As some may know, my fiance's parents split up almost a year ago now, and his dad has a new partner. What is more confusing is his mother's new partner is his dad's new partner's ex. I hope that makes sense!
Anyway, my fiance really does not like his dad's new partner. She is controlling of his dad to the point where his dad must ask permission to visit his other son - my fiance's brother. She has also stripped the house my fiance and his dad live in of all traces of my fiance's mother - photographs, possessions, everything. What makes things worse is, when we mentioned this to my fiance's mother, she told us that this woman had done the same to her previous partner, except that the possessions she threw out were his dead wife's things. She did this without her previous partner's consent, and she did not get his daughters' consent either.
My fiance's father is also starting to lie to him, and we suspect it is her doing. His father and this new partner have been on two day trips in the last month, and both times his father refused to tell my fiance where they were going, as he "would only want to tag along." When my fiance spoke to his grandmother, it transpired that everyone else in the family knew the destination of the trip, and that it was this partner's idea not to tell my fiance. Another instance is where his father promised to spend some time with my fiance, and at the last minute said he had to work. This turned out to also be a lie as my fiance phoned his father's place of work to speak to him and they said he wasn't working but he was there having drinks with his new partner. A further example is when his father told him that they were broke about a month ago, and yet in the next two weeks him and his new partner are going on a 3 day break and then spending a week in Spain.
My fiance is also starting to feel massively pushed out, as she is monopolising all his father's free time. Regularly, she will invite her two daughters, her grandson, and her daughters' partners for Sunday lunch (without checking with his father, of course!) and when this occurs, my fiance is made to feel like a spare wheel as nobody says a single word to him or even acknowledges his presence. In fact, as recently as last week, when me and my fiance came back from my house, we returned to find her family and my fiance's father sat in the living room. Me and my fiance greeted them, and we both got nothing but dirty looks. Not one person in the room said "hello" to us. My fiance has since mentioned this to both his mother and his grandmother, and was subsequently informed that his father's partner drove her previous ex-partner's daughters from their home, and promptly moved her daughters in. Now my fiance is worried that the same will happen to him.
Because his parents are divorcing, the house my fiance and his father are currently living in is to be sold. In spite of this, his father's new partner is still insisting on moving in to the house, along with her daughter, meaning that his father now has to find a house for 4 people, as opposed to 2. She has also pressured his father into an engagement, despite the fact they have known each other for less than a year and his father is yet to divorce his mother.
This new partner has also threatened to kill my fiance's mother if she sets foot near the house, the house that my fiance's mother currently still owns half of. She has said that my fiance's mother cannot see her own son, something which has upset my fiance greatly as not only is he an adult, but he misses his mother very much and finds it very galling that some woman is trying to stop his mother visiting him at home.
My fiance is feeling very upset about the situation, as he feels he is no longer welcome in his own home. He has tried to speak to his father, who has not yet listened to anyone about it. He won't listen to other members of the family, and my fiance fears that it won't be long before he is driven out too, as well as his relationship with his father breaking down completely. My fiance has also been forced to seek the help of a counsellor as a result of all this.
Does anyone have any advice? Apologies for the length of this post but I am at a loss as to what to do to help.
Anyway, my fiance really does not like his dad's new partner. She is controlling of his dad to the point where his dad must ask permission to visit his other son - my fiance's brother. She has also stripped the house my fiance and his dad live in of all traces of my fiance's mother - photographs, possessions, everything. What makes things worse is, when we mentioned this to my fiance's mother, she told us that this woman had done the same to her previous partner, except that the possessions she threw out were his dead wife's things. She did this without her previous partner's consent, and she did not get his daughters' consent either.
My fiance's father is also starting to lie to him, and we suspect it is her doing. His father and this new partner have been on two day trips in the last month, and both times his father refused to tell my fiance where they were going, as he "would only want to tag along." When my fiance spoke to his grandmother, it transpired that everyone else in the family knew the destination of the trip, and that it was this partner's idea not to tell my fiance. Another instance is where his father promised to spend some time with my fiance, and at the last minute said he had to work. This turned out to also be a lie as my fiance phoned his father's place of work to speak to him and they said he wasn't working but he was there having drinks with his new partner. A further example is when his father told him that they were broke about a month ago, and yet in the next two weeks him and his new partner are going on a 3 day break and then spending a week in Spain.
My fiance is also starting to feel massively pushed out, as she is monopolising all his father's free time. Regularly, she will invite her two daughters, her grandson, and her daughters' partners for Sunday lunch (without checking with his father, of course!) and when this occurs, my fiance is made to feel like a spare wheel as nobody says a single word to him or even acknowledges his presence. In fact, as recently as last week, when me and my fiance came back from my house, we returned to find her family and my fiance's father sat in the living room. Me and my fiance greeted them, and we both got nothing but dirty looks. Not one person in the room said "hello" to us. My fiance has since mentioned this to both his mother and his grandmother, and was subsequently informed that his father's partner drove her previous ex-partner's daughters from their home, and promptly moved her daughters in. Now my fiance is worried that the same will happen to him.
Because his parents are divorcing, the house my fiance and his father are currently living in is to be sold. In spite of this, his father's new partner is still insisting on moving in to the house, along with her daughter, meaning that his father now has to find a house for 4 people, as opposed to 2. She has also pressured his father into an engagement, despite the fact they have known each other for less than a year and his father is yet to divorce his mother.
This new partner has also threatened to kill my fiance's mother if she sets foot near the house, the house that my fiance's mother currently still owns half of. She has said that my fiance's mother cannot see her own son, something which has upset my fiance greatly as not only is he an adult, but he misses his mother very much and finds it very galling that some woman is trying to stop his mother visiting him at home.
My fiance is feeling very upset about the situation, as he feels he is no longer welcome in his own home. He has tried to speak to his father, who has not yet listened to anyone about it. He won't listen to other members of the family, and my fiance fears that it won't be long before he is driven out too, as well as his relationship with his father breaking down completely. My fiance has also been forced to seek the help of a counsellor as a result of all this.
Does anyone have any advice? Apologies for the length of this post but I am at a loss as to what to do to help.
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