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This is for those of us who love our families but are tired of having our views/modes of living/feelings criticized. When you go determined not to get into it over controversial topics and be the positive one and it all falls apart...
The thing this year was my dad lecturing me because of how other relatives are going from job to job and I might, too. One has a degree that's pretty much useless and the other is 21 so he's figuring things out still. I just quit a job of 13 years and sometimes think of quitting the one I've had a year (after following good friends' advice to hang in there for 12 months which I did.)
Nevermind I've gotten out of retail (the 13-year job) and into a job with much better pay and benefits. That's not good enough because at times I hate it, just like every job I've ever had, which is apparently because I didn't finish college. Because a degree I spent thousands on will automatically make me like working outside the home and I won't hate my job 8 months in like I do every single one of them. It's great if someone has a job she likes or goes to school for one, but my take is this: a job is a tool I use to fund what I really want to do which is stuff outside of work. It's not the source of my self-worth nor fulfillment. It's simply a means to an end. I explained that and apparently that makes me strange to my stepmom. My dad started yelling at me that it's my mom's fault for being a homemaker (which is work, dude--not to mention she ran her own business while doing so). In fact, he blames everyone else for the things I have said time and again are my fault and that I'm taking responsibility for. Why can't he just let me do that?
I actually told my parents that I've discovered they are not the ones to be real with; they can't handle it. I think that hurt their feelings but it's true. I wish I hadn't said it.
I don't know what I'm going to do next year. I drove over 100 miles for this.
The thing this year was my dad lecturing me because of how other relatives are going from job to job and I might, too. One has a degree that's pretty much useless and the other is 21 so he's figuring things out still. I just quit a job of 13 years and sometimes think of quitting the one I've had a year (after following good friends' advice to hang in there for 12 months which I did.)
Nevermind I've gotten out of retail (the 13-year job) and into a job with much better pay and benefits. That's not good enough because at times I hate it, just like every job I've ever had, which is apparently because I didn't finish college. Because a degree I spent thousands on will automatically make me like working outside the home and I won't hate my job 8 months in like I do every single one of them. It's great if someone has a job she likes or goes to school for one, but my take is this: a job is a tool I use to fund what I really want to do which is stuff outside of work. It's not the source of my self-worth nor fulfillment. It's simply a means to an end. I explained that and apparently that makes me strange to my stepmom. My dad started yelling at me that it's my mom's fault for being a homemaker (which is work, dude--not to mention she ran her own business while doing so). In fact, he blames everyone else for the things I have said time and again are my fault and that I'm taking responsibility for. Why can't he just let me do that?
I actually told my parents that I've discovered they are not the ones to be real with; they can't handle it. I think that hurt their feelings but it's true. I wish I hadn't said it.
I don't know what I'm going to do next year. I drove over 100 miles for this.
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