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  • Dammit, why do some people always seem to ruin it for others????

    <rant mode ON>

    My hubby and I volunteer as cooks/servers/cleanup at a local church kitchen. Twice a month, we do either a big breakfast, or dinner for the community. Some of the food is donated by local supermarkets, and we request a small donation from those who partake to pay for the rest. It has been going on for a few years. Hubby's been volunteering there for 5 years, and I started helping as soon as I moved here in Nov.

    We've been having issues with some entitled young families coming in and loading up their plates but not donating a single penny - these are kids with brand-name sports jerseys, new running shoes, fancy cars, but apparenlty are "too poor" to put a dollar or 2 in the kitty (yet they always have cigs that they smoke as they leave.)

    2 weekends ago, we had an incident during one of the dinners - halfway through the meal, Tweaker Guy (TG) and his Baby Mama (BM) came in. They LOAD their plates up with food (no donation) and while BM starts scarfing her food down, TG goes over to the dessert table where there's an assortment of pies made by the ladies auxiliary. He takes three empty boxes from under the table, and puts WHOLE PIES in the boxes, then takes them back to their table.

    After they eat, he goes back to the buffet and takes three plates full of ham, chicken, and sausages back to their table, and BM then puts them into a ziploc bag.

    On the way out, they're stopped by the Pastor, who tells them that food is not to be taken out of the eating area. TG starts screaming at him, with BM egging him on, and he actually pulled his hand back like he was going to hit the Pastor. Cue no less than 5 guys jumping up from their chairs to come to the Pastor's aid. Hubby takes pies and plates out of TG's hands, and the rest of the guys escort them from the church, telling them they aren't welcome.

    Apparently something similar happened yesterday at breakfast (hubbs and I were in NY visiting his folks so we weren't there,) and the Church elders have decided to shut the kitchen down and stop doing any more dinners/breakfasts.

    I'm beyond angry - not only does it mean that quite few individuals who are homeless/low income no longer can come and get a good meal, we also would do boxed meals that one of the volunteers drove around to shut-ins and those too ill to come to the church. So now they don't get these meals either. Why is it always that some entitled SOB's have to ruin it for everyone else?
    The large print giveth, and the small print taketh away.

  • #2
    Because they're the most important people in the Universe and no one else matters but them, obviously.

    There are some people that the world would just be better off without.

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    • #3
      I'm sorry to hear that one lousy incident has ruined it for everyone. The last church I attended held dances for the young people -- then some older kids started coming by and starting fights in the parking lot and finally the cops told the church they couldn't keep coming out for this. (My cynical side reminds me that the nickname of said police force was the Not Real Police because of their widely renowned ineptitude and disinterest.) So the church stopped holding the dances.

      And I once volunteered at a similar type of meal and had Mr. Entitlement tell me he was going to take two desserts "so I don't have to come back to the [dessert] table." I told him he was going to do no such thing; he could take one dessert like everybody else until everybody else had had a chance to visit the dessert table. Not sure what the look on my face was like, but he put the second dessert down. His Significant Other/Baby Mama/Whatever gave me a poisonous glare for daring to thwart her little honeybunch. These were, as far as I could tell, two young, perfectly healthy people, so the milk of human kindness had in my case soured pretty quickly. Go find some paying work and buy your own food, you greedy leeches.

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      • #4
        Please please please call and talk to your local newspaper, see if they'll do a "community interest" article. Around here, the papers main columnist would kneel down and start doing the "im not worthy! I'm not worthy!" bit from waynes world if you gave him something this juicy to write about.

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        • #5
          I'd do a letter to the editor myself.

          One that makes it abundantly clear that the reason why the breakfasts and dinners aren't happening any more is because of greedy people who took all the food without giving a donation.
          Knowledge is power. Power corrupts. Study hard. Be evil.

          "I never said I wasn't a horrible person."--Me, almost daily

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          • #6
            Any chance the volunteers can still do the meals-for-shutins deal?

            I live next to an elderly lady who lives on her own, frail aged, and something like that would be a godsend for her. It hurts to think you'd have to stop it because of something like this.

            At least with that program, your volunteers can visually verify the level of need.
            Seshat's self-help guide:
            1. Would you rather be right, or get the result you want?
            2. If you're consistently getting results you don't want, change what you do.
            3. Deal with the situation you have now, however it occurred.
            4. Accept the consequences of your decisions.

            "All I want is a pretty girl, a decent meal, and the right to shoot lightning at fools." - Anders, Dragon Age.

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            • #7
              Yesterday I crossed a place off my list of those I normally donate too and I'm having mixed feelings about it. See I used to bring money as well as soy milk and rice milk to a place that every two weeks held a mid day meal. Yesterday I was called up and the person on the other end was demanding I bring in the milk. When I tried to explain how I didn't have the funds and couldn't for a time being...I got yelled at and I think she was really trying to throw the guilt down on me. Which was working only too well and after the call I spent the next half hour curled up in a ball.

              I did call the place back and asked to speak to the organizer who said they would take care of it. They also wanted to know if I wanted a plate made and dropped off but the guilt from before was still ragging and I said to just leave it there for those that needed it more.

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              • #8
                This is a damn shame. I agree, call the newspaper and see if they're willing to do a story about it. Or the local TV news. The church doesn't have to name the people involved, just explain what happened. Maybe the local cops might be willing to donate an hour or two a week as security so nobody can pull sh*t like that again, if the church is willing to have another go at it.

                Some people here pulled similar crap years ago. One of the food kitchen guys had to argue with this woman because she wanted to take more than one (donated) Thanksgiving turkey. He followed her to her car and discovered she already had SEVENTEEN turkeys in the car. He told her never to come back.
                When you start at zero, everything's progress.

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                • #9
                  Quoth "Aethian View Post
                  used to bring money as well as soy milk and rice milk to a place that every two weeks held a mid day meal. Yesterday I was called up and the person on the other end was demanding I bring in the milk. When I tried to explain how I didn't have the funds and couldn't for a time being...I got yelled at and I think she was really trying to throw the guilt down.
                  What a horrible person! Goddess bless you for what you have done. Too sad that she is so negative. Must be hard to live life as such an entitled b*tch.
                  You did nothing wrong. Don't let her fool you! Cookie?
                  "Hi, this is Silver. How may I lose my self respect in order to cater to your over- inflated ego today?" --- Silverrb

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                  • #10
                    Quoth Aethian View Post
                    I did call the place back and asked to speak to the organizer who said they would take care of it. They also wanted to know if I wanted a plate made and dropped off but the guilt from before was still ragging and I said to just leave it there for those that needed it more.
                    You have done fine, Aethian. You helped when you were able to; and that's all anyone has any right to ask for.
                    If you, in turn, now have need, you have every right to ask for assistance and to accept it if offered. Which it has been.
                    Seshat's self-help guide:
                    1. Would you rather be right, or get the result you want?
                    2. If you're consistently getting results you don't want, change what you do.
                    3. Deal with the situation you have now, however it occurred.
                    4. Accept the consequences of your decisions.

                    "All I want is a pretty girl, a decent meal, and the right to shoot lightning at fools." - Anders, Dragon Age.

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                    • #11
                      People should be forced to walk on Legos for eternity in their bare feet! It's not just the church either. There are plenty of places where some idiot has to ruin it for everyone.

                      Aethian do not feel guilty about not donating. It has gone from 'helping' to 'demand'. No one can demand you do anything. You did the right thing.
                      ''Sugar cane and coffee cups, copper, steel, and cattle. An annotated history the forest for the fire. Where we propagate confusion primitive and wild. Welcome to the occupation''

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