Would this be creepy???

[Rapscallion]

Coffee is not creepy.

Invite back to basement dungeon of whips and chains is creepy. Between the two are shades of grey, but coffee is fine and harmless.

Rapscallion

[BookstoreEscapee]

Coffee is not creepy.

Invite back to basement dungeon of whips and chains is creepy. Between the two are shades of grey, but coffee is fine and harmless.

Rapscallion

*thwaps Raps upside the head*

[Kisa]

Just remember that nothing worthwhile happens in life without a little bit of effort. You won't know what his response will be until you ask him.

If someone asks me about math or biology or literature or any of the useless things I know about, I could talk away. When it comes to dating, I'm clueless. I have no confidence with men and I always assume he will have a girlfriend already and isn't interested in me. I don't know what he'll say, but I get too scared and shy to say anything.

I'm assuming waist, elbows, knees, and neck fulfill this requirement?
There's really nothing creepy going on here at all, it's SOP for, well, dating. Or is it the "role reversal" part that you think is odd? If so, I've always been VERY flattered when the woman approached me, from the casual line (like yours above) to a convoluted plot to have dinner alone (a workmate who was a little on the shy side).

Go for it.

Oops lol I slacked on typo checks there
I guess it is the role reversal that seems odd to me. I've never asked a guy out or even started conversation. I wait until a guy talks to me or sit and hope he notices me.

[PepperElf]

Seriously, the BEST pickup line ever is simply... "Hi!"

You already have a class with him so you can introduce yourself and just try talking.



btw this sound sweet. ;-)

[Food Lady]

*thwaps Raps upside the head*

I keep giggling at this.

[Rapscallion]

*thwaps Raps upside the head*

Interesting reward for being right

Rapscallion

[dalesys]

*thwaps Raps upside the head*

You forgot the bunch of radishes.

[BookstoreEscapee]

Interesting reward for being right

Rapscallion

How many shades of grey, anyway?

[Rapscallion]

10. There was what I thought to be a 20% of offer, but since I was buying I didn't read it properly.

Rapscallion

[malmalthekiller]

If someone asks me about math or biology or literature or any of the useless things I know about, I could talk away. When it comes to dating, I'm clueless. I have no confidence with men and I always assume he will have a girlfriend already and isn't interested in me. I don't know what he'll say, but I get too scared and shy to say anything.

I understand your trepidation. I spent most of my life being scared of dating, and now I'm much more confident.

That doesn't make me fearless, though.

[Hyndis]

Men can be completely clueless, particularly us geeky types. Possibly some autism spectrum thing going on there with a lot of us.

Don't be afraid to drop the clue by four. By direct and don't try to play coy or drop subtle hints. If you play coy its quite possible he may never even know you're interested in him. Subtle hints are usually not noticed.

Also the whole idea that women can never make the "first move" is way outdated. If you see someone you like, introduce yourself. Be polite, say hello, and just open up with some chat at first, and then see how things go from there. This goes regardless of gender.

[wolfie]

Coffee is not creepy.

Invite back to basement dungeon of whips and chains is creepy. Between the two are shades of grey, but coffee is fine and harmless.

Rapscallion

I thought the shades of grey (all 50 of them) involved the dungeon, whips, and chains.

[dalesys]

... he explained the programming of the TI84 ...

Let me punch your buttons and we'll see what the result is... O-o-o-h! A hyperbolic!

[PhiSigGirl1988]

I thought the shades of grey (all 50 of them) involved the dungeon, whips, and chains.

Beat me to it.

[Rapscallion]

Beat me to it.

"With whips and chains!"

/Rocky

Back to the subject. Just asking him for a coffee date isn't a commitment to bear his children. It's a pretty solid indication that you like him, which is more than most blokes get (or notice). You may have to be a little more direct if he doesn't get it, because the average chap is pretty clueless when it comes to noticing interest.

Rapscallion