Urgh, ok, difficult to explain. So, I have mental issues. ADD, Anxiety, Depression and Suicidal Tenancies. I'm working through them. I stopped posting for a while there because the last one on that list bit me in the ass again. I'm fine though.
In the past, I used to deal with compulsive lying and anger issues, and I pretty much have them under control now (Although try explaining to a coworker why getting really angry makes you burst into tears and become physically sick.) Go on, I'll wait.
Well, I recently discovered WHY a few of my issues exist. I uh, I thought I had a fairly normal home life as a kid...turns out, not so much.
Emotional abuse is a thing parents do sometimes. Didn't really know it applied to my folks until the Proff at my psych course started going over the effects of growing up in an emotionally abusive household on adult patients and realized every single point he went over applied to me. Talked to my partner hoping he'd laugh it all off with me, but he kinda got uncomfortable and pretty much went "uh, yeah. The things you've talked about as a kid are kinda messed up. That's not how families are supposed to work.
Now...I can't stop finding different messed up things my parents did. I see it all now and it's...sad. I've never really liked going home to see my Mum, but now I actually know why. Used to feel guilty about that, now, not so much. I like my Dad, but shit man, where were you when she was messing with my head? Why the hell did you never believe me?
Anyone else dealt with this sort of thing? How the hell do I work through this? Will I ever stop being pissed right the hell off?
In the past, I used to deal with compulsive lying and anger issues, and I pretty much have them under control now (Although try explaining to a coworker why getting really angry makes you burst into tears and become physically sick.) Go on, I'll wait.
Well, I recently discovered WHY a few of my issues exist. I uh, I thought I had a fairly normal home life as a kid...turns out, not so much.
Emotional abuse is a thing parents do sometimes. Didn't really know it applied to my folks until the Proff at my psych course started going over the effects of growing up in an emotionally abusive household on adult patients and realized every single point he went over applied to me. Talked to my partner hoping he'd laugh it all off with me, but he kinda got uncomfortable and pretty much went "uh, yeah. The things you've talked about as a kid are kinda messed up. That's not how families are supposed to work.
Now...I can't stop finding different messed up things my parents did. I see it all now and it's...sad. I've never really liked going home to see my Mum, but now I actually know why. Used to feel guilty about that, now, not so much. I like my Dad, but shit man, where were you when she was messing with my head? Why the hell did you never believe me?
Anyone else dealt with this sort of thing? How the hell do I work through this? Will I ever stop being pissed right the hell off?
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