Hey all - I am mostly a lurker although I do make an occasional post. I have been scouring the internet for assistance and asked a few friends for their input - but I would really REALLY appreciate any advice/input etc you could give me on a matter.
I will give you the short story - for those who don't want to even attempt my insane rant about crazy boy. Basically - do I need to have a legal reason to get rid of this tenant from hell? He's not on any bills or on the lease for the house. The main problem is we never signed anything agreeing to the terms of his tenancy. He's becoming a nightmare and I want him out. It's actually reaching a point where it is putting a strain on my marriage. He's also 19. And a pain in my backside.
Now - the long drawn out details:
This is LONG REALLY LONG - but it explains the progress in behavior etc over a year.
Last year was a bit rough on the pocket book. We moved to a bigger house (still renting but bigger than our tiny apartment) I was offered the opportunity of a lifetime but it meant a paycut. Thankfully hubby was supportive and said go for it. Of course, then hubby got downsized. Brill.
So anyway - we took in a lodger. He's a friend of a friend's grandson. He was coming into the big city for college and his parents didn't like the idea of him living downtown by himself at 18, and didnt' think it was safe. So this friend suggested our house. We needed the money and we met with the kid and his family and everything seemed pretty good so we said "Sure! Stay for the school year"
*mistake 1 - we didn't get anything in writing...*
Flash forward a few months. He's now holding band practices in our basement/his room. This is a massive distraction for me as I work from home. We deal.
Then he starts off asking if his friend (that is standing right behind him) can stay for supper. This is 6 pm - supper is nearly ready. Sure fine.
The next week another friend shows up at supper time and now lodger is TELLING us - "x is staying for supper" umm... no. But too late. They manage to serve themselves before I am out of the upstairs office.
This becomes a regular occurrence. To the point where lodger leaves the house at 5:55 to pick up his friend from the bus stop to bring him in for dinner. We say no- but at the same time, if I am working in my office (phone calls come in etc) I can't keep an eye on kitchen and see that they DON'T serve up the food.
The kicker was the night I went without because boy's friend took my dinner then had the AUDACITY to complain about the side dish. "I don't really like cooked carrots"
Part of his rent pays for groceries - but it doesn't pay to feed all the other 18 year old kids from his college.
He now complains to his parents that we don't provide food for him. We do- but we don't provide stuff that's "instant" (tv dinners, frozen pizza etc) nor do we keep biscuits, popcorn, chips, pop etc. there's plenty of meat, cheese, veggies, fruit, pasta etc. Nowhere did it say we are to provide junk for this kid and his friends.
He also doesn't keep up his end in the housework department. Always quick to eat the food but disappears when it is time to wash up ("oh I can't I have to skype with my family") We won't touch the mainfloor bathroom because that is his responsibility and I doubt it has been cleaned since Christmas (when I cleaned it before hosting Christmas dinner for the family)
If I ask him to wash the dishes he will tell me" You're home all day, you do them" I WORK all day. My office just happens to be at home.
We never know when he will be home anymore. He was gone for 3 weeks and then just showed up Sunday night.
Hubby doesn't have a problem with him. But that's because the kid sometimes listens to him. me, he just dismisses. That and the fact that hubby is never home so he doesn't see or hear the behavior.
I have been on the phone with clients in my office on the 3rd floor and they have asked me if my cell phone was ringing or if the radio was on because kid and his friend are playing music in the basement. It is THAT loud.
Hubby and I have been fighting about it as well. I actually went and stayed with my parents for 2 weeks this summer because I was so unhappy in the house. When I told hubby I wanted the kid out, he basically said if kid goes, he may as well go as well, since he would rather live downtown and closer to his new work rather than an hour away via subway and bus. Even though he knows I hate the downtown and that's why we agreed to this house... ugh.
Anyway - if you read this far. Bless you. I tried editing it several times - it was SO MUCH longer! This kid just really gets to me.
I just wonder if there is a way to get rid of him. I mean, a legal and nice way to get rid of him without worrying about retribution or legal action etc.
Plus I needed to get this off my chest.
I will give you the short story - for those who don't want to even attempt my insane rant about crazy boy. Basically - do I need to have a legal reason to get rid of this tenant from hell? He's not on any bills or on the lease for the house. The main problem is we never signed anything agreeing to the terms of his tenancy. He's becoming a nightmare and I want him out. It's actually reaching a point where it is putting a strain on my marriage. He's also 19. And a pain in my backside.
Now - the long drawn out details:
This is LONG REALLY LONG - but it explains the progress in behavior etc over a year.
Last year was a bit rough on the pocket book. We moved to a bigger house (still renting but bigger than our tiny apartment) I was offered the opportunity of a lifetime but it meant a paycut. Thankfully hubby was supportive and said go for it. Of course, then hubby got downsized. Brill.
So anyway - we took in a lodger. He's a friend of a friend's grandson. He was coming into the big city for college and his parents didn't like the idea of him living downtown by himself at 18, and didnt' think it was safe. So this friend suggested our house. We needed the money and we met with the kid and his family and everything seemed pretty good so we said "Sure! Stay for the school year"
*mistake 1 - we didn't get anything in writing...*
Flash forward a few months. He's now holding band practices in our basement/his room. This is a massive distraction for me as I work from home. We deal.
Then he starts off asking if his friend (that is standing right behind him) can stay for supper. This is 6 pm - supper is nearly ready. Sure fine.
The next week another friend shows up at supper time and now lodger is TELLING us - "x is staying for supper" umm... no. But too late. They manage to serve themselves before I am out of the upstairs office.
This becomes a regular occurrence. To the point where lodger leaves the house at 5:55 to pick up his friend from the bus stop to bring him in for dinner. We say no- but at the same time, if I am working in my office (phone calls come in etc) I can't keep an eye on kitchen and see that they DON'T serve up the food.
The kicker was the night I went without because boy's friend took my dinner then had the AUDACITY to complain about the side dish. "I don't really like cooked carrots"
Part of his rent pays for groceries - but it doesn't pay to feed all the other 18 year old kids from his college.
He now complains to his parents that we don't provide food for him. We do- but we don't provide stuff that's "instant" (tv dinners, frozen pizza etc) nor do we keep biscuits, popcorn, chips, pop etc. there's plenty of meat, cheese, veggies, fruit, pasta etc. Nowhere did it say we are to provide junk for this kid and his friends.
He also doesn't keep up his end in the housework department. Always quick to eat the food but disappears when it is time to wash up ("oh I can't I have to skype with my family") We won't touch the mainfloor bathroom because that is his responsibility and I doubt it has been cleaned since Christmas (when I cleaned it before hosting Christmas dinner for the family)
If I ask him to wash the dishes he will tell me" You're home all day, you do them" I WORK all day. My office just happens to be at home.
We never know when he will be home anymore. He was gone for 3 weeks and then just showed up Sunday night.
Hubby doesn't have a problem with him. But that's because the kid sometimes listens to him. me, he just dismisses. That and the fact that hubby is never home so he doesn't see or hear the behavior.
I have been on the phone with clients in my office on the 3rd floor and they have asked me if my cell phone was ringing or if the radio was on because kid and his friend are playing music in the basement. It is THAT loud.
Hubby and I have been fighting about it as well. I actually went and stayed with my parents for 2 weeks this summer because I was so unhappy in the house. When I told hubby I wanted the kid out, he basically said if kid goes, he may as well go as well, since he would rather live downtown and closer to his new work rather than an hour away via subway and bus. Even though he knows I hate the downtown and that's why we agreed to this house... ugh.
Anyway - if you read this far. Bless you. I tried editing it several times - it was SO MUCH longer! This kid just really gets to me.
I just wonder if there is a way to get rid of him. I mean, a legal and nice way to get rid of him without worrying about retribution or legal action etc.
Plus I needed to get this off my chest.
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