TTO (husband) and I are separating. This happened nearly a month ago...
He loves me, but not "in that way" - whatever that may mean. Apparently it's nothing I said or did, it just...happened. We're still working together, and so far so good, but how can I stop my personal feelings from getting in the way?
I did suggest couples counselling, he said no. I'm going for counselling myself because honestly, I did not see this coming and needed help quite desperately. Ten days before he told me he wants us to split up, he took me for a super romantic couples spa day for my birthday.
We still want to be friends - you don't spend over ten years living with and loving someone without becoming best friends. Any tips on how to maintain that?
We're not at the point of talking about divorce yet. I'm also not holding out any hope of a reconciliation, because when that doesn't happen, I'll end up going through this all over again.
I'm still heart broken. I have good days and bad days. I've started smoking again. This is not how I thought things would go
PS No, there's no-one else. I would know, I have access to everything since I work for him, and he's never been in the habit of lying to me.
He loves me, but not "in that way" - whatever that may mean. Apparently it's nothing I said or did, it just...happened. We're still working together, and so far so good, but how can I stop my personal feelings from getting in the way?
I did suggest couples counselling, he said no. I'm going for counselling myself because honestly, I did not see this coming and needed help quite desperately. Ten days before he told me he wants us to split up, he took me for a super romantic couples spa day for my birthday.
We still want to be friends - you don't spend over ten years living with and loving someone without becoming best friends. Any tips on how to maintain that?
We're not at the point of talking about divorce yet. I'm also not holding out any hope of a reconciliation, because when that doesn't happen, I'll end up going through this all over again.
I'm still heart broken. I have good days and bad days. I've started smoking again. This is not how I thought things would go
PS No, there's no-one else. I would know, I have access to everything since I work for him, and he's never been in the habit of lying to me.
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