in maid, caregiver, gardener, etc. without actually asking you.
She needs help, and needs to get her tail yanked out of that knot it's in!
There's a story about someone like that that I had to read in my literature class... I'll have to look it up, but it's a southern gothic short story... a woman had to live with her father because he needed a woman to look after the house, so she never got married-- and never had her own life, and stuff happened from there. She ended up murdering someone... o_O (not that I think you'd murder anyone! )
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